Good Morning everyone. Here, in ??, very warm, windy and overcast. Opposite edge of France waiting for Storm Alex to arrive. For once, we’re not in the firing line.
Honestly think we ALL need a group hug. Bad news can’t be infectious surely? I am so sorry to hear of your family worries, Sark. No wonder you’ve had a difficult night. It’s so hard to try to limit all the “whatifery” until you have definite facts, but you must try so hard now to do that or you’ll be a wreck. So many worries and you’ll want to be supportive, so please try not to worry excessively until you’re told you need to. That way you’ll stay a pillar of strength. Harder to try to manage your DB’s news. I expect that will be repeated endlessly across the whole of the UK now, but if someone is mentally fragile then it’s much more difficult. Keeping in touch and making him believe that he has support is possibly all you can do, but if in any doubt try to share the load with professionals and encourage him to do this in order to help himself. And post on here for a moan because everyone cares about you. ?
Dragonfly people obviously care about you. You must be disappointed but, as you say, whatever treatment (finally) being offered now is preventative since this is unfinished business! I wouldn’t want to be facing further surgery but if it keeps you safe, you’ll face it won’t you. We’re all on the touchline cheering you on. Don’t forget that. ?
I’m concerned - really - about the numbers of Grans not sleeping properly or at all. But these are busy people. How can you be expected to run on empty, lovely peeps. Is there not time in these dull and restricted times to focus on this problem and try hard to come up with a plan to develop a new sleeping pattern? Little things we all know, but I’ll throw them in here just in case: no napping in the day (however tired), go to bed when you feel really tired in the evening - even if that seems early. Don’t eat late. Don’t race about doing a million things before bedtime (Grandmafrench!) but wind down very slowly, maybe with a hot drink, a bath, a book (not a hardback to smack you in the face when you fall asleep!), NO COMPUTERS, warm feet, warm bed, cold room (no more than 19 degs), sleep apart for a while if your partner is going to disturb you, and try really hard to relax and keep mind blank. Not the time to try to re-organize the world or sort out worries! Promise yourself you’ll do that in daylight. If that fails, a very short course of pills from the Doc to kick start good, new habits should help. Don’t behave like you’re 21 and can go without sleep indefinitely, you’ll pick up all sorts of illnesses and worry even more. Here endeth today’s lecture - given in hope and with good wishes!
Bellasnanna isn’t your DGD so lucky to have you. A relationship with any Grandchild is special, but it looks as if yours is really important to her now. And there you are! You take the time and make her feel that she counts. That’s all that’s needed. ?♀️?
Marydoll you’re losing the plot? Same here. Yesterday afternoon, before going to the Vet, I showered and dried my hair. Decided that my hair appointment might need to be brought forward from next week, because it is looking not at its best ? - shall we say? DH, who also needs a haircut, is out buying chicken for the dog’s suppers. I look in my diary before ‘phoning my hairdresser to change the appointment. The appointment that is not next week .....but yesterday morning!!!!!! ? “Oh, whatever can I say” I said to her. “I’ve no idea” she said. Fortunately she has a sense of humour. She is also not punishing us, we have an appointment for Tuesday. Or, as she put it, “seriously, Tuesday!”
Took our little cat to the Vet, and he has a flare up/infection caused by his having Coryza/Cat flu a couple of years ago, and the virus stays with them. So, he’s on antibiotics and we must hope that after a week, he’ll be on the mend. If not, I’ll take him back. Thank you Beauregard for asking. More important - let’s hear that your DH’s problems are resolved soon and that you can go away for a break.
I hope that the wetness and windy conditions pass by and leave you all safe and sound; that all those with worries (especially for partners or family members) get some relief and support and a return to some positivity very soon.
Have a good Friday and stay safe in all this madness. Let’s work, make plans, be hopeful and find something ridiculous to make us laugh at least once a day.
Hugs for all
. Hoping for a coffee when he emerges, then rocking and rolling back home for the day. 
