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Did you ever see your mum cry other than at the death of someone.

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Nortsat Mon 06-Sept-21 18:49:59

No, I didn’t.
She must have kept all sorts of feelings contained.

I had never even thought of that until you posted travels. You have certainly caused me to reflect.

Kate1949 Mon 06-Sept-21 18:46:14

Very frequently. She was a battered wife.

Blondiescot Mon 06-Sept-21 18:43:56

No, never, not even when someone died. In fact, when my own dad died and we got home from his funeral, she gave me hell for crying and "making a show of her". Even as a young child, if I cried, it only made matters worse in her eyes.

Nonogran Mon 06-Sept-21 17:25:44

My mum would row with Dad and cry. It was devastating for us.
My parents eventually split but thankfully put their differences aside and were friends until Dad passed away. I hated to see Mum upset.

Grandma70s Mon 06-Sept-21 17:19:26

My mother cried every time Kathleen Ferrier (a famous singer who died young, for those who don’t know) was on the radio - well, her recordings were. This was when I was in my early teens, and I found it incredibly embarrassing.

Later when I was thinking of going to live in Australia with my Australian husband (we didn’t) she told me when I was older that she had cried a great deal, but in private. She didn’t want to make me feel bad about it.

tanith Mon 06-Sept-21 17:09:24

She had terminal cancer and she cried when I selfishly said what am I going to do without you. I don’t remember any other time not even when my Dad died she must of cried when she was alone.

travelsafar Mon 06-Sept-21 17:00:32

I remember seeing my mum sobbing in her bedroom one morning. I had been outside playing with friends and i came in for something and couldnt find her. As i went to the bottom of the stairs to call her, i heard a strange noise. I crept up the stairs and there she was on the end of her bed sobbing. I didnt know what to do. She must have sensed i was there as she turned round and smiled at me saying' what a silly old mum you've got' I rushed in and hugged her. My mum crying was unheard of. Many years later i knew why, her marriage to my father was coming to an end and she must have felt terribly alone as back in the day you didnt talk about this kind of thing, not like today when there are lots of ways to obtain help and advise. Even thinking about it breaks my heart as she must have been so afraid for the future.