A few minutes of tv . I am now an arch-criminal

What do they want you to do to amuse him for hours at a time?
I sympathise, you weren’t sticking him in front of the tv for
the entire day.

Your AC expect a lot from you, and sound rather selfish.

So sorry for you mittensmum 3 full-on days without even tea breaks!
I was glad to have my breaks reinstated when I went back to work when my DDs went to school and I was in my late 30s!

If DGS went to nursery they would have to go along with what ever activity was on offer - which in today's climate could well include the odd tv or computer time - skills needed in our modern world.

It always amazed me how quickly my DDs pick up info off a screen - i.e. Train/airport timetables.

Is there a religious reason for no tv?

I'm with nanaK54

a) If I was looking after a child for three days, presumably unpaid, I would expect to be allowed discretion about the activities he was offered.
b) I would seriously consider reducing the hours I give in voluntary childcare.
c) I would not allow my children to give me a 'right royal telling off' for looking after their child.
The cheek of it.

As they are saving money on childcare by you looking after your grandson they should be grateful to you for the care you give. The way forward is to work on the basis of what happens at grandmas stays at grandmas or you might have to stop looking after your grandson.

I have been looking after my grandson for the last 3 years and my dd and sil have accepted that I might not do everything the same way as they do - I am probably stricter in somethings and more lenient in others - but they know that l love him and will look after him to the best of my ability.

I hope you can sort out the problems you having.

MittensMum I feel so sorry for you for your feelings being hurt in that way. Sons and daughters/in laws should be more careful before they open their mouths and hurt well meaning loving grannies. I guess we’ve all been there so don’t take it to heart.

Exactly ! If they want you to look after him, it’s your call. A 2 -year old cannot be harmed by a bit of children’s tv. As a matter of fact, I think children’s tv is quite educational - seriously, that’s what I think !
And you look after him 3 days a week ……

How lucky they are to have childcare ( free!) for several days a week.
Be firm with your DD and say you are older now and it’s hard work ( there’s a reason 70 olds don’t have toddlers)!
If you need some quiet sit down time she will have to agree that he/she can have some suitable children’s tv time.If not then you cannot continue to do this for her.
Why is everyone so afraid of what their AC say these days?
Our children still see us as the Mum they grew up with and are thoughtless sometimes.

I look after my grandson who is two and has dropped his nap. It's exhausting and I'm early sixties. Tell them that you will watch TV with him when you or he needs a rest and if they don't like it, they're welcome to find alternative childcare. I sympathise.

Jog on indeed!
What a blooming cheek.
If they want you to look after him, they have to leave you to do what suits you.

Goodness me, have the parents told you that all screen time is banned? Difficult if you have gone against their wishes, but I can totally see the attraction of 20 minutes peace when he has been so good all day. Looking after a toddler 3 days a week is an incredible imposition, and perhaps you need to suggest other ways that you could get a rest, and reward him for being such a good boy. Blaming you for any temper tantrums is totally unfair.

Hopefully this will blow over quickly and if you do need to resort to screen time as a last resort in the future, keep quiet about it! (Yes, I know, parents rules to be respected at all times, but surely we should have some sympathy for the OP, I know I have!)

Well I am afraid your son/daughter whichever would be told to look for other childcare, actually I would just tell them to 'jog on'!
20 minutes of TV will not cause tantrums or problems at bedtime.

I’m not meaning to criticise, but I do think that’s an important point about respecting his parents’ wishes.