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Looking for a child who would like a "Nan"..

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Mumpee1 Mon 04-Jan-21 11:56:48

I am so fortunate in many ways, but sadly I miss being a Grandmother. My daughter holds memories so dear to her of my Mum. I have a caring and lovely daughter, but although she and her husband have longed for a child of their own the hope is slowly slipping away. I do have grown up step children but their time never seems to come our way. So I have time, patience, still active, love fun and laughter. I can illustrate dinky animals, knit hats and more hats. Play the piano and hopefully still have the imagination to tell a story. Cook a bicky and cake and know my flowers.
Should there be a parent who thinks their child needs someone else in their life to fill their family I am up for grabs as one would say. I am married to a very patient man, we share the same interests, additionally on offer is my Daisydo Britany Spaniel dog who just adores everyone, adult or child who has two legs. I am 78 years old.

silverlining48 Mon 04-Jan-21 12:15:05

There have been young mums posting looking for grandparent figures and the advice to them is ne careful but try to get to know someone older nearby, make friends with them
And a natural relationship can develop.
You could do the same but from the other angle. I wish you well.

Luckygirl Mon 04-Jan-21 12:15:40

I am sure you realise that this offer is fraught with safeguarding problems.

Maybe contact your local branch of Home Start, who match volunteers with families with young children who are struggling with parenting. They befriend the family and help in any ways that they are able.

Puzzler61 Mon 04-Jan-21 12:22:35

Not wishing to burst your bubble of hope in any way Mumpeel but please make enquiries through a local branch of an organisation, not by a social media platform or Facebook and I’m sure you will get many recommendations of such organisations here (like Home Start).
You sound a lovely genuine person - but please be wary - as not everyone is as they might seem so caution must be taken.
I hope you find what you are looking for.

Peasblossom Mon 04-Jan-21 12:31:43

Or when COVID is over think about volunteering in a school. School readers will match you up with a local school and if you can play the piano you’ll be welcomed with open arms!

I find it’s just enough involvement for me. It depends how much you want. Home Start suited my friend better, but I thought the relationship she had with her “family” was too intense and interdependent for me to feel comfortable with the same.


Toadinthehole Mon 04-Jan-21 12:52:06

You sound lovely....the type I would have loved for my own children. Their real grandparents weren’t the best. I agree though, this isn’t the best place to go looking. You need protection for yourself and the child. You could probably try Social Services, but at the moment, it may all be difficult. I would say do you have friends with grandchildren, where you could have some involvement, but in these times the real grandparents are not even able to see their grandchildren. Wait until covid has passed🤔. All the best with it all.

LullyDully Mon 04-Jan-21 13:37:48

You could try volunteering for Home Start. You get the opportunity to visit a young family with children under 5. I did it when I first retired for a couple of years and thoroughly enjoyed it. I think I was of some use . Look them up on line, they have branches all over the country.

cornishpatsy Mon 04-Jan-21 14:26:59

NotTooOld Mon 04-Jan-21 15:13:34

What a lovely person you sound to be, Mumpeel. I wish you luck but, as others have said, do take care and think about doing this through a reputable organisation. I would hate to hear you had been taken advantage of.

NiceasMice Wed 06-Jan-21 10:22:38

It was quite a few years ago when my grandma, on the advice of her Sil, volunteered to play the piano at a local playgroup. The children enjoyed the sing song and the playgroup leaders involved her in all special occasions like the Christmas play. And it is another pair of eyes to watch the children. Corona might curtail your ambitions at the moment though but good luck.