Tactless remarks.

MissAdventure

Oh, so many!
An elderly man in a care home buzzed for help, and when I went in his room said "Oh, thank god it's you! I was worried it was going to be a dollybird".

MissAdventure much the same happened to my daughter who is a very young looking 46 year old practice nurse. She called an older lady in for an examination. She came into the room with a look of relief on her face. ‘Thank goodness’ she said ‘when I saw your name on the door I thought you were going to be young’!

Jaylucy not a lot unlike my late but sadly missed husband, when after the wedding and on honeymoon we were discussing the day of the wedding.I asked if he liked my dress.Not what I expected H then replied 'the bridesmaids looked nice'
{hmm} I declined to comment and to learn tact was not to be one of my new husbands best points.

Wheniwasyourage- first xmas after i married my younger husband (now ex) his relatives gave me a gift pack of oil of Ulay! (As it was then called) Cheeky moos!??

Yammy
When I had our second child, a boy, DH brought DD in to visit and after they'd gone, one of the nurses remarked that it was a pity that I'd had one of each because he wouldn't be able to wear DD's hand-me-downs.
She felt quite sorry for me!

On our wedding day a relation said in front of DH and his younger brother well DH was in front of the queue for looks and to his brother you were in the front for noses and got the persons behinds as well.

The one that really hurt was after the birth of the second DD my mother in law said she wanted a rugby team and I was giving her a ballet troupe and she wasn't buying anything as they could wear their sisters old clothes. One of the Dr's said don't have another one I have three girls and even the dogs a bitch.

A friend of my father who I worked with always asked after my older sister by saying “ how’s the good looking one” always really annoyed me.

Whilst working as a concierge travel agent I booked a very wealthy client an overnight trip to Zurich so she could visit her Swiss bank. On her return she moaned and moaned about the poor interest she had earned on her account and then added it's but OK for you as you haven't got any money,

This same client on learning I had just been diagnosed with osteoarthritis said I should get a second opinion followed by "no I suppose not - you're just NHS" Couldn't say anything in either case

We were considering selling our house and moving to be nearer to our DD and family when she told us that "f we moved near to them, we were not to live in their pockets!" This made the decision for us and we stayed put. Ironically , she has since said on many occasions that we were nearer so that we could help out with the DG.

After my MIL's funeral lunch, my brother was taking mother back to her care home. She said " This has been nice. We will have to do it again sometime. No comment was needed.

My dad asked my 10 year old son to show him "your finger that your mummy cut off".... (They were meeting for the first time in several years.) I had nipped out the front door to put some washing out on the line and my son, then aged 3, had thought I'd gone shopping without him and went out the front door which promptly shut on his hand, neatly removing the tip of his 3rd finger.... I was not impressed by my father's idea of a joke about one of the most traumatic times in our lives....!!!

I was telling a relative only last week, that my recent blood test results had not been good, I’ve had a second bout of cancer and they’re monitoring any reoccurrence through blood tests, because of this they’ve brought my appointment with my consultant forward from next February to next week, her reply was “oh that’s good then, at least they’re keeping any eye on you!” Then turned her back on me to talk to someone else…. I had thought up until then that we had quite a good friendly relationship!

Our son married abroad so on his and his lovely wife came back to this country to live I cooked up a big buffet meal to introduce DiL to the rest of the family. SiL walked in, took one look at the food and said “It looks wonderful. DiL must have been so busy!”
Gobsmacked wasn’t the word!

MIL, master of put downs. Her classic on visiting her one day old granddaughter in hospital "What a beautiful baby" and turning to me, "You have surprised me" !!

When I was in hospital just before having my DD the midwife asked me what I would call the baby and I told her the two names I would use depending on the sex. When my DD was born she said thank goodness it is a girl because I love that name. She went on to add that she had a particular dislike of the name I had chosen for a boy. 14 months later I was back giving birth to my DS and thankfully she was not around as we gave him the name she abhorred. Now my DS is a father and my DGS has the name she hated as his middle name and I love it.

The one that sticks in my mind was related to me by a "friend" I worked with. She told me that the staff member who had just left had remarked to her that I must have been very good looking when I was younger.... I was only just over 50!

A few of you have mentioned remarks made about children' s looks. I had just given birth to my first daughter, when my sister said ' she shouldn't have a pretty name like Karen she should be called Sally. I think it is cruel to make remarks about children's looks.

These comments have brightened my day ???

Loads of those tackless or just rude comments and usually we don't have a quick come back but DD1 told me of a lovely one.

She SiL and DGD went to his brothers wedding and the Bride said to DD 'Oh M is really pretty" DD came back quick as a flash and said "yes and she's bright too :-) wonder how we managed both" and walked away.

The - bright too - was in reference to past questions from his brother and then GF (now ex wife) about how did DD and SiL get the house they have, the jobs they have etc "when you clearly aren't very bright".

When DD was telling me she said I was so proud of myself that I had a come back and wasn't just standing there looking like an idiot with my mouth open.

Not often it happens but a very good come back.

My son was just being delivered, my 2nd child and 2nd son. Midwife handed him to me with the words 'oh dear its another boy, never mind you're young enough to try again'!! I was besotted with my son from first glance so I was upset at her comment. I was hurt that she could even think it.
2 years later I was back in having my 3rd ....a little girl. I dreaded seeing her as I didn't want her to think she'd been right ?

DH died a year ago, after a very traumatic three years due to illness and dementia with harrowing psychotic episodes. On mentioning recently to a friend how difficult a time it had been, he said, “ Oh well, water under the bridge now.” All I could say was, “ Never!”

At my first wedding (only had two) my mothers 'friend' fancy man more like, (my dad was at it two) so they deserved one another - anyway this man said to me ' you aren't half as pretty as your mother was at your age'. Nice thing all done up in my wedding dress, I needed that I can tell you!

When my DH went out for a drink with my dad just before we got married, my dad told DH that he didn’t see what had attracted him to me. My MiL told DH just before we married that to keep in mind that it wasn’t too late to change his mind. It could be said that DH was the most tactless, as he didn’t have to tell me any of this. He also told me that his mum said I was plain.

Visiting friends one evening when I was 8 months pregnant, this old man who was also there was commenting vehemently on the state of the world at that time ( 1967) announced that he would never bring a child into this world as it was. I left shortly afterwards in tears.

Someone once said to me, “Oh, so you’re the one with the husband with naughty eyes.” I was shocked, but many years later he had an affair which ruined my life. So she was right all along.

I was deputy principal at a school and conducted a detailed kindergarten orientation day for new children and parents. I was then showing the parents around the school and explaining all the facilities with my best enthusiastic manner when a parent asked who would be teaching the new kinder children . I replied that it would be Mrs X and myself to which she replied “Oh, I was hoping she’d get someone young and enthusiastic”!