Wedding present lists, where the giver is treated like a mail order catalogue. I expect I’m going to be alone in this, but if you don’t want a present from someone which isn’t what you would have chosen yourself, which reminds you of them, you shouldn’t expect a present from them at all. If it’s about helping a young couple to set up home, we should be honest about it and give money as they do in some other cultures: otherwise - shock horror - it is possible to set up house without everything matching. When I got married nearly fifty years ago we didn’t have the money to equip our home without help and we did have a wish list - but to actually choose the items I think is an insult to the people giving. I was married nearly fifty years ago, and I still have some of the things we were given, and - this is the important bit - I could tell you who gave us each one. How many other readers can do that?