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Downsizing, house has gone on the market. Is it the right time?

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foxie48 Wed 21-Apr-21 19:23:36

I am very lucky and know it. We live in a lovely equestrian property with beautiful gardens and a large house. I'm in my 70's and following a health scare my lovely mare has gone on full livery, which I'm happy about, it's not far away and I get the pleasure without the work. OH has wanted to downsize for quite a while but whilst we still kept horses at home, I have resisted but now he feels it is time. I just feel very sad. I love my garden, it's huge but we've worked so hard over the years and each spring I look forward to seeing it blossom. I have help in the house and although we don't use most of it, when we have visitors it is lovely and over the years we have made it just so and love it dearly. I have lots of friends in the area and when I walk my dog I rarely come home without having had a chat with someone. I usually am quite forward looking but not about this change in our lives. I know we won't move unless we find a house I fall in love with but I just feel so negative ATM. Please tell me about your success stories and lift my spirits.

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Washerwoman Wed 21-Apr-21 20:32:54

Not the same situation really but all I can say is I really feel for you.It is a huge decision,especially if you have been so happy where you are.I understand your attachment to your garden in particular. We actually downsized our house from a 4 storey period property to a bungalow several years ago and actually I love it.It is still quite spacious but so much easier to maintain and clean.We did however buy the property for the garden.Actually much bigger and south facing ,which we wanted as our other garden was north facing and difficult to access.Like you I spend hours in it,relish each spring and seeing how the effort we put in makes it even more beautiful.
However since we moved DH has developed severe arthritis and can't do anywhere near as much as he had hoped.Also if I was to be left on my own it could prove too much.I hope I can afford to pay for help.
All I can say re the garden is I do sometimes think when I watch gardening programmes or read magazines that smaller can be beautiful too.And if I did end up having to move again I would treat it as an adventure and start afresh planning a very different but still lovely garden.Wishing you all the best.

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