Presents

I would phone and ask.

It is increasingly common for families to restrict presents to children only, or to a very small circle.

It would perhaps have been nicer if your brother had discussed it with you rather than just telling you what he had decided, but please try not to be miffed.

It is difficult to find anything worth giving that isn't expensive and to be honest, do you want something that is just a token present?

I personally don't, but we are all different after all.

My SIL did the same two years ago, only wish she’d said before I’d bought the present but was able to take it back for a refund. I felt more sad than miffed as we only exchanged consumables and as we are a small family I didn’t see it made a lot of difference. But agreed to her decision.

What a sensible fellow.
I agree with other posters.
Assume he means birthday as well as Christmas and just send a card.
A friend does what I think is a great idea.
She pops a £1 lottery? lucky dip ticket in with a card.

Could you phone and ask him? I'm sure he won't mind.

I think many people have cut back on Xmas presents and restricted it to their own children, grandchildren, etc., as there are so many to buy all at once.

I would continue to buy birthday presents until your brother indicates otherwise.

I agree with Sark, but if you are 'crafty' how about a small hand made gift. If you paint, paint the card, if you sew make a phone case etc etc. The idea is that it is something small, but allows you to show your love without pressure.

I agree with Sark, but if you are 'crafty' how about a small hand made gift. If you paint, paint the card, if you sew make a phone case etc etc. The idea is that it is something small, but allows you to show your love without pressure.

Hi Nansypansy
Please don't be miffed. My brother sent a similar text a couple of years ago and we agreed to stop buying Christmas presents. I then realised they were having money troubles and I was very happy that I had stopped adding to their stress.
How about a nice birthday card and a happy chatty phone call on the day?