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watermeadow Wed 09-Jun-21 06:49:19

There seems to be an assumption now that children are given two forenames. I read lots of references to “the second name”.
I know that two has been the commonest number for many years. Many people now also have double-barrelled surnames.
It used to be mostly the aristocracy who had several names, though my mother and her sisters (very humble) had three each.
My brothers had one each and so do two of my children. I thought it a bit special as it was less usual and their single names were quite long.
Have all your grandchildren, like mine, got two names?

Unigran4 Thu 10-Jun-21 13:54:34

I have two names, which has come in handy because there is another person in my district with the same first and surname. We both have the same doctor, the same dentist, the same optician, and use the same bank. I have received her dentist bill before now, and she has received calls from my doctor which were intended for me.

This was solved when I offered my middle Christian and asked if hers was the same. It isn't so I asked for measures to be put in place to use both our names when contacting either of us. No more stray bills, no more mixed prescriptions, etc etc. So sometimes it is a blessing.

mokryna Thu 10-Jun-21 13:49:53

I gave my three daughter three, one, easy European, second, their own godmother’s Christian name (French tradition) and third, my paternal grandmother’s.

nipsmum Thu 10-Jun-21 13:42:03

My 2 children and 4 grandchildren all have 2 names. My sisters and I each have 3 names. Our first names are different from the names we are called.

1summer Thu 10-Jun-21 13:29:42

I was glad I was given 2 names, my first name is Andrea and my family called me Andi. At 5 I went to school and was teased and bullied and called a boy as I had a boys name. It didn’t help my Mum cut my hair really short! I came home in tears for weeks until Mum went to the school and asked that I be called by my second name.

Bazza Thu 10-Jun-21 13:26:11

My middle name is Rae, I like it much more than my first name but it never occurred to me that I could change it. It was my late aunt’s middle name, also my daughters, and her daughter, so keeping it in the family. I’ve noticed it’s getting less unusual.

kentmaid Thu 10-Jun-21 13:14:07

dragonfly46

My DS, however, has 3 names as I thought they had a nice ring to them and his first name is only three letters ( I don’t like giving long names then shortening them).

My MIL chose single syllable names for her sons so they wouldn’t be shortened.

Soon after they started school, their peers lengthened the boys' names by adding “Y” or “IE.” Think Luke then Lukey or Lukie.

So that plan didn’t work.

jaylucy Thu 10-Jun-21 12:52:07

I have two names and I can remember one of my oldest fiends felt left out in primary school because she only had one, so she gave herself a second name!
No idea if she has ever made it legal by deed poll or anything.

Bossyrossy Thu 10-Jun-21 12:38:48

I don’t have a middle name and as a child I was always pleased that I didn’t, as most of my friends didn’t like theirs.
As an adult whose hobby is genealogy, I wish more people had middle names as it would make it much easier to distinguish one Jones or Smith from another.

jenpax Thu 10-Jun-21 12:36:01

In my family both sides its traditional to have two or more middle names my three children and 6 grandchildren all have two or three middle names

Laurensnan Thu 10-Jun-21 12:34:19

I only have 1 forename and have always felt jealous of those with two ?.
My granddaughter gave me a second name because I was the odd one out ....so I got the second name Rosie at 60!
My grandson has 2 forenames and a hyphenated surname. So I suppose my 1 name and 1 surname is easier to write on forms compared to how he'll be. So at least my boring name makes it easier for me ?

SecondhandRose Thu 10-Jun-21 12:30:08

I gave my children three each. grin

GrammaH Thu 10-Jun-21 12:24:11

I have 2 forenames as does DH. We chose 2 each for our children, with DS having a family name as his second name. His elder son now has this as his middle name whilst the younger son has his mother's maiden name, Stanley, as his middle name.

mimiEliza Thu 10-Jun-21 12:21:17

It is practical to have 2 initials in a name, especially if siblings or parents have the same first initial. Many years ago my GP said please don't name your third baby with same initial as 3 others in the family. I realised how right he was when I took my 3-year old daughter to surgery and GP looked puzzled as he had a huge pack of my medical notes for my child aged 3. Obviously, he was given the wrong notes! ps. I did give 3rd baby a different name!

GrammarGrandma Thu 10-Jun-21 12:21:10

OH and I both have two forenames. Our three daughters have three, the last being my mother's surname. The youngest married a double-barrelled husband, so dropped the third forename and my husband's surname. I wrote a book about names, published in the 1980s and long out of print. It's a fascinating subject.

knspol Thu 10-Jun-21 12:18:32

Only 1 name for me and my siblings but on a slightly different note I have noticed in the last year that several US friends have suddenly become double barrelled using maiden surname as well as married one. All fashion I suppose.

Janetashbolt Thu 10-Jun-21 12:04:11

My girls have 2 names, my grandson has 3, one is a family name all the males in his family have, from his dad

Theoddbird Thu 10-Jun-21 12:04:04

Four of my grandchildren have two names and two have three. My girls have three as I included my maiden name. My son has four

Alioop Thu 10-Jun-21 12:00:39

My parents & siblings, who were born in the 1920s & 1930s, all just had the one name, but all their children had two names. My 2nd name was my grandmother's name and my sis got the other grans as hers. There were four of us and my dad made up a rhyme for each of us using both our names. Still know all the words today.

lemsip Thu 10-Jun-21 11:58:51

I know a first born given a first name of peter and when another son came a year later he was named peter aswell....so first born was called by his second name quite unaware he was Peter. Indeed he married under his second name and it wasn't till hge applied for a birth certificate prior to going in the Navy that he discovered his real name. he was quite upset by this as his brother has his real name. hope that makes sense

Harmonypuss Thu 10-Jun-21 11:55:59

No GC here but I understand that everyone in our family from my grandparents onwards has/had a fist name and one middle name with the exception of my eldest son who I gave 2 middle names.

Nannashirlz Thu 10-Jun-21 11:52:13

I got my middle name from my mum’s middle name. My granddaughters both have middle names and only one as mine. My now ex daughter inlaw asked me if I minded her using it. She asked me and her mum at same time as we both had same middle name. She said she wouldn’t have done for just one of us. But wanted granddaughter to know she is carrying on her nans name. She is 10 now and thinks it is great to have our name.

grandtanteJE65 Thu 10-Jun-21 11:51:11

Most of the children I taught for the last two decades only had one given name.

Their parents' generation usually had one given name, but commonly had both their parents' surnames, with or without a hyphen.

My generation usually had two given names, and so did most in my parents' age-group, although my mother was christened Alice Catherine Elisabeth! In both my and my parents' generation some children did have their mother's maiden name as a middle name though.

Jillybird Thu 10-Jun-21 11:49:48

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Aepgirl Thu 10-Jun-21 11:45:20

I’ve got 3 forenames and often wondered why as both my sisters had 2.

slightlyvixed Thu 10-Jun-21 11:41:33

I only have one first name. I tell people there was name rationing after the war. Oh and that every fourth boy had to be called John and every fourth girl Susan.