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Luckygirl Sat 22-May-21 12:16:07

I am newly widowed (last year) and am now wanting to venture out on holiday within the UK. I could ask to join my children but would prefer to let them get on with their lives, and feel that I have to put on my big girl pants and try going on my own.

I have some problems with mobility in that stairs are a challenge for me, but I can go for walks with stick as long as it is not too hilly.

Things I love are the sea (brought up by the sea), beautiful gardens, peaceful places, no hotels with "entertainment" and all that kind of thing - not my scene. My ideal would be a small ground floor cottage in a flat location with a sea view and a beach to walk on, with gardens to enjoy within easy driving distance. Self-catering would be my preferred choice.

I am not an enthusiastic driver, especially motorways, but would expect to have to do some driving myself. Coach and train seem a bit dodgy with Covid, but I would be happy with them.

I have looked a lot online and am having trouble - most cottages are for families, hotels have huge single supplements. I might consider a coach holiday mainly for the purpose of simple travel and just use it for the travel and the pre-booked base.

What have others done in this situation?

Fae1 Mon 24-May-21 12:31:40

Lots of travel companies do single holidays, at home and abroad. Have travelled the world as a single traveller over the last 10 years or so (I'm 72 now). Many people I've met have had mobility problems and are in their 80s but that hasn't stopped them. There's always a helping hand. Try 'Just You' holiday company. They look after you - or a cruise. Always a large number of single passengers on board ship and the crew always go out of their way to help.

Jillybird Mon 24-May-21 12:41:00

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

biglouis Mon 24-May-21 12:44:03

I have travelled very widely as a solo traveller and to some countries that its difficult to go to nowadays such as Afghanistan, Syria and Iran. These were not tourist destinations and I always avoided package travel holidays because of the way they rip off single travellers in favor of families. I found that if I travelled out of season and made my own booking I could generally negotiate a very nice room upgrade for myself once I arrived. After all, there was no obligation to stay in any one particular hotel and the owners knew it! As an independent you have the power to negotiate.

However this type f travelling is not for the faint hearted and I am no longer sufficiently mobile to go abroad.

Oofy Mon 24-May-21 12:47:37

I apologise if this is not appropriate for you, as spare cash is required, but DH and I put some money from a legacy into Holiday Property Bond. He had worked on one of their conversions and was impressed with their standards. This is not a timeshare as many think, and (in normal years) is brilliant for those of us who are retired as you can has have as many short notice holidays as you like, especially out of school holiday time, without using your points up (especially if you invest over a certain threshold, you can go to somewhere that hasn’t been yet booked within the next 1month UK and 2months abroad). You can keep your main points for treating the family, as it’s great for kids too. There are plenty of studios and 1bedrooms, lovely accommodation, and communal areas and activities and trips if that is your thing. There is special accommodation for the disabled. The ladies in the office are lovely, so helpful if you need help arranging transport eg from airport or nearest railway. We love it

jocork Mon 24-May-21 12:49:38

Riverwalk

^Looking at going to Antarctica in January .....BUT have to count how many days out of the UK as now you are only allowed 90 days now we are no longer in the EU.^

ALANaV what do you mean by this?

Probably confusing the fact that you can't spend more than 90 days in 6 months in Europe now we aren't in the EU. My son went to live in Germany before the end of the transition and he mentioned he couldn't return to the UK intil he has his residency there confirmed or he wouldn't be able to get back. It doesn't affect going elsewhere as far as I know, unless there were already restrictions. It certainly affects people with second homes in Europe who used to be able to come and go as they pleased.

Connor13 Mon 24-May-21 12:51:25

Hi I go with saga Holidays have done for last 15 years you never feel alone but can be alone if you want to if you know what I mean take the plunge you won't regret it I didn't

POBCOB Mon 24-May-21 13:23:28

Titan Tours are great, they pick you up from home with your luggage and return you home at the end of the holiday. They do UK or abroad and cater for single travellers. We have been on a few of their tours and always found the travelling group fun and friendly. Will deffo be looking to go with them again in the future.

Panda25 Mon 24-May-21 13:51:46

Reading all your posts has me desperate for a holiday now

Alioop Mon 24-May-21 13:56:28

I use Airbnb's holiday accommodation. I take my dog to the pet friendly ones and if you use the filter asking for just for a one bed and also find something close to amenities and maybe a beach. If it's company you are after, a lovely coach holiday or a river cruise might be just the ticket.

catalpa13 Mon 24-May-21 13:57:14

Can I recommend that you take a look at WAY UP? It is a active
only community for those over 50 who have lost their spouses and partners. It is free and there is tremendous support and active forums. Many holidays and meetups are arranged (I have yet to go on one of the holidays, as I only lost my husband in 2019 just before lockdown) but they seem to be enjoyed by everone.

Daisymae Mon 24-May-21 14:25:12

A lot of cottages are annexes in larger houses. I would email the agencies and tell them what you are looking for. The smaller ones are helpful, have a look at what areas are in reasonable traveling times to give them an idea of location.

grannybuy Mon 24-May-21 14:36:13

I too had difficulty trying to join AirBNB. They had my bank details, passport copy, and whatever else required, but they wanted a video of me.

grannie7 Mon 24-May-21 14:43:07

chris8888
Chester is a lovely place.If you are going by train the station is a bit away from the main areas, not a long walk unless you have mobility problems.
There is a bus service from the station that takes you into the middle of the city, There is a hotel opposite the station as well.
Hope you have a great time.The natives are very friendly ??

AntC Mon 24-May-21 15:10:52

There's a company that does solo travel called Just You which looks good, maybe worth a try

Snowbell Mon 24-May-21 15:30:49

Premier Inn are reasonable and comfortable if there is one near where you want to be. I went to Cornwall for my first solo holiday. No way could I drive the 400 miles to get there so I went by train then hired a car to get around while I was there. It was wonderful.

Granny1810 Mon 24-May-21 15:37:10

I endorse coach travel. I rather like Grand UK. There is no single supplement on normal tours and quite often they solo travellers tours. They have a tour manager to help as well.

catta5 Mon 24-May-21 15:48:56

LuckyGirl I have no family or close friends I would want to share a room with so as you say put on your big girl pants either go alone or no holiday which I di lots of coach companys , Daisha, Grand Hotel, Shearings, Alpha , Coachstyle]Yes they charge a small single supplement, and I do request a Quiet room, like you, do not do Hotel entertainment. if trips are offered it is your choice if you do go, I have always let the driver know if Not going. in your case ask for downstairs bur most have lifts, as a lot have mobility problems but I have found that these companys do cater for the older person. I have been using them for past 12 years since I retired so try and see troll round the websites and get a brochure I personally have found Daisha the best value but their pickup points are limited

Sparkling Mon 24-May-21 15:52:57

I thought Way Up was for people under 50.

Gwenisgreat1 Mon 24-May-21 15:53:04

My sister was widowed just before Lockdown and has also been wary about going places on her own. In 3 weeks she will take a train up to us, we will take her up to our other sister, then a trip to the borders, then back down to our house and drive around the area before she goes home. She is hoping to fly to her daughter in France at some point, or might join us on another break in September - do you have Siblings Luckygirl that you can join?

semperfidelis Mon 24-May-21 16:36:16

You could consider the Travelodge website just now. Prices are reasonable and there is no single supplement. They will accommodate disabled people in ground floor rooms, and there are always lifts too. There are hotels by the sea in Devon, where I live, but I don't think you could be certain of a sea view. Hotels in some of our most beautiful cities, like Bath, are also available. Eating out in the evening on your own can be lonely. Having your main meal at lunchtime may be preferable. I do wish you luck in your search.

Soozikinzi Mon 24-May-21 16:44:46

I go on marella cruises a lot with my husband and always notice there is a singles group who sit together at night and have a good chat about what they’ve been doing . There is a solo cruise organiser who has a chat about what they want to join in with , watching the shows or day trips etc . It’s also very safe on the ship and the staff are always very friendly to chat to . So I would definitely recommend them .

Arty2 Mon 24-May-21 16:52:13

message for lucky girl...Would you like company on a short break? Perhaps I could go with you somewhere. I was widowed in 2019. Live in Wales. Daughter in Yorkshire and rest of family all well away from here. Got some really good friends but cannot see them yet..

Bijou Mon 24-May-21 17:06:37

I know things have changed now but after I was widowed 38 years ago until I had to give up in my early eighties I went on coach holidays both home and abroad three or four times a year. I preferred to go alone and didn’t always go on the optional trips. I found other travellers were very friendly when they found I was alone and after the first meal never had to dine
I used Shearings, Saga and a local coach company.

mumofmadboys Mon 24-May-21 18:41:48

Have a look at HF holidays. Good for singles

Anitae Mon 24-May-21 18:58:58

Just been looking at solo holidays on Newmarket holidays. Look reasonable too. Anyone used them ?