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Anyone Else Feeling Let Down During Lockdown

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NanaTuesday Sun 17-May-20 20:19:59

I know it's a scary world out there right now I'm usually an upbeat person but this last two weeks I've had some really bad times , feeling very low . Obviously this is to be expected & I've picked myself up with the help of Family DH DD' & GC .
However 2 instances are bothering me .
I messaged my Manager just a general thing , " Hi how are you , any updates on return to work "
We work for a Charity in a Retail Shop & are currently Furloughed . I know that other Managers have kept in contact with the Staff ( I am the only other paid Employee in our Shop . She hasn't been in touch - at all & her attitude seems to be that as we are Furloughed we aren't allowed to be in Contact or Speak about work . I then asked if our Area Manager had been in touch again a negative response only it became quite sarcastic in as much as she said " For all I know He may not even be working for the Company any more " This was after she had ranted about him having a baby on the way & not being able to contact us for fear of losing his job . (?)
Melodrama at its best.
Anyway I decided that I best not respond & maybe she like me is having a bad time of it . I'll try & telephone her at a later date. I know that my old Manager has done this with my former Colleagues in another branch of our Charity, ie calling to say hello how are you . It's not unreasonable is it ? I've also kept in touch with our Volunteers. I'
So Secondly, A friend of longstanding seems to be knocking me back . We are only on contact nowadays when I contact her & tbh I went off the boil with her when my DH had a breakdown 3 years ago & she didnt give me any support . It's not been mentioned by her either then or now . So it's been a slow process no rebuilding of bridges but a distinct lack of contact. I am outgoing, travel a lot on our highways & byways to visit , attend Concerts & Family & Friends Weddings etc .She on the other hand never really venture out of the area & will never even drive her self here a meter 2 miles away .
I digress , our contact is now limited to FB messenger - I do call her from time to time.
Today I messaged & said as we can now have a Social Distanced meeting maybe I could come over for a door step chat .
I also said that I was diennin the dumps . Both of these were ignored in her reply yet she then asked What I had been doing with my L"ockdown Time " As if it was some type of holiday !
Just to make sure she understood how I felt I reiterated it . She came back with a " Pep Talk "
I'm on here ranting now to stop myself from saying things I'd regret in the morning .

NanaTuesday Sun 17-May-20 20:24:45

I forgot to say one of my DD's is an NHS Nurse with 3 Dsughters 13,9,7 . Her OH is having to Sheild . He is currently at his Mums since 45 Miles from my DD !
Prior to this he was Self Isolating at an Airbnb.
He has now been put in the High at Risk Register as he has no Spleen. So the future is bleak for him when it comes to going home & hard for my DD as you can imagine.

BradfordLass73 Mon 18-May-20 09:12:44

I hope you feel better now you've got that off your chest! smile

Everyone is strung out at the moment, you know that but it seems you've borne the brunt of two people at the end of their tethere, perhaps because you're upbeat and they resent that?

Whatever, you just have to pass on, let this little rant be your safety valve, stay away from both these irritating and irritated persons, you don't need them.

Concentrate on the good people in your life and now things are easing a little in the UK, maybe you can see your daughter and comfort her?
It must be heartbreaking for you all, especially the children.

I don't know how far apart you are from them but do you Skype or Facechat? Can you write them regular letters, including some jokes to cheer them?

It's vital to keep communication open and this support will help your DD as well.

I hope by the time you read this, you're feeling better. flowers Life moves on my dear - there's a LOT of happiness ahead for you.