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From our own correspondent - Selling your children

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Lucca Sun 31-Oct-21 09:39:31

Calpurnia I heard that report too and was so shocked and upset.

Granniesunite Sun 31-Oct-21 09:28:14

Its the one small act I feel I can do is to support financially.

I have the greatest respect for those who put their comfort and safety at risk to help their fellow man in these dangerous countries.

A uplifting post Sago.

MerylStreep Sun 31-Oct-21 09:22:06

Not shocked, but very saddened.
This trade has been going on for eons. My friends were offered children in Yugoslavia in the 1980s.

Grammaretto Sun 31-Oct-21 09:19:21

While I agree there is nothing we can magically do to change the culture, and the idea of going out and proselytising is abhorrent nowadays, I do think that it's a slow road to a better life and every small thing we can do, we should - such as supporting charities/people who are bringing aid, education and stability to these places.

8 of those poor children who survive will probably use less of the earth's resources in their lifetime, than one child born in the affluent West.

Someone I know was adopted as a tiny baby from a Chinese family in Southern Asia. She was their 8th girl child and the family were persuaded to part with her. She has grown up happily and successfully in England and has since visited her birth family.

Sago Sun 31-Oct-21 08:57:46

My son worked with the Jesuit missions in India when he left school, he was teaching and caring for Dalit children who had been sold into bonded labour, the Jesuits buy the children back and educate them.
Young Dalit men and women are now graduating from university and teaching their own.

He went one day with a priest to “ kidnap” two young girls of appx 13, they had been sold as temple prostitutes and were to be involved in a ceremony and handed over to the temple.
A concerned relative tipped off the Jesuits who rescued the girls, by the time they were 18 they would have had a baby a year to numerous different men.

The girls were taught to read, write and learn to sew, there are thankfully many similar charities working across the globe to help these children and young people.

Granniesunite Sun 31-Oct-21 08:23:35

I haven't watched this particular report but yes im aware of these atrocities takin place around the World.

Im in awe of the reporters, aid workers, all the people who put themselves out to raise awareness of these issues in the hope help will be found.

Mans inhumanity to man alive and kicking right enough.

Calendargirl Sun 31-Oct-21 08:00:47

I watched a similar report, if not the same one. I agree with Urmstongran though, there is nothing I can do. They have too many children for a start, and cannot afford to keep them. If they were being sold to be adopted for a better life, that would be understandable, but sadly, not the case.

Urmstongran Sun 31-Oct-21 07:56:09

No it would just depress and upset me. What for? What good would that do in the long run. I can’t change anything the Afghanis do. Having 8 children when times are so fraught would be my starting place for education and change. But these village women are not privy to education and are controlled by their men folk. It’s one messy bowl of spaghetti out there. I wouldn’t know where to start. Sadly. I do feel for these mothers but that’s not going to butter any parsnips.

Calpurnia Sun 31-Oct-21 07:48:51

I was listening to “From our own Correspondent” hosted by Kate Adie on Radio 4 on Saturday afternoon.

One of the Correspondents was reporting from Afghanistan on the shocking situation where parents are being forced to sell their children to be able to survive.

One parent had sold one son for the equivalent of £600 saying he had no choice as he had eight other children. The money would keep the rest of the family for a while but presumably when the money ran out he would be forced to sell the next chil and so on.

Another parent who was interviewed said the baby held in his mother’s arms was to be sold. The mother looked on “with a mixture of anger and resignation”.

Another had a six month old daughter who was lying in a crib. Once the child was walking the man who had bought her would be back to claim her, intending the baby girl to be the future bride of his son.

I listened in total shock. The horror of being forced to sell your child to be able to survive.

The Correspondent did say at the beginning of the interview that she did not believe the reports of child selling - until she started interviewing parents and realised the problem is so widespread and far worse than she could have imagined.

Please do try and listen to this programme. I am sure it will be available on the BBC websites.