It's our GN zoomiversary!

Aveline - I’m happy you & others have formed a good friendship group I really am.
Anything that helps & supports people through difficult times is brilliant.
I just thought the thread was about the GN I belong to - this one that me & you are chatting on now.
But probably time to let this thread die.
Again, I’m happy that you have made good friends.

Love & Peace x

Sigh. I really haven't. I don't offer 'constructive' criticism to other thread posters as I realise that people are free to post what they like within the limits of taste.

Aveline

I really don't get your point Kandinsky. We always referred to it as the 'Gransnet zoom'. That's what it was.

I think that you may have chosen not to understand anything slightly critical, even constructive criticism

Aveline

I really don't get your point Kandinsky. We always referred to it as the 'Gransnet zoom'. That's what it was.

Don’t let folks upset you, as I posted up thread, friendship is a gift to be cherished.

It sounds like your zoom meet-ups helped you all through the last months ????

I really don't get your point Kandinsky. We always referred to it as the 'Gransnet zoom'. That's what it was.

Op; what you should have done is ask for your thread title to be amended. Very simple thing to do.
It was clear from page 1 that this thread had caused confusion, and possible upset in some cases - but rather than admitting your thread title was misleading, you, & others from your tiny friendship group, became very defensive and at times damn right rude!
It doesn’t matter that you wouldn’t have met if it wasn’t for GN, it wasn’t a GN ‘Brand’ anniversary.

Did I say I wasn't? I'm irritated myself now and disappointed in a lot of people.

Aveline Well it irritated me, as I said. What does that illustrate? Not much.

I don't think that it's right to try to make out that GN is populated with bitter, envious, narcissists as Katek said. (I don't understand the choice of the word narcissist here btw.)

Anyway, as long as you are happy with it.
I thought that you might be upset, I'm glad that you are not.

I thought about asking for the thread to be taken down but don't want to as it illustrates what people are like on here. It was a positive happy thread that seemed to irritate others. Interesting.

Aveline I do hope that you are okay.
I was critical of the thread yesterday, and I still maintain that it was ill considered, so please don't think I'm being two faced or hypocritical.
However, I am concerned that you are really taking this to heart too much. We do love a bit of a barny on here; please don't take all of the critisim so personally.
In addition, many posters have been very supportive.
If I were you I'd ask for the thread to be taken down, as it's just going to rumble on, stoking ill feeling, with no resolution on the horizon.
I'd just draw a line under it and move on (and other assorted clichés!)

We met at Gransnet meet ups. We only knew each other via Gransnet. We would never have met at all if it hadn't been for Gransnet. That's why it's in the title. Thank you Gransnet.

The problem with this thread is the op used the word ‘gransnet’ in her thread title.
That’s the only reason I clicked on it.
Had she said; ‘yay! A small group of us have been chatting on zoom now for a year’ I wouldn’t have bothered looking at it.
The title was extremely misleading - that’s what annoyed people.

Every group I have ever belonged to has had sub groups or cliques as some would say. Just a part of life. I am in a few groups and in some I am part of the ‘inner circle’ if you like, others not so. I don’t care, it doesn’t matter.

Congratulations on your Zoomversary! ??

I’ve been to ‘real life’ meetings in Scotland, Manchester, Exeter and Paignton. I met some interesting people and one or two of them have become (albeit distant) friends.

I think it was very enterprising to set up an online group to continue meeting during the lockdown periods and I’m glad to hear about it.

rafichagran, you have summed it up perfectly!

I'm sad that it has caused much upset, which can't be undone.

I think its lovely that all 8 of you enjoyed your Zoom meeting, but it was just that a meeting of friends, it was not a GN zoom meeting.
It's a shame the way the OP was worded, in fact it is a shame it was posted at all. It seems to have caused alot of ill feeling.

what nonsense!

Well done GNers for taking the initiative and doing something to help keep the lock down blues away.

Having fun is obviously another of those things you are not allowed to mention for fear of upsetting someone - adding to the list of husbands, houses, holidays, cleaning....what nonsense.

Katek, total overreaction, sorry but it is.

cannot believe that mature women who should be showing the next generation what is acceptable behaviour can only show resentment, bitterness, narcissism and more than a touch of the green eyed monster. You nay sayers are behaving like the ‘gang’ you accuse us of being - ironic really - it’s like Lord of the Flies

Cannot believe my eyes.
It has been said over the last year or so perhaps that GN is no longer the friendly, non-judgemental , inclusive place it was.
This confirms it - insults are being hurled around like cabers at the Highland Games and never who might get hurt.
Way OTT KateK
This was a private group , by dint of it being by invitation only, - fair enough- but was it not unfortunate to add the GN “branding” of the OP heading the thread GM. zoomiversary ?
A day which will go down in the annals of GN as doing it it no credit whatsoever.

Aveline

Lucca have you read my reasons for posting? Oh just forget it.

Yes I have and I understand but I was just trying to point out why posters may have had a negative reaction but you do seem unwilling to accept that

JaneJudge

No one has ever wanted me in their friendship groups but I thought the original post was just trying to illustrate that something nice had happened in an awful year because of gransnet. I don't think it was meant to be spiteful

I don't think it was, JaneJudge but perhaps ill-judged.

Katek I too, even as a bystander am saddened, I’ve seen a side to people that’s disappointing.

That is just plain daft Katek.
resentment, bitterness, narcissism and more than a touch of the green eyed monster. You nay sayers are behaving like the ‘gang’ you accuse us of being - ironic really - it’s like Lord of the Flies, I’m sure you’d be delighted if your grandchildren exhibited the same behaviours you have been demonstrating today.

I've been chatting to a primary school DGD about inclusivity and the need to be kind and include a classmate who is displaying the kind of tendencies you accuse some on the thread of having.

No one has ever wanted me in their friendship groups but I thought the original post was just trying to illustrate that something nice had happened in an awful year because of gransnet. I don't think it was meant to be spiteful