Would you or have you gone on holiday with your in-laws

Never in a million years. FiL was a sulker and everyone had to do what he wanted.

MiL would have been fine on her own but she used to dance to his tune which made him worse.

We went on holiday with my parents, so my OH's in-laws, when we were in our mid twenties. They rented a cottage in the Lake District for 2 weeks and asked us along for a week. Each couple did their own thing during the day and we met in the evening for supper. We went to local pubs several times and they always paid which was nice for us as neither of us were earning very much.

I think both couples enjoyed the week we had together.

It was bad enough staying at their cottage for a long weekend. They wanted and did go to bed before 9 pm and could not understand why we wanted to watch TV which in the end we switched off because it kept them awake. Breakfast was at 8 am, lunch 12 midday, supper at 6 pm. I could not live like that.

No thank God! my late father in law was a xenophobe and a golf fanatic both bad enough on their own, let alone together. He'd only ever been outside of England to go golfing in Ireland and Scotland always coming out with rubbish like "why would I want to go abroad when everything is better here" Everyone in the family argued with him about his rigid views, which seemed to make him dig his heels in more. My late mother in law was quite different and had travelled extensively without him, all over Europe, States and Australia, in retrospect she'd have probably been okay. At the end of his life he said to my husband "I've been rather foolish, I should have gone to more places with your mother"

My late parents also did quite a bit of travelling once they'd offloaded us, again all over Europe and the States, I can't say I would have wanted to go with them either my absolute cut off point for family holidays with my family came when I was 16 or so after we'd been to Scotland and spent the entire time in the car driving from one place to another, no stone was left unturned every historical site was visited, trudged round, photographed, endless, history lessons delivered ad nauseam, that was my father. I would have appreciated much of that 40 years down the line, but at that stage of my life I just wanted to sit on a beach slathered in Ambre Solaire Anyway the following year I managed to achieve such an ambition when with four friends we went to Benidorm having persuaded the hapless parents of one of our friends to accompany us. It was far back enough in the mists of time before Benidorm had descended into hell. We were relatively well behaved none of us drank, although we still managed to drive the poor parents up the wall, by sneaking out of the hotel night after night to meet up with some Dutch and French boys, It was so exciting The friend's parents came back muttering "never again"

We took FIL with us on holiday when MIL died and it was his first summer on his own - it was a truly ghastly experience - he wanted to be in charge every minute of the day.

We went once with my widowed mother, our children were 10 and six.
Never ever again, she wanted her own way constantly, if we crossed her she would have heart problems, which no-one knew about, and she made our children’s life a misery.
We went several times with our D and SiL and their children, it was absolutely fine.
Sadly their marriage broke up but we always got on fine, pity they didn’t.

Yes, I did. No problem.

We often holiday wit our DDs and their families. We enjoy it and as they often ask us, I assume they do too.
We used to holiday with my parents but they are both gone now.
Never went with my Parents in law. Got on ok but never though a holiday would work.
Just MIL left now and DH and I have taken her away but can’t say we particularly enjoy it.

I did once and that was enough. My MIL was the loveliest person who adored her only son and quite honestly, he could have murdered the Queen without her disapproving because he could do absolutely no wrong whatsoever. We have always teased each other and some of the banter can be quite pointed but we love each other to bits. However, she couldn't take my comments (his were hysterically funny when directed at me) and would get cross with me even when my husband pointed out that it was just banter. Within 5 minutes in the car, I was in trouble. I could accept that but I was completely incensed when she kept picking on my son because he sucked his thumb or touched the windows. By the end of the week I could have cheerfully killed her but it did make me understand how my husband would keep on at my son for things I thought were trivial.

We holidayed with Boston sets of parents. We didn’t live near my DHs parents so it was a way for them to spawns time with our baby. Now I go on holiday with that baby and we travel (used to) all over the world

I did and it was a disaster. They moaned and complained so much we felt too embarrassed to go back to the place which we had enjoyed so much before.

Yes and we holidayed with my parents. We holiday with AC and GC, and with friends and our AC and GC.

Have fabulous memories.

I think the generations except maybe when grandchildren are very small are better doing their own thing. I did go with mine, but didn’t enjoy it half as much as when were were on our own, Lots of people don’t like just being with their partners and always have either family or friends with them, I suppose it’s each time their own. We just liked being together as we both worked full time .

No.

I did - once. My FiL had the beginnings of dementia and I went with my ex to help out, so they could have a holiday. It was a nightmare MiL was the problem, not the dementia sufferer. She had to be the centre of attention ALL the time or she created scenes. NEVER again.

I had lovely holidays with my ex husbands family.
................................................ my now OHs mother.
I have wonderful holidays with my daughter, Son in law and grand children.
Lovely times and memories.

God no, not in a million years.

My in-laws were heavy smokers - both smoked over 80 a day and they wouldn't even stop when my babies visited them!

They were decent enough people, just not on the same wavelength and with very different priorities.

Goodness no! Nor would I expect to go on holiday with my children and their families! Too hard to try and please other people, different generations too.

My in-laws had died by the time we'd been married 3 years. I was 23 and they were both gone

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No, I wouldn't go on holiday with anyone other than close family. We went with close friends many years ago and it was a disaster. I have never wanted to repeat the experience.
Unless of course Lord M ...........

Aren't in-laws close family then?


It depends. My MIL didn't go on holiday, her holidays were coming to stay with us and we had a couple staying with her when the DC were young.

No, I wouldn't go on holiday with anyone other than close family. We went with close friends many years ago and it was a disaster. I have never wanted to repeat the experience.
Unless of course Lord M ...........

No, whilst I didn't dislike. They were totally different people and wouln't have enjoyed the same things as us.