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I've become my Mother!

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TerriBull Fri 27-Mar-20 11:58:43

I don't know about I've become my mother, oh well I have sometimes, but one of my sons has definitely become me, and the me when he was late teens early 20s and going to raves, came home a couple of times looking slightly swivel eyed. Me "what have you been taking?" Now he phones us both daily to ask how we are, what we've been up to etc. etc. , not a lot of course! all jokey, light hearted until he builds up the crucial "have you been to the shops" more strangled voice "how far away were you from other people? you know we'd always drive down and drop anything off on the doorstep if we had to" and the inevitable "I love you mum/dad please make sure you're sensible!" who'd have thought it ten years or so ago such a role reversal would be coming down the line grin

Oldwoman70 Fri 27-Mar-20 11:56:17

Oh paddyanne I had one of those! His sister was visiting one day when he arrived home, she couldn't believe the trail he left between the front door, sitting room and kitchen! I now think as long as the place is clean a bit of clutter doesn't really matter!

paddyanne Fri 27-Mar-20 11:47:47

I always followed my mothers routine re bedding etc .It was the only thing that I did the same as she did,she was obsessively houseproud.It was passed on to 2 of my sisters ,the pot of white paint for touching up marks they cant wipe off ,not leaving any newspapers or magazines on a table ,they managed to pass me by.My life hasn't been worse for having the lived in look ,its clean just a bit untidy and I dont yell at my OH when he leaves a trail of things all the way from the front door through the house .Mum would have gone ballistic

M0nica Fri 27-Mar-20 10:49:36

Clean Monday morning and that is that for the week. Far too many far more interesting things to do.

CherryCezzy Thu 26-Mar-20 22:41:05

EllenVannin many people don't even bother with that anymore.
Years ago where I was growing up if you 'broke the code' by doing the washing on the 'wrong day' there'd be neighbourhood gossip. Weird to think of that happening now.
I don't have set days for everyday household tasks and when the 'code' started to slowly disappear my mother broke it too shock. I do, like my mother though, like to keep my home clean, tidy and respectable as my mother would say. If me and my WP have to live in it we don't want it to be a dirty pigsty. We share & share alike the jobs around our home and relax and enjoy it. In that way I am definitely like my mum but it isn't a new thing.

fatgran57 Thu 26-Mar-20 21:08:10

I know the feeling as well. Several times I have caught my reflection in a mirror or shop window and think "there's mum!" only to remember she has been gone for 10 years.

I hate housework - don't mind washing, washing up, cooking, re-arranging things a bit, change beds once a week on Fridays, towels Mondays, other clothes when there's enough to do a load, certainly don't look for things to do.

One of my daughters comes over to do cleaning used to be once a week but not at the moment - I paid her the going rate. she likes doing housework (strange girl!) so that worked out nicely for us both.

EllanVannin Thu 26-Mar-20 13:29:11

Yes, I stopped donkey-stoning the step years ago when it began to hurt my knees when kneeling.
Mop and Dettol suffice these days.

Smileless2012 Thu 26-Mar-20 13:29:07

I've always been like my gran and my mum with particular things done on particular days. I do love a routinesmile.

Laughterlines Thu 26-Mar-20 13:23:35

I know that feeling. Whenever I look in the mirror I say
What’s my mother doing here.

Take my advice, don’t do housework, it only needs doing again next year.

Oopsadaisy3 Thu 26-Mar-20 13:17:58

I once worked with a youngish lady who got up every morning at 6.30 stripped the bed and remade it before turning up to work by 8am ( we started at 9 ) her long suffering husband had to be woken up and virtually thrown out of the bed .
No children, but really! Clean sheets every day?

Oldwoman70 Thu 26-Mar-20 13:16:39

Me too Calendargirl - I can always find something more interesting than housework to do!

Calendargirl Thu 26-Mar-20 13:11:22

Goodness SalsaQueen you put me to shame!
Only two of us, usually do about three loads of washing a week, certainly not enough to do daily, but depends how many of you there are.
Beds changed once a week, quite sufficient as we are showered before bed. Personally think twice a week bed change is a bit overkill, but each to his own.

SalsaQueen Thu 26-Mar-20 12:47:19

No, I clean the kitchen and bathroom EVERY day. The vacuuming downstairs is also done every day. Washing is done every day. Beds are changed twice a week. Everywhere else is cleaned fortnightly.

I'm 60, work part-time.

Feelingmyage55 Thu 26-Mar-20 12:38:47

I turned into my mother ages ago. Sorry no help. Oh a thought could you clean around watching box sets. Clean for half an hour. Watch three programmes. ?

Oldwoman70 Thu 26-Mar-20 12:34:14

My Mother had set days to do cleaning, Monday - washing, Tuesday - ironing etc. When I was working I wasn't able to do that so everything was done at weekends.

Since retiring housework has had to be done around meeting friends etc. Now I am on lockdown I have found myself allocating certain cleaning to certain days - today it was bedrooms, hall and stairs. Am I the only one?