Do we need a Nice Nansnet?

Urmstangran started not long ago what turned out to be a very busy thread, suggesting we say nice things about the previous poster. It very quickly got tangled up, and then a few posters took sly pops at other posters.
Good idea Scentia but the 'being nice' thing can't work in a public forum.

soops kitchen is a nice place you may be looking forScentia ps that was one of my mother’s saying along with “see all, hear all and say sod all”

I'm all for keeping it real. There's no need for nasty personal attacks but I don't want an artificial 'nicey, nicey' site where all perspective on reality is lost.

Sometimes, people on here are supported and sympathised with when I think they're just being silly, over emotional, selfish or unrealistic.

Life isn't all 'niceness' and happy stories. It just isn't. Life can be very harsh and demanding and any forum is going to reflect the many facets of personal life, family life and what's going on in the world. Anything else just isn't real.

I agree there's no need for people to be abusive, but do as GG13 says and stop reading when the tone alters to one you don't like. Take from GN what you enjoy and ignore the rest. I do.

A few years ago there was a site called GrannyNet. I had a look at it but beat a hasty retreat as it was far too twee. Newbies were shunted off into a kind of, 'Let's see what you're like' thread and you were given something akin to a gold star if you behaved yourself.

Not long after that I noticed it died a death - closed through lack of interest.

If people are nice, they're nice. If they're not they are best avoided. Just like in real life. Personal attacks on Gransnet can be dealt with by reporting them to HQ.

Simples!

Yes you are right BlueSky there has been a lot of support on here for people who are going through difficult times. It's not necessary to get involved with threads which turn unpleasant.
Why would we need a site that is totally bland and 'nice'

Quite right we shall rise about it and continue to be kind and supportive - that's what I thought Gransnet was all about. As we have said before nothing wrong with a good vigorous debate but it shouldn't become personal.

I think we all had replies to some posts that were less than polite to say the least. But on the other hand I'm sure we all had plenty of kind, supportive replies which is what we need when we come on here. So we won't let the negative comments of some people upset us and carry on regardless.

Scentia I just avoid threads the minute they turn nasty, there does seem to be a plethora of them at the moment.

Marydoll

Scentia, I do agree with your point about GN not being a nice place just now. However, sorry to sound so negative, but there will always be people who find it difficult to be kind to posters, try to pick on the vulnerable and sad and target those who do not share their views, that's just human nature. . Establishing a new site won't make any difference, in my opinion.

In saying that, there are many kind and gentle people on GN, so we shouldn't think it's all nasty and negative, as I learned yesterday. Thanks to all you kind people who supported me.