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Grandad’s keeping in touch

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WW010 Fri 05-Feb-21 20:55:08

grannyactivist

WW010 that must be very difficult for you and really a great shame that your husband gets such little enjoyment from his grandchildren. Mine would like to retire early so that he can spend more time with them, not less.

I wonder if your grandchildren are very young? My husband gets very excited when they turn 2 years old and can interact, before that age he’s just biding his time. smile

He loved them when they were babies. But the time LD1 was over they were 1.5 and 3. He didn’t enjoy that age at all! Now our oldest is nearly 4 he’s much better. Enjoys her chat. I think it probably was the shock of the noise and chaos after 3 months of absolute peace. He was jealous though too. Still is a bit. Complains if I spend too much time, with them. I strike a balance 😊

grannyactivist Fri 05-Feb-21 18:15:43

My lovely father-in-law is also great at keeping in touch with both his adult grandchildren and his great-grandchildren. I discovered today that he’s been sending the older two great-grandchildren books and magazines from time to time during lockdown.

Kate1949 Fri 05-Feb-21 18:05:49

Our granddaughter is grown up and at uni. We haven't really seen her due to lockdown obviously but my husband is and always had been totally besotted by her.

Kalu Fri 05-Feb-21 17:43:18

DH positively lights up whenever he spends time with our two GDs whether in real life or now, sadly, only online. He chats to them individually or together. Sends little gifts occasionally but will FaceTime them just to ask how things are.

kittylester Fri 05-Feb-21 17:40:19

Ours all idolise DH - he will play at being the baby with one (well at least he gets to lie down) football with another, cooking and craft with another 2 and listening to jazz with another. It's fabulous to see.

grannyactivist Fri 05-Feb-21 17:28:54

WW010 that must be very difficult for you and really a great shame that your husband gets such little enjoyment from his grandchildren. Mine would like to retire early so that he can spend more time with them, not less.

I wonder if your grandchildren are very young? My husband gets very excited when they turn 2 years old and can interact, before that age he’s just biding his time. smile

Ilovecheese Fri 05-Feb-21 16:45:17

Our eldest grandchildren wrote lovely notes in my husband's birthday card last week. He was thrilled and wrote a letter back to them.

WW010 Fri 05-Feb-21 16:37:14

Well he’s a great guy. Mine seemed to lose all interest in them during LD1. When we were allowed to bubble for childcare he really resented having them round. Jealous I think that he’d not got my undivided attention. He’s better now but it wasn’t good at the time.

grannyactivist Fri 05-Feb-21 16:29:11

This morning my husband got a phone call at 7.30am from our 2 year old granddaughter (via her dad). She had insisted that she wanted to speak to him when she was being dropped off at Nursery School. It made my husband’s day.

During lockdown we’ve spoken a lot about how much we grannies miss our little ones, but this morning’s call got me thinking about how hard it must be for some grandads too. Especially where the relationship with grandchildren is mostly mediated through the grandmother.

For Christmas my husband spent forever in the garage building a ‘play shack/mud kitchen’ for two of our youngest grandchildren (they’re cousins, but bubbled together and so can share big stuff). It was most definitely a labour of love. He speaks to the grandchildren regularly on FaceTime and once a month we have a ‘whole extended family’ Zoom meeting. The youngsters adore him and he them and he’s being very inventive in ways to engage with them through this time.

How are other grandads doing with keeping the relationships with grandchildren going.