seamstress
If the RF are so dignified and magnanimous they should still support their children no matter what, even forking out of their own pockets for security - after all, they are still targets by virtue of their relatives. But no they want to pull up the drawbridge and cast those who don't toe the line adrift.
No they shouldn't. H&M had the option to stay and learn from the older members of the RF how to deal with this, they chose to leave and their choice was supported. Just not with money. The drawbridge is still down, the RF have made that extra clear time and time again, it is H&M who refuse to cross it.
My job as a parent is to love and support my children to become independent loving and supportive adults. Not clingy leaches who can never stand on their own two feet either emotionally or financially.