Hurtful comment, never forgotten

You are all very kind…thank you…..????

Ps shinamae. Your feet look lovely to me!

Oh yes, you definitely don’t forget things said to you as a child. Once I became an adult, I vowed never to talk down to a child, even in jest. In fact these days, I’d be more likely to be put in my place for it, and quite right too.

I’ve been told I’m not nice to be with, age 7. I’m the noisiest eater n the world, all through childhood. My younger sister was just better than me generally. Lots more.

Beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder, as I can’t see it in Princess Anne, but then I never saw her as a young woman.

Sorry, pedicure!!!

Hurtful remarks do stay with you, or at least they do with me. Have for upwards of 70 years so unlikely to be forgotten as long as I have working grey cells! My husband tells me I need to get a thicker skin. I was in no doubt at all that I was a plain child but as you get older a little makeup can change a lot, as can a good hairstyle. I think I grew into my looks as I got older and am fine with my (lightly made up) face and my hair now. My legs are another matter and thank goodness for trousers, which I can pretty much live in now I’m retired! Shinamae your feet are much nicer than mine, which have just got worse with each passing year. I’ve never had the courage to bare them for a manicure and just do my best with a foot file, cream and nail varnish. I’d love nice, pretty feet but tell myself there must be a lot of people who would love to have feet, or at least ones that work.

When I was 12 I was on a bus with my mother and golden princess sister when another passenger said "What a pity ones plain and one's pretty"

My sister was exceptionally pretty with white blonde curly hair. I was gawky with mousy hair. Everyone said my sister looked like Princess Anne as a young girl (and yes Anne was a pretty child and is still a handsome woman).

I went to my grandmother crying that it was unfair that my sister was so pretty and I so ugly. My grandmother was a very straightforward woman, who always said it like it was. So she gave me some tough love.

"Your not ugly but you are whats called plain. That means ordinary so people don't notice you. I was a plain girl. In those days we could not use make up because it was not considered respectable for women of my class. But nowadays a plain girl can make the most of herself with the right make up, hair style and clothes. So you can be just as good as your sister when you get older."

She then went on to point out that some of the great Hollywood actresses like Bette Davis and Barbara Stanwyk were not at all beautiful. She pointed out that Bette Davis was quite plain and Barbara Stanwyk very ugly with a huge mouth. However these women gave out the illusion of beauty because of their props, jewellery and fashions. And also because of their great talent as actresses they made people believe they were beautiful.

I never forgot the hurtful words of that passenger. But I also remembered my grandmothers wise words. When I grew older I took a lot of trouble with my appearance and spent a lot on clothes. I knew I would never be beautiful in the conventional sense but I was a very attractive young woman.

I wore them today and they were very comfortable but did give me a blister………. On my bunion ?

The mules do hide a multitude of foot sins…..?

I have just taken a photo of my naked left foot but can’t bring myself to put it on it is so awful!! ?‍♀️?‍♀️?‍♀️?‍♀️

Yes, you've got nice feet, Shinamae

Well done shinamae! Absolutely nothing wrong with your feet in those strappy mules - very flattering!

I knew someone who had all her toes straightened!
It was bad enough having a middle one straightened; they break it, cut the tendon and ligaments and put a pin through it to keep it straight while it mends.

So does mine.
They all serve sideways, my toes.
All those years of wearing sensible, flat, black lace ups and this is the result.
I should sue my mum!

MissAdventure

Ooh, go on!
I'll show you my hammer toe.

I had my hammer toe straightened years ago.
It grew sideways under the one next to it.

Absolutely not.

I wouldn't want to give Granny nightmares!

Prove it!

I think I'll win the prize for worst feet.
?

Ooh, go on!
I'll show you my hammer toe.

I am tempted to put a photo on of my left foot with the bunion but think it might get the site shutdown!!! ???? (oh that reminds me I need to watch that film again with Daniel Day Lewis!!)

He takes size 9, I'm only little, it would look very odd.
But he has got nice feet, if a bit manly.

You could have one each and hop.

He's heard it several times before.
He said he'd offer his if he could but he needs them!

What was his reply?

Shinamae yours look fine.

I said this evening to DH: "I need a foot transplant"!!

As some of you know I work in a care home and I kid you not most of the ladies there have got lovely feet and some of the men’s feet are better than mine!!!?? but thank you for your kind remarks ??