Crying baby

Aren’t coddling and cuddling two different things?

Callistemon

My fingers would be itching to prise their phones from their fingers before you hand over the baby, saying 'here's your child, he needs your attention' but of course, you can't do that .....


Poor little chap

I would certainly do that Callistemon the parents need to sort out their priorities.
As others have said Frustration leave the baby with them and do something you enjoy in peace and quiet.

UGH!!!!Mobile phones. How old are the parents? Teenagers?
I would give them the baby when he cries and say I think he wants his mum/dad, why does the father come round to see his son and then sit on the phone? Honestly!

My fingers would be itching to prise their phones from their fingers before you hand over the baby, saying 'here's your child, he needs your attention' but of course, you can't do that .....


Poor little chap

Grandmabatty , I do feel your comments are unkind. Of course Frustration likes her GC , she loves him . However she is struggling with child care and is very anxious as her DH is trying to work from home. She is absolutely correct when she says she needs to explain to the parents he is their child not hers! The child is not her responsibility. Frustration has her husband and his job to consider.
Clearly the baby is not happy and seems to cry most of the time. That could be for any number if reasons , health or he is sensing the tension. Either way the parents must address the situation , the mother should stop expecting Grandma to sort it out!

Generally , babies don't cry for nothing.

Yes, give the baby to one of them when they are there and go away into another room.

You do sound worn out and at the end of your tether and I feel sorry for you and for the baby who obviously needs attention.

How old is the baby?

Give the baby to the parents when they are home.

Neither do I agree with the comment from grandmabatty. If you are caring for the baby all day then it is the parents’ responsibility to look after their own child when they get home. They should be spending the time with the baby not on their phones. It must also be difficult for your husband if he is working from home. If the baby is crying continually then your daughter needs to visit the doctor or speak to the Health Visitor. As others have said make yourself scarce you deserve a break and let both parents take responsibility.

On their phones.

Let the parents be more hands on, they should not be ignoring the baby just because they are in there phones.
The comment by GrandmaBatty was wrong please ignore it.

Talk to them - say you are happy to take responsibility for the baby when they are at work (if that is true) but that as soon as they walk in the door the responsibility transfers to them.

Be clear!

I would suggest to the parents when they sit down their attention should be to their child not their phones. I would remind them that you have cared for the baby all day now it’s up to them. Leave them to it they both need to grow up and take responsibility for their child.

Excellent plan Elegran, the baby is the parents responsibility and the OP deserves a bit of non baby time after all day of it. As I assume the father is visiting to see his baby, his ‘seeing’ should be hands on.

Lockdown babies have lots of different experiences as opposed to babies born pre Covid-19, patience is needed here, for all concerned.

I think picking up the baby and giving it to one of them and leaving the room is a good suggestion. I do understand the use of the word screeching, the Nan here has obviously linked into the need to respond to whatever level of crying the baby is doing and the parents haven't!

There's no such thing as over coddling a baby. If they cry, they need comforted. How old is he now and how often do you mind him? 2 of my DGC and my DD1 had colic so cried a lot. They were comforted by rocking, wandering round garden singing, walks, short spells of toys. It is constant hard work when you look after a baby/toddler. No use planning more than basic meals and washing up. There are things like my Hummy, Ewan the sheep, noise apps for babies, going in the car etc. I downloaded "60 minutes womb sounds" (Baby-Einschlafhilfe) to my iPhone which helped DGS2. You need to have it loudish though. Might send your DH to sleep! When they are bigger go out a lot - parks, shops, walks, baby groups when they start up again. Lots of toys like baby mat with sounds, baby bouncer etc. You can get decent ones from gumtree or fb marketplace or friends.

Exactly what Elegran says.
Make sure the ‘screeching’ baby (poor thing) is in the same room as them and vacate yourself pulling the door to after you. Go have a shower, watch tv upstairs, wash up, walk the dog, whatever. It’s their child.

Perhaps the parents could make an effort to find out at some point.

Use of 'screeching'. It's a rather unpleasant term to refer to her grandchild crying. Inferring that the baby was 'coddled too much.' How can you cuddle a baby too much? Perhaps the child misses it's mum, needs attention, has an illness. My feeling from what was written is that this baby is a hindrance to the op. Poor wee thing. Ignored by its parents (allegedly) and it's grandma wants it to shut up. Babies cry. If the baby cries incessantly what has been done to find out what's wrong.

That's a huge leap Grandmabatty! Where does she say she doesn't like the baby?

Lift the baby and put him down beside one of them, then go away and do something else, in another room. If they criticise this because "they are are on their phone," reply, "I have quietened him all day when he cried, to let your father get on with his work. He is your baby again now that you are home, and I have things to do."

If you act like his parent when his mother is there to do it, you will find yourself becoming the one who always reacts, while she reverts to being a child who lets mother take responsibility.

You say "When both of his parents are here". Baby's father is quite capable of taking responsibility for him too, as well as his mother. They are both grown-up enough to make a child, so they are grown-up enough to look after him.

As you don't seem to like the child I would suggest they move out and find alternative child care