My paternal grandmother was a small neat woman. A talented seamstress who taught sewing at night classes. She could make beautifully tailored tweed coats, perfectly lined and fitted to the wearer. I remember going for dress fittings throughout my childhood.
She had a book where she would write down our body measurements in pencil, bust, waist, hips, shoulder to waist etc. All the family members were in that book.
I have my fathers christening gown which she made for him ( he’s now 86), I wore it, my children both wore it.
I have her dining room table in my kitchen covered with a pvc cloth.
It’s the table she used to sew at every afternoon. Sometimes I get my sewing machine out, I can’t do anything clever like she used to, but it feels like a connection to be sitting at the same table she used all those years ago.
She died 35 years ago when I was 19. I wish I could have learned more about how to sew when she was alive, but I wasn’t interested at the time.
She could bake a mean egg custard tart. I’ve never been able to recreate her Christmas stuffing recipe which was amazing.
She didn’t have a huge amount of money, but prized quality. She would buy a decent classic leather bag that would last for years rather than several cheaper ones.
She was also full of anxieties over what other people would think, endlessly analysing everyone and everything which could be very hard work. My mum, her daughter in law, was always on her guard around her.
My maternal grandmother could not have been more different. A large well built woman. Not the greatest cook, could hardly sew on a button and cooked when she had too, not at all practical. She loved people and company. Enjoyed her grandchildren, would get down on the floor and play imaginative games or tell us stories of her youth. I spent much more time with her and her house was much more relaxed. I was much older in my 30s when she died, so knew her more as an adult. She had some wise advice when my children were babies about enjoying them while they were little.
She was forthright and opinionated and we would often clash when she wouldn’t give an inch, especially when I was a teenager.
She would sometimes reminisce about her early courting days with my grandad, how different the world is now. She taught me the importance of a strong partnership for life through good and bad times and sometimes you have to work at a relationship.
Sorry for your loss, this thread has got me thinking about the memories we will leave our children with and resolving to take the best of both my grandmothers and try to pass some of their essence on to future generations.