Age Gap Relationships

I'm 16 years older than my (second) husband. He was 25 and I was 41 when we first got together. We married 9 years later (I celebrated my 50th birthday on honeymoon in Cuba). Next month will be our 20th wedding anniversary!

My partner is 10 years younger (I'm 70) so I'm retired but he is still working. Suits me ?

My husband is 5 years older than me, not a big difference now but it sometimes was when we were first married as I was 16 and he was 21. Still we have been married for almost 49 years and still happy together.

There is 8yrs difference between myself and my husband, I am 71 and he is 63. We got together when I was 40, after my marriage ended and I had been on my own for 10yrs. He was 32 and had never married! I never really noticed the age difference, and he always enjoyed telling people he was my Toy Boy. Over the last few years I have noticed the age difference more. I have had a few health issues and he is still very fit and wanting to do more adventurous things than me, like getting a round the world ticket, when we can, and have the money. He loves to travel and now I think I am holding him back. He saids I'm not but there are times I think he is now feeling the age cap!

We’ve just had a scam ‘phone call from someone claiming to be from HMRC and wanting immediate payment of £3,000. I was sure it was a scam ( he was too insistent, threatened to send the police etc.) but it was frightening nonetheless. We contacted HMRC to confirm that it was a scam but I feel sick at the thought of what these scammers try to do to honest citizens. I ‘m angry. Just needed to share.

My partner 4 years younger than me so no real issues especially as he now has a bus pass!!
However, I do have a friend who is 69 and husband of 90 and she is really struggling as he has started with dementia! She feels she is losing a good part of her life! She has had ovarian cancer and he had no idea what was happening so no support! She has very good friends ??

I met a man 19 years younger than me online. Hot relationship!

My first husband was 27yrs older than me and didn't last long (various problems including our ages), the second, 10yrs older, still didn't last but not down to the age gap this time. After those I had a partner who was only months older, we lasted about 12yrs but eventually bad things happened and I left him.

My current partner is 4yrs older, doesn't live with me and we seem to be muddling along pretty OK, so I think I've found my 'correct age gap' and maybe geography gap too!

My youngest child came home 6yrs ago (age 18) and said he was in a relationship with someone only 17months younger than ME, giving them a 26yr gap, I didn't dissuade him (how could I, it's his life and he has to live it and learn from it) but I used my experience and explained a few of the issues they might face and said that I would be here for him if he needed help or advice. Over 6yrs on, they have their ups and downs, I think we're all surprised it's lasted this long but like everyone else, they muddle through and get on with life.

My conclusion is that people manage age gaps differently. It takes a whole variety of people and ages to get on in this world and no-one can say that one age gap is right and another wrong, its different for us all.

There's a 23 year age gap between husband and myself.So many people said it wouldn't last! We have been together 18 years and married for 9.Husband is older.Its been fun& people mistaking him for my grandad!??? It's something I never think about really,it seems to bother others more than us.

We were exactly the same ages when we got married as nexus63. Sadly my husband of 48 years past away 6 years ago, but we had a wonderful marriage and never noticed the age gap although one or two people in the past who did not know us, referred to him as my father. !!
I too would do it all over again

My husband and I are the same age 68 he has aged so much faster physically and mentally I feel the same as when we got married but he has turned into a miserable old man we

aren't compatible now after 20 years of marriage

I know a couple who have a 35+ year age gap. Relationship began in a very dubious way (despite all their denials). They had a baby just after he retired.

Many years ago there was a scandal in our village because a man in his 20s was going out with a 14 year old schoolgirl. They’ve now been married over 30 years and seem very happy together.

Well, I suppose most people our age were brought up to think that a husband should be some years older than his wife. I know I was and had an example in my parents.

Daddy was six years older than Mummy and they were respectively 26 and 21 when they married in 1947.

How the world has changed! Now-a-days no-one would bat an eyelid if the age difference went the other way, but they would probably be shocked at anyone getting married at 21 or even at 26.

Dh is four years younger than I am, but we married at a mature age, so no-one was concerned.

We were certainly told as girls that if you married a man 20 years older than yourself he would be an old man when you were still comparatively young.

I suppose that is possibly true, but here are no guarantees in life - a lot of men I know, my own husband included, seem to have aged overnight as soon as they retired, something that is not nearly as apparent amongst the women I know.

My stepson married a girl 8 years older than him. The only one who has a problem with it is his sister who still can't believe that her little brother married someone older than her
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my late husband was 15 years older than me,he died 3 years ago,at 81.Some people used to say he was too old for me,but we liked the same things,the age gap wasn't a problem.

First hubby was 8 years older, second 5 years younger....younger is definitely better

My DH is 4 years my senior, and taller than me. My dad was 3 years older than my mum and taller than her - a pattern there?
My Sil. is 2 years older than my DD and just slightly taller.

Wasn't there a school of thought at one time women that as women lived longer male partners should be younger supposedly so that they popped their clogs about the same time. Only 11 months between us so we can reminisce together very easily.

My husband is 21 years older than me. We’ve been together 30 years. Neither of us can figure how the other puts up with us - I think it’s a cultural difference rather than an age difference.

My first husband was 11 years older than me . My second husband is 20 years younger than me we have been happily married for 15 years. We have had to put up with a lot of sly digs and rude comments over the years, surprisingly mainly from the older generations. My thoughts have always been that love is love, life is short and both should be grasped with both hands when the opportunity arises. Don't let other peoples prejudices mar your chance of happiness if it comes along, no matter who it is with.

My husband is 12 years older than me. It’s never been a problem all through our married life. 43 years married. We are now 65 and 77.
But now the age difference is noticeable. Now I wish we were the same age.

1st ex was same age, 2nd ex was 13 yrs older. Neither managed 11 years with me! Current DH is 15 yrs younger and we've been together for about 21 years. Nuff said.

My husband is 17 years older than me, he is now 85 but well. We have been married for 35 years and his children are my family (he had been widowed). We have always had a good relationship. there are ways in which we now lead a different life, I am still active and want to do things away from home, but he is more contented and settled at home. But it doesn’t lead to any problems. And I can’t imagine being married to anybody else. It’s the people, not the numbers, that matter.

A friend married a man 17 older than her about 25 years ago. They had two children although he would rather have not! They are still together, but now he is an old man in every sense and she is still relatively young and fit. He doesn’t want to go anywhere or do anything (can’t at the moment anyway) so she tends to do her own thing. It obviously depends on a state of mind. My husband is two years older than me, and I’m glad that we’ve been able to age at mostly the same rate!