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FannyCornforth Sat 27-Feb-21 19:44:01

Hello Everyone smile
Just to liven things up a bit.
What are your thoughts on them?
Do you have a significant gap in yours or are you the same age?
(My husband and I have quite a big difference in age.)
Anyway - thoughts?
Thank you!

GrammaH Mon 01-Mar-21 10:53:20

DH is 6 years older than me & DD's partner is 12 years older than her. She was married before to a man a couple of years her senior but, when the marriage failed, she soon met & moved in with her current partner. They are so happy, it's a joy to see them together & we can now see why her husband just wasn't the right man for her, lovely though he was.

NannanTo4 Mon 01-Mar-21 10:49:43

No 1 was 11 years older
No 2 was 2 years older
Current DH is 12 1/2 years younger (12 years older than my DD) however he is the old fart in our relationship.
My DDs have their dad and in-laws but it’s my current (keeps him on his toes) they go to for help and advice. He is the grandad the grandchildren run to.

He and ex No 2 get on fabulously which is a bonus

TrendyNannie6 Mon 01-Mar-21 10:48:47

First marriage my husband was 5 years older than me, second and hopefully last one my DH is 5 years younger than me, happily married, I think it’s more about how you get on with each other than age gaps,

GrammarGrandma Mon 01-Mar-21 10:48:10

I am seventh months older than my "toyboy" husband. His father's second marriage was to a woman 30 years younger. Our youngest daughter's husband is 12 years older than her as is our niece's husband. We seem to go in for age gaps!

BlueSky Mon 01-Mar-21 10:46:56

Bilboben

Ten years difference means nothing at 30 and 40. However the difference between 70 and 80 can have serious implications for the relationship.

I don’t agree at all. If anything with age the gap narrows!

Suziemarie Mon 01-Mar-21 10:45:36

My husband is 22 years than me, we've been together for 36 years and I knew the first time I saw him that he was the one I wanted to spend my life with. Our age difference is not a problem except I worry about him so much with this pandemic. He is very fit and healthy and I love him more with each passing day I'm truly blessed.

Bankhurst Mon 01-Mar-21 10:43:50

Circumstances can make a bigger difference than age. There are only 2 years between us but when we met, aged 54 and 56, he had been retired for several years for medical reasons and I carried on working for 9 years after we were married. We’ve been happily together for 23 years, but there was a difference between us during the 9 years. I had a ‘work social life’ and travelled for work, I knew about computers and he had never used one etc. I guess my world was bigger than his, which caused a few problems but nothing major

JTelles7 Mon 01-Mar-21 10:43:00

This obsession smacks of Victorian hypocritical narrow mindedness. This is 2021 not 1880’s or done bygone era.
All fictitious twaddle.

Maude42 Mon 01-Mar-21 10:41:43

My mans 15 years younger, I had all the toy boy jokes and he did look young ! You could hear the ‘that won’t last comments’ well it did 24 years later we are still solid. Age isn’t important, I’m semi retired he’s got ages to go but I stay young and he’s old before his time anyway!

Humbertbear Mon 01-Mar-21 10:38:54

My DH is 4 years older than me, at Uni and living away from home. We met when I was 17. I never fancied anyone my own age.

rosieod1 Mon 01-Mar-21 10:38:35

My hubby is nearly 10 years younger than me. Second marriage for me,first for him. Been married for almost ten years

Bilboben Mon 01-Mar-21 10:35:55

Ten years difference means nothing at 30 and 40. However the difference between 70 and 80 can have serious implications for the relationship.

womblekelly Mon 01-Mar-21 10:35:01

DH 8 years older than me - but he is is a young 71 year old in outlook - working out over whatsapp with his personal trainer at the moment ...

Nicegranny Mon 01-Mar-21 04:08:12

My ex husband was the love of my life he was 14 years older than me. He l realised was a drunk a womaniser and jealous of me as a younger wife.
Every time I have to meet him he tells me how he regrets all of the past and wishes that we were still together.
It’s a big story and one that I can’t be bothered to tell as my feelings are dead due to the pain l suffered at his nasty rotten hands.

Coolgran65 Sun 28-Feb-21 23:11:43

My first husband was 5 years older. My now husband is 5 years younger. We met at aged 48 and 43. I thought he might be too young..or rather think me too old as in his previous long term relationship she was 12 younger than me, I could have been Get mother.!!
However, within about 3 weeks we knew we had something special. Waited 8 years to get married and now married 16 years. Pure happiness.

BlueSky Sun 28-Feb-21 19:21:33

Laura gringrin

LauraNorder Sun 28-Feb-21 19:02:27

Bluesky no he’s a Brit not Norwegian.
As I have called myself LauraNorder as in Law an’ order, I decided to call my husband Orlin as in All in Order.
Me trying to be witty smile

BlueSky Sun 28-Feb-21 17:42:22

Laura is your DH Norwegian?

LauraNorder Sun 28-Feb-21 13:33:25

Fennel I’m not sure if it is more natural for the woman to look after the man.
Orlin is a wonderful nurse and I’m a horrid patient. I’m an impatient nurse and he’s a patient patient.
Maybe we are unnatural smile

netflixfan Sun 28-Feb-21 13:16:36

My husband is 11 years younger than me, and we have been together for 30 years, he is now 58 and I'm 69. One of my friends said he was born middle aged so it doesn't matter!!!
Which is true, although he is becoming a bit of a Victor Meldrew. He has some excellent traits. His mother taught him to do housework, cook and he is great at DIY. He is nice looking too. Blessed as the young ones say.

Welshwife Sun 28-Feb-21 13:05:55

About 40 years ago I taught with a young woman who did part time as she had a young child about two at home - her retired husband looked after the child. It turned out that her husband was about 80 and she was early thirties. That is the biggest age gap I have ever come across - almost 50 years but they were a very happy little family..

Fennel Sun 28-Feb-21 12:26:50

My husband is 8 years younger than me - we met when we were in our 30s and the age gap made no difference.
Until recently as I'm in my mid 80s and quickly running out of energy. Whereas he still has some strength left. still much love beween us.
I know this sounds sexist, but it seems more natural for a female to be looking after the male in old age.

glammagran Sun 28-Feb-21 12:05:23

Husband is 6 years older than me (71 and 65). I don’t think we look older/younger now than each other as he is only slightly grey and has all his hair still. His sister at 82 doesn’t have a single grey hair. Dare I say it, but I am the more mature one. Osteoarthritis is written on my face as I never have a pain free day. But the current high pressure area has made such a difference atm. I need to live in a desert.

Marydoll Sun 28-Feb-21 10:44:12

You are correct there, Laura!

LauraNorder Sun 28-Feb-21 10:30:40

In sickness and in health Marydoll, not just words. A commitment bound in our love for eachother.