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Lucca Thu 24-Jun-21 07:19:12

Seeing this weird story made me wonder if anyone had experience of awful, wonderful, strange neighbours ? (I’m very lucky as mine are all round good eggs!)

BusterTank Sat 26-Jun-21 16:53:53

My neighbours are just like the one's who cut the tree in half . We live in the country and they have wanted to cut every bush and tree down they can get there hands . Then replace it all with fencing , which will rot in time . They are in there 70,s and have a very passive aggressive attitude . They moved to the country and have tried to change country living since they moved in . We are all on septic tanks are happy with it , except them who think we should all be on main sewage . I am beginning to wonder why they moved to the country if they want to change everything about it . You know what they say there's nothing as weird as folk .

Lilyflower Sat 26-Jun-21 16:39:28

Two not atwo!

Lilyflower Sat 26-Jun-21 16:38:41

Funnily enough, on a walk together this morning, the DH said to me that the only thing that would make him want to move house would be if bad neighbours moved in.

We really like our neighbours. One is a lovely family:- a mum, dad, atwo girls and a dog. The children have grown from babies when they moved in to A level and GCSE years now and are a credit to their parents. The dog gives one bark in a day and that is all we hear from her.

On the other side is an older, single lady who has completely neglected her house and garden for about fifteen years. She is friendly and no bother at all. When we think that the front garden might be tidied before it disappears under a jungle we remind ourselves of who might buy the place were she to leave!

M0nica Sat 26-Jun-21 16:07:58

We have lovely neighbours, we get on really well, but they have a very large garden and to the best of my knowledge have not done anything to it since they moved in 30 years ago and little enough to the house.

Lack of money doesn't seem to be a problem, as if things really need doing they are done. But one or two tradesmen we have employed have regailed us with tales of things they wanted done that were dangerous, which the electrician refused to do, only to find on a later visit they had cobbled something together themselves.

I spent the whole of this morning going round our boundary clearing all the weeds etc that were encroaching on our property. Brambles, nettles and hops over topping a 6 foot fence all cut back and the trimmings left in their - wasteland/jungle/'garden', then pulling up nettles, bindweed and ground elder out of the beds up against our boundary fence.

homefarm Sat 26-Jun-21 16:06:49

Answer NO
A complete nightmare

Kareware Sat 26-Jun-21 15:56:42

We have awful neighbours also, Mrs is a screaming banshee from 5 am in the morning, vacuums at 05.30am, screams at the dog, screams at her partner, screams at her daughter but is sweetness and light once her foot is over the front door threshold on her way out… we started to renovate the house just before 1st lockdown… she has inherited a large sum of money and has had hers done before we have finished ours, we had a hell of a mess after 8 months of her renovations,but if we accidentally drop anything onto “her side”of the face she goes absolutely mad!
I’m sure she isn’t wired up right as they say, as she complains about everything so much so the whole house is out of bounds permanently except the extension where they sit watching what we are doing all day as she has retired now… nightmare comes to mind it so e rule for her and another for us.

Clarer Sat 26-Jun-21 15:48:28

No my neighbours are awful. One side they shout and scream all day. I think the grown up daughter actually is psychotic. The other side an extended family (parents and several children and grandkids) inhabit neighbouring houses. Imagine a cross between Jeremy Kyle show and Wayne and waynetta slob……you get the picture. hmm

greenlady102 Sat 26-Jun-21 15:29:15

GrAnne2

L’enfer ces les autres …!

hahahahaha

Phoebe1 Sat 26-Jun-21 15:27:58

I live in a bungalow with 5 terraced houses nearby, one of them who moved in 3 years ago I found out has accused me of complaining about them parking, I have live here for 10 years and have never ever said anything of the sort, my son was going to have a word, but I said it wasn’t worth it as he is a very arrogant man, all I could think of was the wife must have overheard me talking about sand and cement that was left in a parking bay by the council and I had said to my daughter that I hoped it wouldn’t be there for long as we need all the parking bays, the wife is obviously very paranoid and only caught half of the MY conversation, it’s made for uncomfortable living

BeverleyJB Sat 26-Jun-21 15:26:53

I think if I lived next door to the moaning minnies in the newspaper article, I would be buying a CD of birdsong which I might find I enjoyed so much it be played very often right next to a window on their side of my house which also might happen to be open. wink

lovebeigecardigans1955 Sat 26-Jun-21 15:25:12

Touch wood my present neighbours are fine. There was a bit of a problem with noise with the previous next-door-but-one chaps - two young men who treated their home as a party house but they've moved on now.

At a previous house there was a couple who kept trimming the hedge between us so that it never grew into a proper boundary but we decided to ignore it. By comparison to some I've been lucky.

suelld Sat 26-Jun-21 15:15:46

My Neighbour is lovely - and literally saved my life! In April this year he had a parcel for me the postman left with him for me, and a friend, who had been trying to contact me, both tried my door - he has a key - when they realised it was bolted inside he called the Police, who called an armed response unit and broke in - and to cut a long story short I was in bed unconscious and had been for 3 days!! I had near renal failure and Sepsis - it was touch and go but I survived. He previously checked in on me when I was ill and took me to hospital appointments when necessary - I'm not really ill or disabled normally I just have kidney stones, and some other medical issues but until now I've been running my own business from home. He occasionally buys me a few groceries when he's out, and nowadays checks in on me quite regularly. He's around my age (mid 70s) and has prostate cancer himself - but I couldn't wish for a better neighbour. I am so lucky.

nipsmum Sat 26-Jun-21 15:04:09

I have okay neighbours . of the 6 neighbours 5 are elderly and one is still young enough to work. We tend to look out for each other and rarely have problems. I would say we are all quite tolerant.

Barmeyoldbat Sat 26-Jun-21 15:03:42

We had a small tree growing in our back garden by the boundary wall, came home one day and found it chopped in half. Neighbour denied doing it. Must have been the fairies.

coastalgran Sat 26-Jun-21 14:57:31

I have lovely neighbours apart from one couple who have a second home beside me. We call them "Barbie & Ken" and everyone knows when they are here as there is always a big flourish of activity and he needs to have the parking bay nearest to his house for his Discovery (Square box model) with the private reg KW61 DAD. The rest of us are amazed at the pair of them who dart out into the garden every time any of the neighbours go walking past. Last time they kept the couple the other side of me talking out on the communal lawned area for 3 whole hours. Luckily with lockdown and the tiered system in Scotland we haven't seen that much of them for 18 months. Peace & quiet for our birds to sing.

Rosina Sat 26-Jun-21 14:57:22

I would be so stressed to have neighbours who hated birdsong and then did something silly and destructive. What a miserable pair they must be. My immediate next door neighbours are wonderful; the other side are a bit strange, but I try to remember that everybody is somebody's 'weirdo', so we nod and smile - they are no trouble!

LittlemoO Sat 26-Jun-21 14:38:57

I live in a courtyard(sounds posh, really just a square) of 20
houses, with a built up garden in the middle. It had a lovely tree in it which I loved, the birds nested in it, and the blossom was beautiful every year. One of the neighbours, who had been here the longest, complained all the time, that it blocked her view, and made a mess when blossom started to fall, so waited till most people had gone out , and had it cut down, it took 30 years to grow and I was so upset.

SunnySusie Sat 26-Jun-21 14:33:05

We have the best neighbour in the world one side. She is 95 now and the kindest and sweetest person. The other side are a real pain in the proverbial. His lordship knows everything about everything, thinks he is always right and aggressively defends his right to do anything he likes, no discussion is ever possible. He is the barbie king of the neighbourhood, with the barbie positioned on the fence line next to our patio where he stands seemingly for hours, usually bellowing down his mobile phone to his 'mates' whilst 'cooking'. If the barbie isnt fired up, then its power tools of every kind imaginable. It got so bad over the past year we have taken to going to the village green with a picnic rather than try and sit in the garden. He has been on furlough seemingly for ever and I am praying for a return to work in the hope I can at some point reclaim my beloved garden. The patio doors havent been opened since they were installed eighteen months ago!

GrAnne2 Sat 26-Jun-21 14:32:56

? Greciangirl - my husband wants to start a new movement: “Loathe thy Neighbour’!

grannytotwins Sat 26-Jun-21 14:31:17

I have great neighbours now. In my last house I had the neighbours from hell both sides. When we moved in we had a glorious view from our garden over miles of water meadow and out to the distant sea. Neighbour A bought mature trees and planted them by our fence. They grew to the top of his three storey house and lost us all sun in our garden. The other side raised the fence, planted fast growing trees, unsuitable for planting near a house as they had very intrusive roots and planted mixed hedges that grew to nine feet. Our sunless garden felt like a cage. They were both rude and aggressive. We sold to get away. We now have a sunny garden and lovely neighbours. Fingers crossed that they stay.

Greciangirl Sat 26-Jun-21 14:24:50

In a word ‘NO’.

Purplepoppies Sat 26-Jun-21 14:08:38

When my dgd lived here my upstairs neighbour was a nightmare. She constantly complained about the 'noise' my dgd made. Playing, crying etc. It was normal noise of a small child. Who was always in bed by 7/8 pm. Not up in the night.
It made me unwell.
Until one day I realised she had no right to make me feel like that. Nothing that was going on was antisocial.
The next time she banged my door I told her where to go..... she didn't do it again!
She's complained about every tenant in the rented property above her and has even complained about the small child two floors above her!!
I have to say she isn't the quietest of neighbours herself!
My neighbours next door have been very difficult, worse during the pandemic.
I hear him shouting at his wife, I've heard him beating her too. Sometimes their music is so loud there isn't a room in my flat that I can't hear it ?
More recently the neighbour above them has a dog who is being left all day to howl.....
The council and the rspca will do nothing about this poor dog!
I can't wait to move ?

Jess20 Sat 26-Jun-21 14:07:58

I normally like my neighbours but the current one so clearly loathes us I can't say I have any positive thoughts about her at all. Very noisy, loud music until 5.30 am and constant complaints about us, everything from our car to me sitting in the communal garden. She's looking for things to complain about aggressively by email, and is insulting and rude. I'm normally quite easygoing but I have grown to loathe this woman, very sad. I'm not alone as the other neighbours are starting to experience the same and mentioning it to me.

Auntieflo Sat 26-Jun-21 13:55:14

We have been here for 53 years, and have had good neighbours, until the house next door was let out to tenants, after a family tragedy.
Most of them were good, but we did have one awful family here for about two years. I discovered that there were drugs involved. Luckily they did a flit, and were replaced with more lovely people.
At the moment there is a small family in the process of moving in, and yesterday we had a note and small present on the doorstep, introducing themselves. Dad, daughter and son, from Hong Kong.
We have yet to meet them face to face, but what a nice start!

Kryptonite Sat 26-Jun-21 13:36:01

It took three house moves to finally get good neighbours following years of different types of neighbours from hell. Been so happy here for the last 20 years.