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Backhanded compliment? The things men say (lighthearted!)

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nannafizz Wed 20-Jan-21 08:02:06

A few days ago I came downstairs and DH said ‘you smell nice . I thanked him & thought it must be hand cream or moisturiser as I hadn’t used any perfume. This morning he said over breakfast ‘you smell lovely’ , what is it? I held my hand out and asked if it was my hand cream . No , it wasn’t . Later he came into the bathroom as I was cleaning the bath . ‘That’s it , he said , the lovely smell . Turns out I often smell lovely , just like the bathroom cleaner?

dolphindaisy Wed 20-Jan-21 19:49:24

dolphindaisy

To make it worse I was so taken aback I actually thanked her!!!

OOps - this was a response to PipandFinn

micky987 Wed 20-Jan-21 19:39:59

Vice versa

micky987 Wed 20-Jan-21 19:39:14

At primary school the popular girls were saying that if you’re ugly you’ll grow up to be pretty and visa versus. Then one of them turned to me and sounded really happy for me when she said “you’ll be really pretty when you grow up “.

Ninarosa Wed 20-Jan-21 19:29:50

I walked in the house from shopping and my husband , never knowingly caught out issuing a complement said " you've had your hair done, it's nice". I said I hadn't to which he insisted " yes you have, that lovely brown colour on the ends". That 'lovely brown colour 'was the final remnant of two years worth of insecurity , growing my dyed colour out and being glad to be grey- or not as the case may be.

dolphindaisy Wed 20-Jan-21 19:18:59

To make it worse I was so taken aback I actually thanked her!!!

kircubbin2000 Wed 20-Jan-21 17:46:10

I always keep my hair very short. After the last lockdown I told my friend I had a hair appointment. Don't let them cut it so short this time she said.

honeyrose Wed 20-Jan-21 17:28:25

A friend at work was complimented on her new hairstyle, and then the person complimenting ruined it all by saying “it looks much better than it used to do”. Charming.

Bluebel Wed 20-Jan-21 17:02:30

My husband finds it hard to compliment me.Strange really seeing as any woman he knows he compliments the backside off them!!! I've learnt I do it back????

Scrappydo Wed 20-Jan-21 16:11:10

I bought a new top many years ago & made the mistake of asking my husband if he liked it. If you like it that’s all that matters he said with a smirk on his face. He said it reminded him of bingo. It had a logo on it ‘active8’. I knew what he meant & never wore it again. ( 88 in bingo is 2 fat ladies. So every time I went to put it on I was reminded of him thinking of 1 fat lady)?

sodapop Wed 20-Jan-21 16:10:20

I can relate to that handbaghoarder I had a 'friend' who used to say the same thing almost every time she visited, " I wish I had a little house like yours so cosy"

nannafizz Wed 20-Jan-21 16:09:04

These have really made me laugh- glad I’m not the only one who receives these sort of ‘compliments ?

kircubbin2000 Wed 20-Jan-21 15:21:05

I went with a divorced friend to a grab a granny night to help him as he had no single friends. We spent most of the evening together as he found fault with all the 'cheap looking women. Then he asked if I wanted to ask any of the men to dance because he said some men might find you attractive!

Beechnut Wed 20-Jan-21 15:06:05

Urmstongran

Himself is king of the one-liners & he does make me laugh. Occasionally when I get in from the hairdresser’s he will glance over and say ‘so they cancelled your appointment then’.
?

??Urms Himself could be related to my brother but I know he isn’t.
I was telling my brother a story one day of something that happened during my day which included the line ‘I was going to the hairdressers’ to which he replied ‘I can see they were closed’ ??

Shinamae Wed 20-Jan-21 15:02:35

Nell8

Some "complimenters" are experts at timing, aren't they?

My hygienist: "You've got good teeth ......... for a Scot."

My so called friend: "You're quite good looking ......... from a distance." !!

Some friend Nell but so funny......???

Nell8 Wed 20-Jan-21 14:54:51

Some "complimenters" are experts at timing, aren't they?

My hygienist: "You've got good teeth ......... for a Scot."

My so called friend: "You're quite good looking ......... from a distance." !!

handbaghoarder Wed 20-Jan-21 14:49:28

I met a distant acquaintance at antenatal classes and once the babies were born she came to my house for coffee. She then told me I was so lucky to have such a small house as it must be so much easier to keep clean and warm and I didn't have the problem of cleaners, gardeners etc LOL. And then much later whilst working as a new office temp my department boss went to a meeting and unknowingly met a close friend of mine. On her return she said “ I had no idea you have a degree. Isnt it amazing how you get an impression of people which proves to be so wrong” LOL. Ironically she was redundant a few months later. I stayed over 20 years. Karma at its best

Rendella Wed 20-Jan-21 14:40:45

When I asked a friend if she fancied meeting up at our house, she said no, and stated that it would be much nicer to meet at a mutual friend’s house as she had a lovely conservatory. It left me feeling very much second best.
Same friend stated that one of the houses near us was ‘hideous’, it was a similar design to ours.

crazyH Wed 20-Jan-21 14:39:36

What fun this thread is - just what I needed on this miserable day !!!

4allweknow Wed 20-Jan-21 14:34:26

I'm off to test the household cleaners; will be a lot cheaper than usual perfume.

GagaJo Wed 20-Jan-21 14:26:31

My bloke, after we had been to a party. 'You were the prettiest woman there. Of course it was because you were the youngest.'

GinJeannie Wed 20-Jan-21 14:09:07

Credit where it's due....DH is quite good at cutting my hair during lockdown! However he totally blew it yesterday while doing the deed, by remarking on the long hair that grows on the back of my neck "it's not very ladylike, is it?" Suddenly felt like signing up to 'Freaks Anonymous'.

Shalene777 Wed 20-Jan-21 13:58:46

A work colleague many years ago, who was absolutely full of herself and a total flirt, once said to me "you're not looks are you? You're more personality."
I thought for years after that I was as ugly as sin!

GoldenAge Wed 20-Jan-21 13:39:47

My teenage granddaughter told me a few weeks ago that I smelt like me. I asked her whether that was a compliment or a problem for her and she replied that I smelt just like my own person and that's what she liked!

PipandFinn Wed 20-Jan-21 13:36:14

dolphindaisy

In the good old days when hairdressers were open I had my hair cut very short, I got compliments from most people but one friend stared at me and said "oh that's much better isn't it"

All have been so funny but this one has me crying with laughter.....

Sparky56 Wed 20-Jan-21 13:27:21

grin