@Quizzer - when all this Corona crisis has subsided I'm sure you'll be back to filling your days, volunteering, talking to people on the committees you sit on etc. Your 3 kids and grandchildren call you several times a week, so even though 'friends' may not be checking on your welfare at least you are having regular contact with other people which is more than some have at the moment. I'm a bit concerned that your key worker child calls while driving - not very responsible and should be discouraged. You articulate your feelings well, sum up your present and previous circumstances and thoughts on various relationships, so I would wager 2 things: The first is that other people may view you as very capable and together and therefore presume you are OK and not needing checking up on, and the second is that if not in lockdown you have made plenty of acquaintances but not clicked enough with someone to form the type of friendships where you do welfare phone checks on each other. Plus you mention a husband and, unsociable or not, others may see you are not alone and focus their efforts on those more in need, alone, struggling with more than feeling friendless. Many are now jobless, money-less, without home helps or other things they previously relied on, some were already grieving and others are recently bereaved having had loved ones die of Coronavirus-related illnesses. For the time being as, like all of us, there's little that can be done that involves leaving the house for no good reason, keep in touch with Gransnet 'friends' (the forum is generally supportive) and make plans to put yourself in situations like the voluntary work for friend-making opportunities. For the record, I have very few friends and nobody has phoned me either and though there maybe be things I'd like to have in an ideal world I recognise I have more than many, am not going without much, have a better half who is coping by wearing headphones all day and sitting reading and smoking in another room and I have avoided catching Coronavirus so far (I'm highly vulnerable). Depression, loneliness, fear, anxiety etc are becoming part of daily life for many so please don't fret too much about any of these feelings during lockdown. I would say you have many good traits and qualities others look for in potential friends so you will make some eventually. Easy to say, but try to balance any negative or sensitive feelings with something more positive, make the most of the calls you do get etc. I hope you feel better before too much longer.
