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Beswitched Wed 05-Jan-22 13:14:15

A friend's daughter is home from France for a few days with her 2 year old son.

Friend arranged to meet a couple of us for coffee so we could see grandson. He was a cute little fellow but quite shy. I played with him a bit and pushed him on the swing while granny went to the loo.

Other friend wasn't hugely interested in the child. She wasn't rude or anything. She remarked how like his mother he was and asked a couple of questions but just wasn't gooing and gaaing over him.

Grandmother has just texted me sounding quite offended that friend didn't pay much attention to her grandson.

But to be honest, this friend isn't really that interested in children other than her own when they were small. I know a few people like that, and that's just the way they are. They're perfectly nice people but other than a few polite questions, they're not bothered about other people's babies.

Just wondering, I suppose, if any of you found that your interest in your own children didn't necessarily prompt an interest in anyone else's?

LtEve Wed 05-Jan-22 20:43:06

MissAdventure

Now if I knew someone had a kitten, I could hardly contain myself from knocking at their door and asking if I could take a peep.

I'm the same with puppies or any dog really.
I only like tiny babies because I apparently have an uncanny knack of getting them to sleep, I must be really boring.smile

foxie48 Wed 05-Jan-22 20:50:34

Nope. No interest in the slightest but I love puppies, kittens and foals. I'll stand to watch foals playing for hours and love being asked to bottle feed my neighbour's kids (baby goats). I would never be unkind to children though and loved my own when they were babies, toddlers etc although I would never want to work with small children, I enjoyed working with teenagers.

MissAdventure Wed 05-Jan-22 21:10:18

Kittens, and parrots, here. smile
Not actually here, but they are what I love.

Blossoming Wed 05-Jan-22 21:12:43

Yes, a baby is such a precious thing so I am always happy for people who have one and will willingly admire them,

Millie22 Wed 05-Jan-22 21:15:12

I'm imaging kittens and parrots together! Kittens are playful and fun.

sodapop Wed 05-Jan-22 21:18:12

I'm interested in the children of close friends but that's all. Certainly don't want to spend time looking at endless phone pics of other people's grandchildren. I don't inflict mine on others either.
Like foxie8 I wouldn't like to work with children.

Woodmouse Wed 05-Jan-22 21:30:22

I've never been interested in babies/children but I adored my own and enjoyed being a mum. I'm not in the least bit interested in other peoples children. Strange that.
PS. I would fight tooth and nail to help any child who I thought was in danger.

Nonogran Wed 05-Jan-22 22:17:05

I’m not in the least interested in others’ offspring or grandchildren. I’m polite but apart from the occasional short interaction I’m circumspect.

Hetty58 Wed 05-Jan-22 22:31:46

I do like children - but I'm really not fond of helpless small babies (find them quite creepy, in fact) so no, I don't want to hold them or fuss over them. I'll try to make all the appropriate comments, though, just to fit in.

Urmstongran Wed 05-Jan-22 22:38:01

I think many of us have probably been a captive audience at some time for the eager granny who whips her smartphone out at the table and proceeds to swipe right. If we are lucky it’s only for 3 or 4 photos....

Ravelling Thu 06-Jan-22 05:27:42

No, but I’ll look at pictures of your grand dogs all day long.

Beswitched Thu 06-Jan-22 09:17:25

Yes I don't like the endless phone photos. One or two are fine, although I often can't even see the child properly and just have to murmur politely.

DiscoDancer1975 Thu 06-Jan-22 09:20:40

I would be the same as your friend to a degree. Naughty children do put me off being too interested to be honest. I’m more likely to take to them if they’re well behaved.

Chewbacca Thu 06-Jan-22 09:26:54

I'm really not fond of helpless small babies (find them quite creepy, in fact) so no, I don't want to hold them or fuss over them

Nor me. One of my friends had one of those baby reborn dolls and that was really strange to look at.

Anneishere Thu 06-Jan-22 10:18:27

As a young woman I was never the type to fuss over a baby apart from my own lol. However, as I have aged I find myself drawn to babies and toddlers! I love them! I could sit all day and just watch them - not necessarily always having to interact - but just look at them especially the toddlers how they interact amongst themselves - each with their own little characters. I am at my happiest when amongst small preschool toddlers and animals who just live in the ‘now’! ? Maybe it takes me away from adult worries and stress and problems of everyday life ?

inishowen Thu 06-Jan-22 11:25:07

My friend of over 50 years has no grandchildren. I have four. She tells me she finds it so boring that grandparents expect her to be interested in their grandchildren. She never was a child oriented person, more into animals. I make a point of rarely mentioning my grandchildren in her company.

pascal30 Thu 06-Jan-22 11:27:16

so agree..Rosalyn69

Allegretto Thu 06-Jan-22 11:30:39

I love babies and welcome a cuddle, but would never ask to hold one in case the parent preferred not to have their baby held. However, if I’m offered a cuddle, I’m very happy. I also love older children and teenagers, and spent my working life with young people. I’m not remotely interested in animals (though I would always be kind to them) and I hate when any animal wants to make friends with me.

Naninka Thu 06-Jan-22 11:34:57

I adore babies, toddlers, teens, the lot. They are far more interesting than adults and so non-judgemental.
Most adults bore me - GNtters excepted!!!

eazybee Thu 06-Jan-22 11:36:37

I like other people's children and would be quite happy playing with them in pre-arranged meetings.

What is annoying me increasingly is a regular zoom meeting between a group of friends when two grandchildren constantly interrupt conversations and show off, and one adult child who apparently has been sitting out of sight but listening to everything we say, sniggering and repeating our conversations to her friends.
Her mother thinks it is funny.

Grantanow Thu 06-Jan-22 11:47:54

To be honest, no but sometimes have to fake it to keep the peace.

Lyng17 Thu 06-Jan-22 11:56:40

Depends on the child really. Some are lovely and responsive. Others don't want to interact, in which case in would show a polite level of interest.

Beswitched Thu 06-Jan-22 11:58:58

eazybee

I like other people's children and would be quite happy playing with them in pre-arranged meetings.

What is annoying me increasingly is a regular zoom meeting between a group of friends when two grandchildren constantly interrupt conversations and show off, and one adult child who apparently has been sitting out of sight but listening to everything we say, sniggering and repeating our conversations to her friends.
Her mother thinks it is funny.

How annoying. Are they all from the same family? If so I think I'd start a breakaway zoom group.

tictacnana Thu 06-Jan-22 12:01:05

I enjoyed teaching early years when I was younger but not really interested in other people’s babies , only my own.

Silvertwigs Thu 06-Jan-22 12:02:26

Absolutely Beswitched, I can’t stand kids full stop! I had one & vowed never to go back, have 2 GC the girl 19yr old lives with me. She drives me mad?