Sorry, I don't understand
. It doesn't make any sense to say "So notionally the final say in anything is always with the monarch" as by it's definition when something is notionally, it is a notion; mental or imaginary. Speculative or theoretical.
The government can be advised by the Queen but the ultimate power to make all and any decisions rests with the government. She gives Royal Assent by which she formerly approves legislature however, even that is procedural and has never been refused.
It may well be that there's "the impression that there is always somebody in the hierarchy who is superior to us, who needs to be given deference, not because of their talent or aptitude, but because of an accident of birth", but any 'impression' that this is the case when it comes to our Monarch and our government is false.
Ah dear - why does getting older equate to dimished brain power?
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