To think I am kidding myself about moving while working

Is it possible for your husband to take over the school run at least a couple of days a week?
You might just be projecting all your anxieties and stress of this new lifestyle onto the drive. Once you have settled into the new routine it wont be so scary. Use it as a 'me time' as suggested.
The idea of getting your test local if possible is a good one too.

I’ve done it, working full time, 30 minute journey, I left pearlier so children went to a friends for half an hour either end of the school day. I agree with trying to change Covid testing to so where more local, or if it’s a twice a week test, changing your day off. That you enjoy your job is important, good luck.

Similar thoughts eazybee - cross posted. Apologies.

You must have seen benefits in the move so try to enjoy that aspect.
I moved further away from my place of work once - which doubled my travel time. Eventually I did get a new job but it wasn’t because of the distance as I found the “unwinding” and “thinking” time that the journey allowed became a sort-of “me time”. I missed this period which separated my home life from my work life when I got a job in my own town.

I think you are feeling worse because of the extra trip into work just for testing. Is it possible to arrange to do this yourself? Or maybe they would trust a local GP surgery to do it by arrangement?

Whilst you are keeping an eye open for something new, try not to compare your old life with this new one. Try to find positives in the new life and you will feel happier.

Remember your reasons for moving!
Good luck!

I used to work in a similar situation to you, with a forty-five minute journey to work in heavy traffic on the outskirts of Birmingham. Once I had got used to the journey I actually enjoyed it; having two young children it was forty-five minutes to myself, able to listen to the radio, plan my day, think about whatever without interruption. It provided a barrier between home and work, and I left each behind when I arrived at my destination. I didn't realise quite how much until I worked in a school which was literally at the bottom of my garden, and I felt I never left work behind.
I am not sure if you have already started your commute; if not, practise driving the route so you are prepared for delays hold-ups, and alternative routes, and allow yourself sufficient time to get there. It does seem unfair to make you go in on your day off for covid testing, and I think you should ask to fit it round your working hours, but I know that is not always possible.
I hope you enjoy your move, and cope with the journey; I am sure you will.

It will all be fine once you settle into your new routine. I was a single mum for years (widowed), and managed it, with two children at different schools, I worked full time, an hour from home. My son went to pre and after school club and I dropped him off, then picked him up on the way home. My daughter caught a school bus. It’s tiring, but you’ll manage I’m sure, just get your back up plans in place for if your child is ill, and for holidays from school.

Didn't want to read and run, but not sure what advice to give except maybe show your husband what you have written here? I hope writing it down has been cathartic for you, and I hope wiser people than me will be along soon.