Do you worry what will happen to all your belongings when you die?

No hoarder here....but OH is and refuses to declutter his "priceless" collection of railway labels [which is still being added to], railway books, {we have three huge bookcases full of the latter} et al, and this after we have only just relocated from France! So yes, wondering what to do with all of the above having heard "don't you dare give it all away - it's priceless - loads of collectors' items there"! Well, possibly but how shall I go about disposing all of this rubbish {don't use that word, it really makes him upset}!!!

No my DSs have told me- it's all going in a skip!

Last time I tried to get rid of something there was an uproar because it was something one of the children would have taken because it was of deep sentimental value to both children.

I have suggested that once we die they take what they want and then get in house clearers, I was informed very firmly that clearing the house is part of the mourning process, of gradually dismanting the life of someone dear and building the life that will follow.

So I am doing nothing. To be fair, I am a non-clutterer and have a lot of empty cupboards and drawers - but it is a big house.

Before I take things to the charity shop I see if the people with little money and children can use any of the things. Surprising what they use them for. E.g. small chest of drawers surplus to requirements.

Framilode my parents died within 19 days of each other and my mother kept little throughout her life. I have paperwork everywhere, they had a small pile in a half empty drawer. She would be shocked if she saw my house because I am the exact opposite. I mean to declutter but I never quite get around to it.

Not at all - my DC can get someone in to clear the house for all I care about my possessions.

My daughters sometimes say, jokingly I hope, I'm putting my sticker on that! I will then say If you take that you have to take this too!

I did a few years ago chuck out all our old letters from when we were at College etc., even I thought they were too cringy for words when I reread them, I'd hate my children or grandchildren to read them!

We are attempting to clear the loft! A lifetime of ‘treasures’, our’s and stuff inherited from family. We also discovered two old cast iron water tanks which I am sure shouldn’t be there but how on earth do you get rid of them, wish we hadn’t started!

I don't worry what will happen to them more about my lack of tidiness. When my mother died all her drawers and cupboards were in apple pie order. I'm afraid I am the opposite, no matter how much I tidy everything is back in the same old mess in a few weeks.

Another thing I remember is that after she died and I went to see her in the funeral parlour her hands were beautifully manicured and her nails painted. I still bite my nails and will never achieve the level of elegance she had.

I imagine most of my stuff will be for the skip.

I'm consciously not acquiring more 'stuff' for my family to dispose of. I have asked my daughters if there is anything they want and they can have it now, to keep or sell whatever is best for them. The rest of it is not really important. It's quite sad to see a person's life reduced to a few belonging. On a lighter note there are all the memories and fun items which mean the world to us but not to anyone else.

Oh yes, but I don't worry.
I just say to DH "I hope that won't go into the skip".
And he replies "well, you'll never know, will you!"

We try to keep 'junk' to a reasonable level but still find there's lots we can't seem to get rid of. No doubt relatives will either bin it or take it to a charity shop when we're gone. They will not have the same attachment to our things, after all.

I remember doing the same with my parents' things when they died. It's just how it is.