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FannyCornforth Sat 27-Feb-21 19:44:01

Hello Everyone smile
Just to liven things up a bit.
What are your thoughts on them?
Do you have a significant gap in yours or are you the same age?
(My husband and I have quite a big difference in age.)
Anyway - thoughts?
Thank you!

Aztra Tue 02-Mar-21 20:17:39

Anyone see 22 kids and counting ? The Radford family - she was 13 when she got pregnant he was 18. They married when she was 18 - now with 22 kids. I think they're fantastic parents - showing love + attention to each kid ( unlike Amanda Owen the Yorkshire shepherdess 21 yrs younger than her husband 9 kids + shows none of them any affection they're set to work as soon as they can stand up unaided !!

Alittlemadam Tue 02-Mar-21 19:05:36

My husband is 15 years older than me. We get on really well and do most things between us... Teamwork. A little give and take is what's needed in any relationship and never go to bed on a disagreement

GrannyTracey Tue 02-Mar-21 18:53:14

I was 30 when I married my husband who was 22 . We have been married for 27 years & two months ago he left me for a woman 17 years younger than me . Funny thing is everyone always says he actually looks older than I do . Age is just a number

Happysexagenarian Tue 02-Mar-21 13:06:36

DH is 9 years older than me. Never really noticed the difference, we're both very young at heart.

Craftycat Tue 02-Mar-21 10:36:39

I am 13 years older than my husband. He loves calling himself a toyboy!
We met at a time when my first marriage was rocky & we have now been together nearly 30 years. To be honest I have far more energy & oomph than he does. He has put on a lot of weight & does no exercise. He is still at working age but I retired a good few years ago.
It works for us.

Naninka Tue 02-Mar-21 09:12:49

20 months between us and we often comment on things like:

when an oldie comes on the radio we both know the words

what we were doing when 'something' happened

we both were given a silver jubilee mug at school

we remember watching certain tv programmes as kids

... that sort of thing but, you know, as long as you love each other, you will find things to chat about and new places (spiritual, geographical, emotional, etc) to explore.

So, in short, who cares?

FannyCornforth Tue 02-Mar-21 06:46:33

Rufus We are discussing 'chronological age differences', as you put it.
What you are doing is anyone's guess, as is usual. smile

Saetana Tue 02-Mar-21 06:37:44

My husband is 4 years and 3.5 months older than me - we've been married for almost 32 years. I think as we get older age gaps become less of a worry.

Rufus2 Tue 02-Mar-21 04:39:48

Just to liven things up a bit.
What are your thoughts on them?

Fanny Here are my thoughts; might liven things up a bit!
Are we discussing chronological age differences or mental age differences? hmm
OoRoo

Grandma11 Mon 01-Mar-21 23:09:53

My DH is 16 years older than me, and we have now been married for 34 years, and have two daughters, aged 30 and 32. Yes the fittest one of the two of us now, and is my carer, we home that he's the Brawn, and I'm the Brains as I'm better at sorting out problems and handling the household and financial side of things, whilst he's better at doing the physical chores of day to day living.
We have both been married before, and he has an adult son from his first Marriage who he is estranged from through no fault of his own, but is only 5 years younger than me, which did feel rather strange on the odd occasion that I met him. I also had three daughters from my first Marriage when I was 19, although sadly lost one to Cancer 5 years ago.

Hemgranot Mon 01-Mar-21 20:13:12

Jaibee007

Men drive this one - they are all obsessed with having a younger wife/girlfriend once they are over 30.they can't deal with ageing. I don't understand why more women don't have sex and/or relationships with younger men - I really enjoyed this when I divorced my emotionally stunted husband - I had a lot of fun and was never interested in older boring sexist men again

I think you have a point. My ex was 34 when we got together, I was 19.
He told me he’d never find anyone else when we broke up after 18 years. Luckily he did and she’s younger than me by a year or so.

Hemgranot Mon 01-Mar-21 20:07:43

Almost eleven years between my husband and me. I love it when people think he’s the older one, which has happened a few times ?
We’ve been together for 19 years so far.

Jaibee007 Mon 01-Mar-21 19:48:09

Men drive this one - they are all obsessed with having a younger wife/girlfriend once they are over 30.they can't deal with ageing. I don't understand why more women don't have sex and/or relationships with younger men - I really enjoyed this when I divorced my emotionally stunted husband - I had a lot of fun and was never interested in older boring sexist men again

cupcake1 Mon 01-Mar-21 18:38:52

I am 2 years (minus 10 days!) older than DH. We muddle along quite nicely thank you and have done for 39 years!

Speldnan Mon 01-Mar-21 18:01:09

My partner is 13 years younger than me. We’ve been together over 20 years. I’m told I look and act young for my age so the years are not obvious. We get on well, he was still at school when I got married to my ex which we always laugh about. But the age gap makes little difference to us. It does worry me that he may be left behind if I die first but I’m actually fitter than him so that may not happen.

JayPea Mon 01-Mar-21 17:29:18

My husband is 10 years younger than me. We married when I was 50 (and him 40 of course!). My daughter is slightly nearer to his age than I am. We have not noticed the difference at all and I am sure he has kept me younger and more active - I am now 74. We both do a lot of pretty tough exercise every day, eat very healthily and enjoy everything we do. I only hope it will continue for a long time yet.........

songstress60 Mon 01-Mar-21 17:03:57

I think they are fraught with problems particularly if you are in your 20's or 30's and you meet someone alot older. My friend aged 31 married a man who was 52 and he had grown up children, so did not want any more kids, also because they had alway had pets when the kids were young he did not want any pets either because in his words "a dog is as tying as a child", so for years she went without a baby substitute too. Too many sacrifices made by the younger partner in my opinion,

Fernhillnana Mon 01-Mar-21 16:07:55

My husband is 11 years younger than me. I don’t think about it now really though some eyebrows were raised when we first met. Most people seem to assume we are about the same age...

Newatthis Mon 01-Mar-21 15:20:05

It would seem that it’s OK for a man to be much older than a woman in a relationship but not vice versa.

Greciangirl Mon 01-Mar-21 14:47:42

14 year Age gap here.
I am 75, he is 61.

Doesn’t seem to bother us.

ChrisK Mon 01-Mar-21 14:39:03

My parents had almost 12 years between them, dad being older, I often wonder if he chose mum so she could look after him in old age! If he did it didn't work as she died at 65, and he lived to 101!

coast35 Mon 01-Mar-21 14:37:24

My husband is 6 days older than me! I let him know about it for 6 days every year!

Floradora9 Mon 01-Mar-21 14:27:17

I had a father who was 20 years older than my mother . I hated children asking if he was my grandfather . He had had a hard life and suffered some terrible personal losses but all I knew was he was not the dad I would ever have chosen. I was 12 when he died and cannot say I ever missed him . I did not miss the physical punishment he inflicted on my yet his son who was grown up before I was born always told me he never raised a hand to him . On th other hand DD has a DH wo is 18 years older than she is and they are very happy.

Dixsy Mon 01-Mar-21 14:26:38

My husband was 15 years older than me.. we was married 39 years when he passed away 2017.. although I wouldn't have changed anything . been alone from 61 years old is very lonely.. you sometimes think if I'd have married someone closer to my age I wouldn't be in this situation.

Purplepoppies Mon 01-Mar-21 14:19:00

As a young person I dated much older men.
Dd father was 15 years older.
Now I'm facing 50 I'm dating (when we are allowed again) younger men ?
I have a rule though, they cannot be too close in age with my dd, that wouldn't seem right ?
I have never been married.