I didn’t want to just read and run. But it’s a tricky one isn’t it?
A lot of people will want to go and have a drink with the family after a Memorial Service, whether they know them or not ( not being unkind, but where there is likely to be free food, there will be people) and it’s trying to keep them away that will be the problem.
Unless you go and have the food and drink later in the day, Memorial service at 10 am, then meet up with family and friends, by invite only, to afternoon tea at 4pm.
I think if the attendees at the Memorial service see everyone drifting away to their cars with no mention of food and drink, they will assume that they need to go home too or take themselves off in groups themselves to toast the deceased, otherwise they are likely to just follow you.