Grandparents holding babies.

It is totally up to the mother of the child.

I wouldn’t dream of trying to hold a new baby these days.
The mother is simply being careful.
Please don’t take it as an insult.

New mothers are bound to be fearful at the moment, probably always have been. Be patient and offer help in practical ways

Nobody has a right to hold someone else’s baby. Wait until the mother asks if you’d like to hold her.

Esspee you are spot on.

I was able to hold all my GC on Day 1, but always when they were handed to me by the mum.

I was always able to hold DDs children, but as they are now 18,17, and 13 perhaps times have changed? If it's the first grandchild new mums are always a bit nervous and these are worrying times.

The parents decide what is best for the child

Covid is a big concern and it is not unusual for parents to be very careful.

I haven't even considered holding my new granddaughter of 4 months. It is far too risky and I could not bear the thought of passing anything on to her.

I wasn’t stopped from holding any of my DGC but that was pre Covid. In any event I always wait to be invited.
It could be as well as worries about the baby, DD is concerned for you both if either of you are older or in a high risk category

We are all different with different views on risk ......but new parents are very often highly protective, as they should be, and in uncertain times with mixed safety advice I think it is entirely understandable being wary about close contact with a 4 month old. And the decision is entirely the parents one.

I wouldn’t even consider going near a small child and I have hardly been in contact with other people so would not pose much of a risk to anyone.

I am missing my grand daughter’s cuddles very much (she is 13) but I am not going near her or her brother (he doesn’t kiss any more!).

It is disappointing but also their choice. We don’t know from your post how much you mix with other people, whether you are working etc. I remember being very reluctant to allow anyone who smoked or had pets to hold my small babies and used to ask them to wash their hands. The time will come. I used to wish my dad would mow the lawn or do something practical. Watch and admire, compliment them on how they are parenting.