Tactless remarks.

When doing my family tree I was put in touch with two distant cousins I knew nothing about and after emailing for a few months one of them and his wife came to visit.
His wife was very self assured and was telling a tale about visiting someone when she said “ they lived in a very ordinary house” and looking around said sniffing “ just like this one really”.
I have never been invited to visit theirs.

My ex husband had an affair with the barmaid at the golf club where my dad was also a member. I asked my dad what this woman was like. He said she wasn't much to look at , pause, but she had good boobs ..... sigh

Said in a very loud voice when I told him that the dishy new barmaid was my sister. 'But you don't look alike at all. She's gorgeous!

16 yeas old, and I had just received my first pay packet. Feeling so grown-up I carefully chose an ornament as a gift for my mother. I proudly handed it over, only to be told that I shouldn't have bothered, because she had enough things to dust. I was heart-broken. Even now, 66 years later, I can still remember how upset I was at her tactless remark.

I went into work one morning after having had my hair cut and styled. A co worker from another department walked past my desk and said ‘oh Folkestone you’ve had your hair cut’. Yes I replied - there was then a pause before she said ‘ it does not suit you’ and walked off!

An older fellow singer in a concert party when I was 17 came back to the dressing room , took me aside and said
“I heard someone in the audience say that plain girl should put some lipstick on”
The same ‘colleague’ much later viewing my ruby engagement ring
“Oh, just garnets, my mother gave me similar, but I lost it”

My sister when visiting us what a lovely little house you havd

I have a brown haired daughter and one who is strawberry blonde..When they were about 8 and 11 years old they went with a friend to visit her uncle ...on meeting my daughters he said “they are never from the same father “! The younger one tearfully asked my husband if he really was her dad !

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On telling my MIL I was pregnant with DC3 my MIL then said what did you go and do that for …I was speechless I think she probably thought because I already had one of each I didn’t need another child

When he was about five years old, my youngest (of three) made a comment about how of course he'd been a mistake.
As he was a planned and much-wanted member of the family I asked him why he thought that.
Apparently my daughter (eight years old) had told him that as we already had her and our other son, it was obviously the case. I was so upset to think he'd been feeling that for however many years!
I never did decide whether my daughter had "worked it out" for herself, or overheard someone else's tactless comments, but youngest child was really happy to learn he was a wanted baby after all ?

I used to be asked how I felt being the only daughter that got ginger hair, you would of thought it was a disease. I'm the lucky one now as they are all grey and I'm still hanging onto my red mane.

Teaching a class of 6 year old children about dinosaurs. Cue Child X looking me straight in the eye and asking, "Were you scared of them?"
My mother brought DS and I up by telling us that I was the clever one and DS was the pretty one. That's stayed with me all my life. DS's self confidence is sky high and mine below the floorboards.
MIL, on the birth of DD2 who it took us 10 years to have, 'Oh, I so hoped she'd have long legs like DD1.'

My Mum never had anything good to say about much, including our appearance. One time my sister was dressed up to go to an event and was very happy with her outfit.
Mum's comment? "I shouldn't really tell you this, but you do look quite nice."

My Granny would finish a meal that Mum had cooked and say in a surprised voice, "That was quite nice really."

I think the idea was that we didn't get big-headed ?

I was showing a friend around my new home. She looked at my sofa and said “Oh we need a new sofa too”.

I was 14 and achingly self-conscious as only a girl of that age can be. We were at a family get-together and during a lull in the conversation my grandmother, who was sitting at the opposite side of the room looked at me and bellowed ‘she’s got a good big leg on her’. (Just the one? ?) Now granted I’ve never had slender legs but they aren’t anything out of the ordinary. I wanted the ground to open up as everyone looked at my good big leg.

I have enjoyed reading all the above posts. I’m sure there is enough material there for a sit com series!

BIL takes after MIL. When I had to tell him that I had to have chemotherapy he said, "You'll lost your hair!" he sounded excited about it. When he had to go through chemo a few months later I resisted the temptation to say the same to him.

My mum was queen of the barbed comments. I remember sending her a photo on a day out and it was “you look … well. Maybe it’s your coat”! But the one that really shocked me was when I sent her holiday photos of my sons (her grandsons) and she complained that I had cluttered up the scenery with “people”! Other gems: I sent her a bouquet of flowers and she told me not to bother as she had nowhere to put them. I honestly don’t know why I bothered. I was probably used to it. After all, she’d explained time when I was a child that she preferred the male gender. Couldn’t abide women.

Chocolatepudding - so sorry xx

When my DM was terminally ill and had to go into a nursing home, my DH spent a lot of time and effort clearing her bungalow and sorting out her finance. When I explained to her what he'd done she replied, "I'm beginning to understand what you see in him now."
We'd been married 25 years by then!

@chocolatepudding. I’m so sorry for your loss ?

Tactless remarks from those who just don’t think before they speak can be quite funny if you can shrug them off, hopefully with amusement. The only other way is to launch right in, as I do sometimes with ‘and whatever does THAT mean?’!

Tell me about it! Substitute 'older sister' for 'brother'. I got my own back later in life: after my dad died (much too young) my sister fell out big time with our mum. I never did find out why; my sister and I are estranged and she didn't turn up at mum's funeral.

When daughter was expecting no 2 I went to the hospital appointment with her and her husband so that I could mind the baby.When we got to the consultants door she stood in front of me and said, you can't come in to the examination, you'll have to wait in the corridor.
I was amazed that she would think I was going to barge in and watch!

We had a very low key registry office wedding when we were teenagers. A few years later when my husband's sister was getting married my MIL showed me the wedding dress and said 'you could have some photos taken wearing this after the wedding as you didn't have a proper dress for yours'

My parents sadly developed dementia in their final years and dad in particular would say whatever came into his head very loudly at inappropriate times. Sitting in the doctors waiting room with him a chap came towards us who had obviously lost an arm 'oh look at that poor b*****' was out of his mouth before I could distract him!!

Probably my own mortifying moment was when a new woman started at work. She said she thought she knew me from school and I said I don't think so - I'm only 21. She looked daggers at me and said so am I!!

In Milan I bought some very expensive ,brightly coloured gloves. My friend said I looked ready to do the washing up.