can we discuss feminism please

I would say that anyone who gets validation from random strangers and who feels the need to make strangers feel thrilled probably has deep seated confidence issues.

eazybee As for wolf whistles; my mother said the time to worry about them is when you don't get any. Controlling! Really.
Spot on! Wolf whistles on their own are just a bit of fun. Have the confidence to take it as a compliment, give a little wave as you walk on and they will probably be thrilled. If anyone feels harassed by this I'd say they had confidence issues. Obviously any follow-up with crude comments, walking with you or standing in the way is a completely different matter. I guess we're talking about younger women here, I haven't had one for many years!

Yes really eazybee.

In the early 60 s in the civil service if/when a woman got married they had to leave their job. It was that bad!
I really don’t know what feminism means today, it’s similar but different to how it was understood 50 years ago. We have more of a voice and have come some way since then, but we don’t have equal pay (45 years after the equal pay act ) and still end up doing the greater share of the housework, cooking, childcare and running the home whilst working too, but few women are in high exec positions ....because of all the other stuff they have to fit into their day. Feminism eh?

It has always seemed to me that the only reason why men, over the years, have appeared and assumed to be superior to women, is their physical strength. To be successful, women must always do better than men. Yes, I can remember as a John Lewis management trainee, being paid less than my male counterparts. When I asked why this was, I was informed that men can carry more!

I consider myself to be an independent woman; financially independent thanks to a good career, never felt discriminated against and always received equal opportunities, achieved most of what I wanted in life, and if I didn't, it was my own fault, not that of any one else.
As for wolf whistles; my mother said the time to worry about them is when you don't get any. Controlling! Really.

petunia Ok I can do this (it's going to cause lots of bother and this thread will probably go) Anyway I would describe myself as a third wave radical feminist. In this although I would uphold the rights and equality of every woman I also recognise that some women are more privileged than others. I know that some men are feminists and will think the same way I do. Which is that the present system still discriminates against women in many ways but real equality won't be acheived until we change the patriarchal system we live under. That that system not only discriminates against women, but against all minorities, including the poor, black and mixed race people, and LGBTQ people. So we need to change the system. But that isn't going to happen over night and so I will work within the system lobbying for things to change women's lives. The ultimate aim of creating a society where we are not simply a capitalist economy but a mixed economy where other forms of business such as cooperatives flourish, and some things, such as fuel, water and public transport, are run on a not-for profit basis, is a long term one, and something I know not all women will agree with. It has its roots in both first wave (the suffragettes) and second wave (the 1970s) feminism, but it's not for all.

Studying Politics when younger there was Marxists feminists Liberal feminists and Radical feminist. All with different ideas of what they want from life with equality.
Regarding wolf whistles when I was young I used to wolf whistle back that shut them up!

I hold the door open behind me, regardless of whether they're male or female. I certainly don't expect someone to stop and hold the door so I walk in front of them - I'm not the Queen.
Why would I expect anyone to give up their seat for me unless I was struggling?
Wolf whistling died out in the 80s

I was whistled at by a workman refurbishing an empty shop unit. I was surprised as I was my usual unremarkable elderly self, nothing about me to attract attention. A few minutes later I was going back the way I had come, he whistled again. I squawked loudly to his oblivious workmates ‘Hey, I reckon your mate needs to go to Spec Savers!’ Oh, how they laughed!

I'm not sure what this thread is about. I consider myself to be a feminist. I'm financially independent and never felt I was valued less than a man in any job I ever had. I had excellent female bosses and was never sexually harrassed in any circumstance.
I just keep on as I always have done. I'd say that education has given me this confidence.

But it's fine for us to disagree vampirequeen, that's also what I was saying about feminists being expected to agree on it all

Galaxy???

I hate wolf-whistles. Why would they even be called this if they weren't predatory?

Yes the point I was making was you will always get crude comments unless you behave in the way they want you to. So if you smile you will be fine. If you challenge in any way you will be called a range of interesting names, so I see it as very controlling.

Men and women should be treated equally in the workplace. I certainly wasn't in the 60's when the man I was training was earning more than me. Things have improved but are still not equal in some ways.
I admit that I am pleased when a man offers help eg when I am struggling up steps with heavy bags but that is just kindness and not male superiority.

I did say 'as long as there are no crude comments'.

I am laughing that I used the labour party as an example there

Quite a few of us have asked GN for a feminism board, and there are a number of posters who are doing a really good job of starting threads on this topic as GN wanted to judge the level of interest. Feminism is the same as any other topic, you would not expect all members of the labour party to agree on every topic for example so I am not sure why feminists are expected to agree on everything. For example I think wolfwhistles are a horrible form of control as if you dont react the way they want you to you will always receive insults. I hate that girls from 13 upwards have to endure that.

I think that woman and men should have equal rights, equal pay and equal respect. But there are things I like about what some women deem to be insulting. I like having doors opened for me, being offered seats (even if I turn it down with a thank you), DH walking between me and the road. Those little things that used to just seen as good manners but some now see as denigrating. I don't see what's wrong with waiter/waitress, actor/actress, master/mistress etc. I'm old fashioned. I don't see what's wrong with a bit of harmless banter as long as it's OK by both sides and isn't bullying. There is a difference between banter and harassment. I don't think that wolf whistles are insulting unless they come with a crude comment.