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No contact with grandchildren - had a positive thought that cheered me up a bit

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Witzend Sun 22-Mar-20 08:31:35

Two of ours are still very little, and the youngest is still a small baby, so won’t remember us anyway, but was sad at the thought of the 2 elder forgetting us - or not feeling so close to us - even a few months is a long time when you’re so little.

Then I remembered that we lived abroad for many years when dds were small, and that unless grandparents came to visit in winter, as both sets did once or twice, dds wouldn’t see their GPs from one summer to the next. And we had no internet or WhatsApp then, and until our last few months, not even a phone in the house.

In spite of that, dds were always so excited to see GPs waiting to meet us at Heathrow every summer, and loved spending time with both sets.
So I’m trying not to get too sad about it. The eventual cuddles will be all the better for waiting.

SalsaQueen Sun 22-Mar-20 08:37:47

My Granny (my Mum's Mum) lived in London, and when I was a child, we couldn't afford to go and visit very often (parents and 4 of us children), so we loved it all the more when we went - probably every couple of months - we didn't have a 'phone, and obviously there were no mobile ones or computers then. Our times with my Granny were really special, and we looked forward to them so much.

kircubbin2000 Sun 22-Mar-20 08:40:48

I am sending a few seeds,sunflower etc to the 5 year old as the family are isolating.

M0nica Sun 22-Mar-20 08:50:12

My father was in the army and we had several three year postings overseas when we did not see our grandparents for that long. But nothing, absolutely nothing, ever dinted my deep love for my maternal grandmother. When we returned home to to see her again, it was as if there had been no absence.

We are setting up regular skype meetings that will include our daughter, who lives alone and is working from home.

Grammaretto Sun 22-Mar-20 08:58:14

That is a lovely idea kirkcubbin I may copy it. DGDs are both having birthdays soon which will be virtual parties.
Any other suggestions for a 10 and 5 yr old welcomed. That's if the post is still working.

I didn't have DGP. Our DC had, and still have, one set who won't see them until all this is over.. My DM died 12 yrs ago and I think of her often.

Greyduster Sun 22-Mar-20 09:03:25

Like Monica, service life kept our children away from their grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins, but it didn’t lessen the joy of getting together with them all each time we came home from our travels. No break instep ever occurred. We bolstered the absences with lots of exchanges photos. I feel very lucky to have the ability to have online chats with My only grandchild, help with his homework if he needs an ancient book learned take on things, and just reassure him that Nanny is sure all will be well eventually.

SueDonim Sun 22-Mar-20 12:31:24

Even quite small children will remember you! One of my most-heartwarming moments with my eldest GS came when he was about 4y old.

The family lived in California and we hadn’t seen them for a year. We make our long trip to LA and reached their house. As we walked in, he looked up from his Lego and said ‘Hello, Gran, Grandpa, I’m building a house,’ and went back to what he was doing.

It was a sign that although we hadn’t seen him physically for so long, he was totally comfortable in our presence and it was as though he’d last seen us just yesterday. ❤️❤️❤️

Canalboatgranma Sun 22-Mar-20 12:41:58

I am sending my DGD some photos of us in a hand made card.

Knittynatter Sun 22-Mar-20 13:08:44

Thank you for this. I have four grandchildren under 6 (2 families) less than 5 minutes walk away and one down country. We are all isolating as much as possible. I am in tears at the thought of loosing touch but this has bought it into perspective xx