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I am a reader but my family aren't

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polomint Wed 24-Feb-21 11:08:53

I love reading, books, magazines even sauce bottles! My children dont read and neither do my grandchildren and they are now adults. They have had plenty of opportunities as there have always been books about and my nose is usually in one. My parents were great readers. My husband reads but not a great deal. I think they are missing so much enjoyment and learning things about life etc. Is reading not popular now due to internet? Yet waterstones are busy, amazon sells books. Granted libraries are closing. Are you reading more than usual due to lockdown or dont you read?

Trisham Thu 25-Feb-21 11:44:15

Hi
Did you know that If you are a library member you can access hundreds of magazines for free online? It saved me a fortune (and saves a few trees). Also e books and audio books.

Sarahmob Thu 25-Feb-21 11:42:30

I love to read, will read most fiction genre. I do read some non fiction if it sparks my interest, although I’m not a fan of biography. Having said that am interested to read ‘Becoming’ by Michelle Obama. I might choose to listen to that in audio though. I use audio books while knitting and driving.

Cambia Thu 25-Feb-21 11:40:58

I usually have three books on the go and try to read at least 52 a year. When we are in Greece I read even more but in the UK I feel that I am being lazy reading!!
I have just switched from a kindle to a Kobo as you can download books directly from the library. Kindle don’t let you do this. This is brilliant as I never run out of books. I much prefer a proper book to a screen but at the moment the Kobo is a life saver.
My granddaughter used to be a real bookworm but at 13 has stopped reading which I find incredibly sad. Where has her escape world gone to?

pandapatch Thu 25-Feb-21 11:34:11

My husband and I are both avid readers. My son and daughter both read, although my son doesn't have much time with a young family. My daughter usually has a book on the go, but it lasts her several weeks. My grandson is 2.5 years old and loves books as we read to him and so do his parents.

Luckylegs Thu 25-Feb-21 11:27:32

I have always read, never had my head out of a book since I could read. My mum was an avid reader but not my dad. I remember reading Peyton Place when I was a young teenager if not before. I read at every opportunity and can’t wait to go to bed and read for half an hour but always Library books or bought from charity shops.

Our Library is open to return books and pick up Six of the Best which is their choice for you. It’s great and they make sure you haven’t read it before which means they are newish books. This has widened my world and I’m enjoying, mostly, the different kind of books I’m getting. I assumed all libraries were doing something similar. I’m afraid I’m too tight to go buying brand new books all the time and can’t remember ever buying any! My H doesn’t read much at all and our D only reads on holidays. I don’t think our son reads at all for pleasure and the GC seem to be resistant for now. I hope they will discover the delights soon.

ayse Thu 25-Feb-21 11:26:37

I used to read all the time but more recently all I seem to do is watch the TV for distraction. I need to find long books mainly historical novel. I thinks it may be to do with the stress of lockdown. All of my children have read in the past and now mainly use the internet for news and fact finding. Having said that my youngest daughter has just lent me a book about rewilding in Devon. I’ll read it when I’m feeling more like it.

At least two of my grandchildren have some reading difficulties. The oldest has severe dyslexia but with professional help she’s part way through a sports degree. My youngest are 6 and now can read fluently.

DH likes to read newspapers and often starts books about politics and musicians but I’m not sure he finishes them.

Foxglove77 Thu 25-Feb-21 11:24:16

I've loved reading books since childhood. My Mum always read books and still does. I read pony books as a child and now love romantic fiction. My idea of a nice holiday is to chill and get through a couple of paperbacks. I think reading helped me with spelling as a child. If I'd seen it written down, I could spell it.

Minibookworm Thu 25-Feb-21 11:22:36

As my Username suggests I always have one or two books on the go and cannot imagine life without books. I love being transported and I get totally involved in what I am reading. When I buy a newspaper or magazine it is read from cover to cover and, yes, I have also been caught reading the sauce bottle!
My husband, on the other hand, wouldn’t dream of reading a book or newspaper. He is even reluctant to read instruction leaflets for new purchases while doing his diy. I understand everyone is different, but I do find it difficult to comprehend how some people don’t enjoy reading.

Saggi Thu 25-Feb-21 11:22:08

Couldn’t face my life without reading..... my husband hasn’t read a book since he left school ....he’s 73 now! My daughter has had a love of books instilled in her from about 2 years old , from me , and my son also. My grandson is 13 ..... also an avid reader ...his school ( pre-Covid lockdown) presented him with a £30 book token for reading 5,000,000 words in one year. They read books of choice from school library , the word count is done by the school ( approximation) and then he was tested on the content of book after he returned it! A great effort on schools behalf to get teenagers back to books. He has not had a book out of his hand since he was 2. My granddaughter 9, likes books as well , but not avidly.... too much sitting still involved I think! That 5 million word count in a year was the highest recorded since the school started the scheme. So yes.... think you could say we are ‘readers’

G1asgowgal Thu 25-Feb-21 11:18:29

I love reading too. I sometimes read at least two books a week. The local library has ebooks and audible too and is free so that’s a bonus. I also love Prime Reading from Amazon which has magazines and a good selection of books too just like borrowing from a library as well.

My husband only every reads about sport and my daughter only reads on holiday. But I couldn’t be without a book. I feel it takes you out of yourself and you somehow become invested in the characters.

cassandra264 Thu 25-Feb-21 11:15:52

Everyone in my immediate family are keen readers except for my son, who is a busy key worker on the front line, and who, when he is not able to play sport, prefers to walk the dog or goes running.
However, recently he has discovered that he feels at a disadvantage socially to those who are better read than he is! He is now into audiobooks, which allow him to get on with doing his walking/running/house maintenance and repairs etc. simultaneously. He will even accept recommendations now from me and his father smile

Barmeyoldbat Thu 25-Feb-21 11:13:57

Both myself and Mr Barmey love books. I come from a family of readers, I would read anything, cereal packets while having breakfast, labels on bottles, I just love reading. At the moment I have two books on the go, Ernest Bevan is one of them and I can dip in and out of it. Mr B tends to read non fiction but sometimes he will read something I have just finished reading. I have a kindle but don't use it as I just love the feel of a book. My children and gc are not readers I am sorry to say.

henetha Thu 25-Feb-21 11:12:55

I'm an avid reader and have been a member of the Devon library service since I was 6. So 77 years now. I've done my best to encourage children and grandchildren to love reading, and some of them do.
I love real books, mainly from the library (which is sadly shut for the time being) but am so pleased to have a Kindle as well as it has proved invaluable throughout covid.

SillyNanny321 Thu 25-Feb-21 11:12:21

Would not want to live without several books scattered around to read. Have 5 Series of books by some favourite authors that I re read at bedtime, for far too long! At least 2 non fiction & a couple of either SciFi or Fantasy for a quick read. All my working life was in Libraries so no wonder my spare room is called Mums Bookroom by DS & DGC!

icanhandthemback Thu 25-Feb-21 11:12:16

I love reading and so does my daughter although I probably read a wider range of stuff than she does. Nowadays I sit on the computer reading material from all round the world and my husband watches tv. None of the men in our core family read. However, my eldest boy listens to podcasts and enriches his life that way. His Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome means that his eye muscles and ligaments can cause focus problems if he reads for long and cause a form of dyslexia where the words disappear from the page; not helpful when you are trying to study. He floundered through school because of it with none of his teachers believing him but once he came across pod casts, his knowledge took off.
My mother was an avid reader, reading anything she set eyes on, including my mail! It used to drive me mad. Even with her cognitive function failing her, she still loves to read and strangely enough, can relate the story to you even when she can't remember the names of her grandchildren.

BelindaB Thu 25-Feb-21 11:10:35

Reading is main hobby and I have a VAST collection of books, which are carefully entered on my spread sheet! I know that sounds ridiculous, but it's the only way I can make sure I don't keeping buying books again and again!

Also a nut for the library and the worse thing about this whole business has been the closure of my local libraries. The only thing that has kept me sane is that I've started re-reading my own books. One paperback was so old that the pages had faded!

Cannot abide Kindle. Bought one when I went to the States a few years ago but loathed it. Staring at a screen is no substitute for opening a new book. The smell of the paper and ink, the anticipation....

I could not befriend anyone who doesn't read from choice.

timetogo2016 Thu 25-Feb-21 11:10:23

I have one book up-stairs and one down.
My one son reads the other doesn`t,both dil`s read.
And all four of the G/children read.
Dh on occasions eg holiday.

Maggiemaybe Thu 25-Feb-21 11:08:24

I’m never without at least one book on the go. Currently one “proper" book (a Val McDermid), one e-book download from the library in case I wake up in the night (Olive, Again), one audio-book, also from the library to keep me company when I’m doing jobs around the house (Conversations with Friends). I don’t read magazines and just skim the newspapers, which we buy for DH. He devours them from cover to cover, but only reads books on holiday (Howard Hughes’ autobiography just lived in the case for a couple of years, ready to go).

I don’t feel he’s missing out, any more than he thinks I’m missing out by hating gardening, which takes up so many of his hours. We’re all different, thank goodness. smile

Nannina Thu 25-Feb-21 11:06:30

My dad was a reader as am I. Neither of my sons were particularly fond of fiction but, as adults, they are both avid readers of fact relating to their interests and hobbies

grannygranby Thu 25-Feb-21 11:05:46

yes my son has just bought me a smart speaker echo dot and I can just ask Alexa to read my current audible book (Karl Ova Knausgaard..my struggle - fantastic but 6 books all about 500 pages each is a long haul to physically read so I do both...o kindle and audible.) basically try to get them listening to books?...because the vicarious lives you lead and learn from through literature and other writing is invaluable and our greatest asset....so vast. It is since writing was invented (a mere 5000 years ago) that our species has advanced so much. They are missing out as you say by not reading but technology can help bridge that gap.

readalot Thu 25-Feb-21 11:05:18

I love to read, I always have done. About eleven years ago my husband bought me my first kindle. I am now on my fourth which is the oasis which I bought just to read on. When I first got it I didn't think I would get away with it because I liked a physical book. I have never looked back and I love it. It's especially good because you can alter the font size which makes it easier to read. If I couldn't read I'd be lost. My husband likes to listen to Audible books which I can't get away with. My grandson who is eighteen now used to like reading when he was a child but doesn't now.

frenchie3 Thu 25-Feb-21 11:03:36

I am at my happiest, when I have a book in my hands. Owing to Covid, getting through books at a great pace. Husband not a good reader, but daughter No.1 is following in my footsteps.

Moggycuddler Thu 25-Feb-21 10:59:08

I have always had a book "on the go" since I was at school. These days I use Audible mostly, because it's so relaxing and the books are usually narrated so well that it adds another whole dimension to the stories. (Also I have a neck problem that is aggravated by reading an actual book.) DH always has a book on the go too. We both enjoy both fiction and non fiction (though our tastes differ sometimes.) I do feel that non-readers miss out on something good.

hicaz46 Thu 25-Feb-21 10:40:31

I have read a bit more during lockdown. I read newspapers, magazines and books, but all have to be printed. I cannot read anything longer than a page, online. I have ordered numerous books from online retailers and can’t wait for charity shops to reopen to add to my source of books. I swap books with friends and neighbours and have at least a dozen books waiting to be read.

Kupari45 Wed 24-Feb-21 19:38:13

I have always enjoyed reading. Joined the library when I was eight years old, and never looked back.
Obviously cant get to library just now, but seeing as I haven't spent much in shops recently I have been keeping myself going with books from Amazon. Must admit there is something special about opening a new book , no one has read.
I've just discovered books by Fiona Valpy, so my bedside light hasnt been switched off before mid-night. Terrific stories.