Do you dislike people who disagree with you?

For me it's the way the message is delivered rather than the content. My sister in law, if disagreeing with me always starts with 'tell me if I'm out of line saying this' or ' this is what I think, but just my opinion' whereas my MIL will say ' you shouldn't do that/that's a load of old tosh' etc which gets my back up....

I am aware that I live in a bubble. Most, if not all of my friends are generally tolerant left-leaning types who work or have worked in professional jobs. That’s not because I necessarily seek that out in friends, more that that is usually the sort of people I meet.

When I do come across other views it tends to be online (not just on here), and that’s one of the things I like about online communication - the chance to hear other points of view that challenge my own. Unfortunately online communication is notorious for being the refuge of the intransigent and people who aren’t open to discussion, so it doesn’t always end well.

I agree with GagaJo

Political views, I'm also OK with difference to a certain extent. But right-wing beliefs, no. I'm not tolerant of them. They're not about equality, they're about selfishness so not tolerable.

In fact all my close UK friends vote labour. We worked in local government together and our close friendships last. I love a good political discussion and never take offence when we disagree. I emailed them sending Suzanne Moore's sacking by the Guardian and we can discuss cancel culture over dinner. Rather curious but I have not got any openly Conservative friends, although my children and grandchildren are all Conservative voters. I like people for their personalities and for their positive attitudes. Look at Scones and me....we disagree here on politics but agree that we would get on like a house on fire.

I've tried that Smileless2012. I had a lovely friend who was a Trump supporter. I tried to be open to her opinions but when she started defending Brett Kavanagh I stopped being open to her discussions. She also turned out to be a closet racist and became more open with her comments when she found I was trying to be open to discussion of opinions.

In the end, she had to go

'Variety is the spice of life' isn't it. Different opinions are good to hear. They can expand our minds, provide food for thought and can sometimes provide an entirely new and not considered before perspective.

I have very different views from my best friend but we don't discuss things we disagree on ie vaxine, protests, Brexit, religion, politics, covid etc. She is a very kind caring supportive person and we've been friends for many years. My family have lots of different views to mine which we do discuss but agree to disagree.
My extended family fall out over differences and there is a lot of bad feeling for a long time. I really can't understand how long term friends and families have been torn apart over politics, Brexit and vaccines etc. These are people who have been in their life, often for many years, and are now no longer cared about. How do people live with that?

Chardy

If it involves a difference of opinion on supporting the poor, the disabled, the old, the vulnerable, then I do dislike those who disagree with me.

Exactly Chardy. Uncharitable people aren't those I like as friends. I'd extend that to any form of bigotry (racism, homophobia, ableism, transphobia etc).

If it involves a difference of opinion on supporting the poor, the disabled, the old, the vulnerable, then I do dislike those who disagree with me.

No, it’s another way of communication and surely we must learn form others as we all have different ways of thinking.

I wish people who try to tell me what I think, how I feel or what I meant would tell me my decision on tonight's dinner.

It was is a very spicy chicken dish and it was somehow too hot to manage and very tasty at the same time.

I need to let my husband know before he goes to the shop lol

Bluecat, there are a few American anti vaxxers on the philosophy group I go to. One of them is amusing and to the point, another is obviously a mouth for Rupert Murdoch. I like to keep up with what they are saying and I quite like one of them.

I like people who can inform me and correct me if I am wrong, if they understand what they are talking about. I like people who ask me how I feel about something and don't presume they already know how I feel--that is usually someone who presumes everyone feels the same.

I like to debate and go to philosophy groups. I enjoy others' arguments especially when they are brief and knowledgeable and it's great if they make jokes too.

Who just wants an echo chamber?

Wow you just want an echo chamber. What happened to broadening your horizons and exploring what other people think ?

Differing opinions leads to interesting conversations, as long as what’s said doesn’t offend the other person. I do though think to start a conversation with a stranger on politics, religion or race not advisable

when i meet someone i decide within about 10 mins of talking to them whether i like them or not, i have been like this since i was young, i would never not like someone because they have a different view on something, even people i do not like i will still be polite to.

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I don't do arguing with people...it is a waste of energy and causes stress

My daughter and me disagree about ca lot of things. After a heated debate. We agree to disagree. Wouldn't life be boring if we all agreed with everyone.

I try and get on with everyone and I accept that others may not feel the same as I do about some things. One of my oldest friends has completely different ideas politically to me but that doesn't make me like her less in any way.

That is actually a really complex question. (In a good way) I would like to say no but it’s difficult.
In general, it is no, I am a vegetarian but I still I respect people who make a choice not to be. I am an environmentalist so I walk a lot and do all I can do be green, but I still get on with people who drive and are not so green.
However, I am kind and belive in helping the community and there are people who don’t, I find it hard to respect those people. There are people around here who fly tip, or who allowed their dogs to poo and not pick it up. Others who ride bikes on pavements and shout at people to get out their way. People who refused to move their bag on the train or stand up for an older person or pregnant lady. These types of people tend to have other unpleasant values it doesn’t happen in a vacuum, so, no I don’t like their choices or their values, so I don’t tend not to bother to get to know them, so in the end I find I don’t like them . If that makes any sense at all.
If someone disagreed with my answer that would be fine but if someone was nasty or mean in disagreeing then no I wouldn’t respect or like them.

My friends & I have subjects we disagree on but others where we are in agreement. I don't suppose everyone has the same views on everything as friends and family.
I have changed my mind about some things after listening to the opinions of friends.

TBH I think I would find it hard to feel warmly to someone whose attitude to Brexit did not align with mine.

I don't mind people disagreeing with me. I enjoy a friendly debate. I would only dislike someone who disagreed with me if they had ugly extremist, elitist, or racist, homophobic or sexist views.

''Do you dislike people whose values or views don't align with yours?

Or do you dislike people purely because of how they speak to you, differences of opinion aside?''

NO! dislike people who will not admit they are wrong. I never argue with anyone. I state my view and let them have their say. After a while of this I simply say ''Oh well we will agree to disagree'' BUT some people cannot leave it there and will insist their view s totally correct even when its obvious to me they are wrong even when presented with facts.
Arguing is pointless and Id rather be happy than be right.