Distracted needed please - very, very stressed

Hope your DH gets well soon .As others have said catch up tv a good book any online games or jigsaws .Oder some treats off Amazon call people etc sending hugs

So pleased to add my good wishes here Fanny.
It’s such good news that he’s making good progress.

I am with Grandmafrench and Susan here, you need to take some time to rest, relax and gather yourself. You can do this safe in the knowledge that your DH is making good progress. ?

Good news Fanny

As Susan has said, be calm now and rest, so that you will at lest be ‘emotionally ready’ for his return. A stressed and whirling and frightened mind is utterly exhausting, so think positive thoughts. You both have the Power of Grans beside you....we’re all wishing hard and waiting for happy news from now on. ?

Thank you for update Fanny . Your dear MrFC has been very poorly but hopefully it will be onwards and upwards now and he’ll be home soon. Please look after yourself and try to relax now the worst is over. ?

Fanny I’m so sorry to hear about your husband and your anxieties whenever I start to overthink things I just say to myself that’s out of my control so what’s the point in worrying - today will take care of itself - today will soon be yesterday lots of hugs and best wishes, be kind to yourself

And breathe! xx

So pleased that MrC is doing well. Such a relief for you.

Fanny I’m so pleased that Mr C is doing well,what a relief.Try and use the next few days while he is still in hospital to rest and recover from the emotional strain you have been under?

Great news Fanny! x

Thanks for the update FannyCarnforth. it's looking positive for your husband x

I'm glad he appears to be mending. What a worrying time for you and him. Can't you phone the ward for information? That might set your mind at rest.

And Mary

Kamiso I'm sorry for causing unnecessary worry

Hello everyone!
I'm here!
Thank you everyone for every single messages, you are wonderful people
I'm so sorry that I haven't been on for a while; I think that that is one of the reasons why I didn't know whether to start a thread - that I may not be emotional robust to read and reply without getting overemotional (clue: I couldn't).

I've read only a few responses so far, but I promise that I will read them all properly today, and give them the attention they deserve.

Anyway. Crucially - MrC is doing amazingly well.
He had / has had Covid and pneumonia. They also suspected a blood clot, but there isn't one.
He's responding well to everything that they are doing. And he is now out of the Covid ward.
I'm not sure exactly what is going on as I have to rely on piecing together bits of information from him, and he's not the most reliable narrator at the best if times.
It seems that he will be home in a few days, God willing.
This seems nothing short of miraculous.
It seemed utterly impossible only two or three days ago.

Thank you again everyone

Marydoll

I haven't noticed Fanny posting today, I hope she is OK.

Just checked n as I am concerned. Do hope all is well.
Very late now so will check in tomorrow.

When stressed, I read my favourite book / Daughter of Time by Josephine Tay. I also have an audio version read by Derek Jacobi and there’s another version read by Paul Young ( not the pop star). I listened to it whilst I’m hospital a couple of years ago and found it distracting and comforting . Also, I love to draw and paint childhood memories or write about them. My g/kids love to share the stories too.

The life of Rylan on audio book. Rylan Clark Neal. You don’t need to concentrate and his narration is so conversational it’s like he’s chatting away to you. Gives an insight into reality tv and he is such a flamboyant figure it’s real escapism. If you don’t like him however, you would hate it, it’s a bit Marmite. Made me laugh out loud on the beach.

I haven't noticed Fanny posting today, I hope she is OK.

Try the John Le Care audio books, with him reading. He has lovely mellifluous voice and you have to concentrate on the plot. Good for forgetting the outside world, which I hope goes well for you

Wishing all the very best to you and your husband. Don’t know whether this will be of help to you or any others- I have found the Insight Timer app an amazing resource during difficult times- many mindful calming sessions to enjoy just choose your time and from the range of topics.

Why are you spending most of the time in bed is it because of your nerve pain. I think the best thing to do if you can is get up, get showered and then get busy and I know you’ve asked for suggestions and all of them are very good. But I find that if I lose around in my dressing gown for pyjamas it stops me doing stuff and just makes me feel a little bit more lazy.

Sorry to hear your husband is in hospital, sending you both my best wishes, and a big hug.
I don't know if you like playing games, but I play Words with Friends, my husband downloaded the app ages ago for me. It is basically Scrabble, and you take turns. You can play once or twice a day, you don't have to play a whole game in a day, but I enjoy it. I have the option of playing against my husband, son, daughter and daughter in law. They are enough to keep me going.

My friend has just started watching the new All Creatures Great and Small and says it is lovely to watch. I have not got round to it yet.

I am finding sitting too much during lockdown is making my hip and back pain much worse, so I am trying to move about more. It is getting a bit chilly for gardening, but even 30 minutes out there wrapped up warm helps.

I hope you find your distraction, and all is well soon x

Dear Fanny, what a hard time for you. I wish these comments had a like button as there are so many good suggestions, some of which I may try myself.
A period of stress not so long ago led me to indulge in long hot soaks in the bath, I usually jump in and out of the shower. I bought beautifully scented bath oils and bombs to go with it, Classic FM on the radio and a battery operated light which changes colour. I ordered rose and violet creams online, together with books I really fancied (and they had to have a beautiful cover!) If you can’t concentrate too much, diaries and letters of people you are interested in is a good idea, as you can just pick them up, read a page and not lose the plot.
When my three week old son had life saving surgery, I read Pepys’s diaries as I couldn’t concentrate on a novel.
Writing letters can be satisfying, particularly to anyone housebound and I love sending postcards.
I have the ‘Calm’ app on my iPad and I love some of the stories. Particularly those involving a train journey and children’s stories are very comforting.
Sending good wishes to you both.

Sorry to hear this news. Such a worry and so disappointing when you have tried so hard to stay safe. They do seem to know much more about treatment now so hope you will get some good news soon.

Look after yourself and stay safe.