I am following a thread on Mumsnet and it has horrified me.
A stepmother is angry because her OH's 9 year old DD (well maybe not so dear) who lives with her own Mum, is coming to them for a few weeks in the summer, and this has interfered with the Step Mums plans for various days out with her mates.
Her OH (the biological Dad) has said that he cannot take on the child care at that time as he will be working and cannot get the time off.
The mother has virtually said that she will dump the child on their doorstep and they just have to suck it up.
The poster (step-mother) is getting lots of sympathy from posters about being put in a position where her plans have been disrupted. And there is a lot of criticism aimed at her OH.
Every now and then I feel moved to chip in and ask who loves this child - who holds her in their heart? To whom is she anything but an inconvenience? It seems to fall on deaf ears.
I know of many split families who make it work without detriment to the children, because all the adults (whether biologically related or not) recognise their duties to those children and the importance of loving that child to create a sense of self-worth.
What do grans think?
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