Dont want to go out

No, Rosycheeks you are not being lazy - you are doing things that you enjoy doing at a pace that is right for you.
Not everyone wants to fill their retirement days racing here, there and everywhere, whereas others feel the need to and can't relax unless they are out "doing".
I enjoy going out, but equally, I love pottering at home. The hardest thing for me is doing absolutely nothing - I get a bit restless and feel as if I should be doing something, though I am getting better at putting that feeling of guilt away, but it does rear its ugly head occasionally. ?
No, you continue enjoying what you are doing and don't worry by overthinking "what I should be doing". ?

Before COVID, I had an adult DC with learning disabilities to care for, and take to and from places, DH to visit almost daily in a nursing home and some school pick ups of DGC. I found it very stressful, so lockdown was a bit of a blessing. I love days when I don’t have to go anywhere. Now, I try to ensure that I don’t have too many places to be in one day. It doesn’t always work! The other day, I dropped AC off at placement, went straight to meet a friend, who had come fifty miles to the city, and wanted to meet for lunch. Had the hairdresser at 3.00, then pick up of AC, then home to prepare for the arrival of 2 DGS for a couple of nights while renovations going on at their home. Too much! One blessing is that the boys no longer need so much entertaining! We need time to ourselves to recharge the batteries. Rosy cheeks - enjoy!

Susie Dent tweeted a word that applies to me and that is spuddle. To appear to be busy but achieve absolutely nothing. Mind you, that applied to me when I was working as well but I’ve really perfected it since retiring. I hasten to add that I did work really hard when I was working and I did try but I always noticed that other people would achieve far more in less time.

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Nonogran, I'm just like you! I could potter for the Team GB Olympic Pottering squad....

Me too, in fact I have already won the gold medal for Pottering.?

I love being home. O.H. gets bored easily so we are always going here, there, and everywhere.
He is off to his daughter’s soon and I am looking forward to having my lovely home to myself.

Enjoy it OP.
“Yer a lang time deid.”

The joy of retirement is that you get to do different things to being at work. I worked for almost 50 years long shifts and planned everything on my days off and fitted housework in too. It was stressful and exhausting. Now I accept that however I fill my days its my choice. I have busy days, I have lazy days, I stay in, I go out. I have friends who really struggle with filling their time as though it must be filled and friends with no motivation at all. I class my self as somewhere in the middle. There is no right or wrong way. So no I don't think you are lazy at all. Don't feel guilty about your hubby working it seems its not an issue to him. Enjoy your days however you fill them.. x

Its your life to do as you please so enjoy how you are living it and never feel guilty. Keep calm and potter

I'm glad for you Rosiecheeks.
You will change your habits when and if you want to.
You and your husband seem happy with the arrangement, so sit back and savour.

Sounds perfect to me. I have had a hard time adjusting to retirement it was a shock to my system but realise I deserve an easier life after working from 15 , bringing up a family, divorce etc etc. Enjoy

I feel a bit like you. I worked 44 years without a break in a high pressure environment, working long hours. Now I really enjoy pottering at home. I still get up reasonably early but instead of having to rush off to work, I luxuriate on the sofa with a coffee and watch the birds on the feeder.
I still enjoy a holiday but am generally happy at home and often find excuses not to go places. Enjoy your new lifestyle, you’ve earned it.

Just do as you please, after a lifetime of working for a living you deserve to do whatever you please. Not sure about housework every day though, you might grow out of it???

RosyCheeks you do as you wish.. if you enjoy being at home and being active there, why shouldn’t you. We are all different.

Nonogran, I'm just like you! I could potter for the Team GB Olympic Pottering squad....

I don't feel like going out either. And the covid pandemic has increased my disinclination. I'm not bothered at all about getting out and about. I do lots of stuff about the house, I cook, I'm not overweight. I enjoy reading, music, listening to audiobooks, tv. DH is the same. We get twice weekly supermarket deliveries and buy everything online. Quite happy.

I love staying at home, mostly in loose casuals, just pottering about or doing absolutely nothing. Oh the effort of changing into smart, uncomfortable clothes, brushing your hair, slapping on some foundation !!!!! I’d rather stay in ….

Yes I forgot about the migraines, they were awful but stopped when I stopped work.

Just enjoy what you are doing. Eventually you will feel the need to expand your horizons.

I'm lucky enough to have retired early, I am a home bird, but there I am out every morning with the dogs on the beach, in the woods or park back home and usually circuit training in the afternoon. Have a motorhome but just can't be bothered to go away in this glorious weather we have been having, probably go away when the children are back in school. So I say, do as you want to, lifes to short please yourself you deserve it.

Enjoy yourself. So many find the transition to retirement hard, and here you are having a lovely time.

How wonderful!

Probably in the course of the next few months you will feel like going out and about again - the pandemic hasn't really made any of us want to go anywhere.

Right now, enjoy being a full-time housewife, I did too for at least the first year of retirement. Now three years later and post-surgery and lockdowns, I am raring to go anywhere and everywhere I can - not all the time, but at suitable intervals.

Sounds to me your DH is a sensible man, ask him to tell you if, or when, he begins to think you are staying too much at home.

Sounds perfect your living my dream ??

I often used to get a migraine on Saturdays when I was working. I realised it was because I was sleeping for longer. Also they seemed to stop post menopause.

I'm not retired yet, but when I'm not working I love nothing better than being at home.
My own space, with my favourite coffee in stock (free of charge, sort of), my own choice of music in the background.
Lovely!!

Two days out on the trot and I feel overwhelmed ?

I don’t want to go away on holiday or even a short break and this has been going on well before covid. I love my house and garden, going out for walks is plenty enough for me. But my DH is very keen on travelling as soon as convenient, so I’ll have to make an effort to keep him happy. I used to love travelling too, but I now feel I’ve been there, done that, bought the T shirt.

I love being retired. I love pottering at home and best of all I love sleeping until late when I want to! I don’t hanker to go out I just love being at home. If and when I do go out, sometimes for the day to the coast or moors, you’re sure to find me at home the following day! I like being able to “pace” myself. Deep joy.