Nursery or not ?

kircubbin2000, now I'm wondering how on Earth I managed to drag up four kids, nurse a sick husband, study and work - all at the same time - I must have been Superwoman!

I would send him.

I think unless you’re living it, you have absolutely no idea how hard it is.

Our little one can go back after ten days, but frankly I think they will probably be closed down.

Hetty58

I don't think a three year old needs to go to nursery. After all, we didn't have them, just started school at five.

Under current circumstances, the safest way to live is to limit our contact and interactions with others.

Surely, two adults, working from home, can manage to look after a small child as well? Many people are managing far more.

I don't think that's true Hetty. My daughter and her husband are both working from home. He is trying to get new contracts and is on the phone etc and she has regular zoom meetings with head office . 2 toddlers running round and needing fed or supervised has forced them to employ a helper. If Boris does away with the support bubble one of them will have to stop work.

I wouldn't send mine in this situation but obviously we are all different.

No right or wrong, just what seems best for the child at this moment. Your DiL will know the details and knock-on effects.
One family we are close to have 1 parent working full-time but predictable hours and 1 part-time whose work can be done at any time of the day or night. They can manage childcare between them and still have at least one 'family day' at the weekend.
Another has 1 full time at home, and a part-time key worker who has arranged to do night shifts.
Both of these families can work, and give good quality attention to a toddler.
Yet another has 2 parents in very demanding jobs - 1 in public service, the other a company that demands its pound of flesh. When they were trying to look after a toddler, I felt he suffered - they did the best they could, which meant either working or caring from 5.30am to 11pm 6 days a week. no-one came out of that well.
I would say that you think she (and, I presume, your son) are best placed to make the decision and you back them.

Lucca

Hmm. A tad judgmental maybe ?

More than just a tad, I would have said!

My daughter has a 3 year old working from home with her at home is pretty impossible
She has been at nursery since she was 6 months and being at nursery they are used to having attention all the time She is very forward for her age
I take over when she is not at nursery and she keeps me busy.
It also depends what work you do my daughters job is full on with loads of zoom meetings during the day. When my granddaughter was at home during the first lockdown my daughter was catching up with the admin side from 9 in the evening to 2 in the morning
If nursery closes I will take over full time

We have one of our daughters and her three children living with us, during lockdown we juggle work, homeschooling and entertaining a two year old, who frankly during the last lockdown was left to her own devices rather too often.
So we were delighted to hear her nursery was staying open, two days in, they have three positive tests, one in her bubble, so they have closed, and we wait and hope that she hasn’t caught it.

Hmm. A tad judgmental maybe ?

I don't think a three year old needs to go to nursery. After all, we didn't have them, just started school at five.

Under current circumstances, the safest way to live is to limit our contact and interactions with others.

Surely, two adults, working from home, can manage to look after a small child as well? Many people are managing far more.

Having worked from May to July as a supply teacher in a school nursery I would say yes let him go back.

2 of my GC have gone back to Nursery 3 days and as B9Exchange says I think the benefits out way the risk for him.

The staff will have had personal risk assessments completed by the head and clear guidelines for different scenarios.

I really am not sure how much not going to nursery will affect children. In the past, parents who send their children to nursery have been criticised and there are those who claim that pre-school children are best with their parents.

I honestly don't know which is best or whether young children suffer that much. What bothers me is that people have become interested in all sorts of issues (eg. young children's welfare, mental health, human rights) about which they weren't previously that bothered. Maybe I'm being cynical, but I can't help thinking that people champion some causes because they support their beliefs about how the pandemic should be handled.

I’m not clinically vulnerable but live 2 hours away anyway ! Am in a bubble with them but not visiting at the moment.
Thanks for your thoughts.

I am dreadfully worried about the lack of socialising in the very early years, we risk a generation of terrified children who see every other adult or child as a possible threat, the early years are such such vital months. I'm with the DiL, let him go back and achieve a semblance of normality in these awkward times. He is not at risk of serious illness, but catching all the coughs and colds going round and getting those out of the way is probably a good idea. If you are clinically vulnerable yourself, then best to keep clear of him anyway.