Any nice DiL's

I have always got on well with my Mother in law. If she has ever had a problem with me, she has certainly kept it to herself. She hasn't ever done anything to upset me either.

I have a beautiful DIL who has never, technically, been a DIL. My eldest son and her lived together for 7 years and had a lovely son and daughter. Sadly, he had an affair and walked out on her, his newly diagnosed autistic son and his baby daughter. When that affair ended she gave him a second chance which he squandered and she has now been a single Mum for the past 5 years. He has paid only meagre amounts of maintenance for his children. When my son first left our relationship was strained because when she looked at me she saw her ex-partner's Mum but during the years we have rekindled our good relationship. I see her and my grandchildren at least once a week. I help with new school uniforms, shoes etc because I feel ashamed that my son doesn't. We are here for each other and I consider her not only a DIL but my friend.

I think you are right wildswan16 That or you get accused of being smug and self satisfied. Thankfully we have yet to get one of those posts on this thread.

However I do think that it is the poor relationships that get the publicity because people are upset and looking for help. The majority who get on fine and dandy feel no need to talk about it.

I suppose it is natural that we only read about the "problem" relationships. They are probably a very small percentage of the total.

The two beautiful young ladies who took on my sons are both lovely and thoughtful.

I would hope that my dd’s MiL would say my dd!
But then I know dd would say the same about her MiL.

I’m often thankful for what family she married into, since there was more than one former boyfriend whose mother would have been a nightmare MiL. One was the ‘nobody will ever be good enough for my precious son’ type, the other is someone I’ve known for years who is just poisonous and has screwed up all her children.

I love both of my DIL's. That being said they do drive me crazy and make me want to yank my hair out sometimes.

Thank you for all your lovely responses, a tribute to you all.

I wisely had only daughters so never got daughters in law. What I got were four sons in law to be wonderful husbands to my girls and excellent parents to their children. They’re damned useful too.

Having had all Daughters and no Sons, Daughter-in-Laws are something of a mystery to me, l have never had to deal with one! My Son-in-Laws are a bit of a mixed bunch, three of them are Lovely, hard working and very caring.

One views me with an air of suspicion, I truly think that he believes l can see inside his mind, due to my Psychiatric Nurse training, and he can be quite paranoid sometimes, and without any real reason.
A recent prime example was that he believed that my Grandchildren from his relationship received less from me in many ways than any of my other Grandchildren did. The truth is l am always careful to be fair and give them all the same, although visiting him and my Daughter at home has never been encouraged by him, and l have never challenged him about this as l don’t want to make things anymore difficult for my Daughter. She does however drive up to see me every few weeks.

I also have one Ex Son-in-Law, l very seldom see him as he doesn’t live Locally, but he’s fine with us when we do. He drives the two hour journey most weekends to see my two Grandchildren from his Relationship with my Daughter, and he has a good professional Job. They both met as Students at University, and had their children after a very brief fling, born just a year to the day apart.

My daughter in law is like a daughter to me. She's kind and wonderful. And my ex dil , - sadly they are divorced now, - was also a lovely friend as well as dil and I miss her.

Yes I have known her since she was 15 and she is like a daughter.
Love her to bits!

Sadly my own MIL was awful - she was incredibly jealous and vindictive and even her own children disliked her. Despite this, we never had a cross word, I was very wary of her and soon learned how to keep on the right side of her. My relationship with my own DIL couldn't be more different; she is gorgeous and I love her to bits. She's a lovely Mum and wife and my son is very lucky to be married to her. She included me in the wedding preparations and asked me if I would like to come along with her and her Mum to choose her wedding dress. She was happy for us and her own parents to wait outside the ward as she was whisked back from theatre after having our 1st grandchild by cesarian section. She sends lots of pictures each week of the children and we see them 2/3 times a week. We couldn't be more blessed; I would do anything for her and view her as the daughter I never had.

My two daughters-in-law are lovely too and very different. My older son’s second wife is a great mother to their three children, she also works part time and is very artistic, she makes jewellery, makes wonderful cakes for the children’s birthdays and does lot of other crafts including flower arrangements. We used to meet up occasionally for coffee and look around the shops together, the last time we did it was about 15 months ago and she insisted on paying for the pyjamas I liked. My other daughter-in-law has no children and is a career girl but she is very caring and in recent years when DH and I have both had health problems she is like a mother hen to us, she loves to bake and often brings a cake for us. She is very close to her parents and her sister but we are always included in family occasions. We are very lucky indeed.

Two lovely dils here. Very different personalities, but both excellent mums, hard working, kind and generous. ?

My Dil is just fantastic xxx

I love my Dil. She’s been married to my son for 12 years and thankfully we hit it off from day 1 when they met at university. She’s a lovely wife and mother.

I also feel the same about my son in law who who has been married to my daughter for 15 years. He’s a very loving and supportive husband and father.

I got to know my sons' partners before they established themselves and had children. They became my friends. DS1 and his wife have now split up but my DiL and I have remained friends and enjoy meeting each other when I go south for a short break. I was the first to see each of their children on the days they were born. DiL's parents also lived at a distance and I really liked them. Sadly her mum died several years ago and I attended her funeral. DS2 and his partner have been together for 27 years and never married. She's a wonderful person, has a great career as a supermarket manager and a good mum who actually likes ironing! DS1 has another partner now whom I like and admire and get on with very well. She's very good for my DS! The answer to the DiL relationship? Treat them as friends, never mind the age difference!

My DiLs are great and have given us wonderful DGCs. DS3 has a lovely girlfriend, too. She came to my mother's funeral, but the other two couldn't. One was in America and pregnant at the time and the other had little ones to look after (and I think she is a little afraid of flying)

My DIL is simply the daughter I never had - love her to bits !

So sorry to hear of your loss but rewinding history at this time helps none of you. As we all know "If" is the longest word in the dictionary. You did your best, smile and let her go.

Mine is lovely, as are my SILs.

I love both my mother-in-law and my daughter in-law dearly. It took some time to build up the relationship with my MiL, but now she regards me as her closest friend.

My son married his childhood sweetheart, so I’ve known her since she was seven years old and she’s been a great support not only to my son, but also to other members of the family; she’s a lovely person.

I have a wonderful DIL, I would do anything for her.
If I had arranged the marriage she is exactly who I would have chosen for my son.

My DiL is lovely.

I am slowly getting to know my daughter in law to be.
She is funny, kind and the best thing that ever happened to our wonderful son.
I think as a family we all embrace her.
Her parents are fabulous, sadly they are in Ireland otherwise I’m sure we would see a lot of each other.

I had a kind and thoughtful English MIL and FIL. They helped me and their GD through a very bad period. Now I have three wonderful SILs.