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Are you interested in other people's babies?

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Beswitched Wed 05-Jan-22 14:19:56

I love babies and toddlers but once they get to the 5-6 age range I don't find them as adorable (apart from my own family).

minimo15 Wed 05-Jan-22 14:18:22

Not at all unless they have 4 legs, Whiskers & Fur!

GagaJo Wed 05-Jan-22 14:15:37

I'm with you SueDonim. Find teenagers hilarious (the age range I teach). Toddlers leave me cold.

Oopsadaisy1 Wed 05-Jan-22 14:12:12

I love babies in arms, but not interested in children or GCs of others on first meeting, I think you have to get to know other peoples children before you can become easy with them.

AGAA4 Wed 05-Jan-22 13:55:19

I do like small children and babies belonging to other people but not so keen on them when they get to the cheeky stage.
Not everyone is interested though and it shouldn't be expected.

SueDonim Wed 05-Jan-22 13:48:42

I like a small baby to cuddle, I find them endlessly fascinating to watch. Once they start to display a mind of their own, I go off them. ?

I am polite about friends GC, of course, but I’m not a gushy type so would find it hard to fake that.

People do have odd ideas, though. Because I have four children people always think I wanted to be a teacher. I can’t think of anything I’d want to do less! I do not have the patience to do such a demanding job. I’m very thankful that other people do want to teach.

I must say, I do like teenagers, they’re huge fun and so interesting!

silverlining48 Wed 05-Jan-22 13:48:33

Being polite I try to show interest especially but not really bothered any more than I expect anyone else to be super interested in my two Gc.

Hithere Wed 05-Jan-22 13:46:17

I am but I respect the parents' rules.
I hold baby if they ask me if I am interested.

Sounds like that gm is overinvested on the gc, not a good thing.
The friend not interested in kids did nothing wrong

Blondiescot Wed 05-Jan-22 13:44:19

No, not in the slightest - unless they're the four-legged variety!

Rosalyn69 Wed 05-Jan-22 13:43:27

Not interested in the slightest and I certainly don’t want to be given a baby to cuddle.

JaneJudge Wed 05-Jan-22 13:38:45

I like babies and children too but I think your friend is being a bit over sensitive but maybe it's not about the friend and the grandson, maybe it's about not being able to see one another for so long, maybe the anticipation they may not have been able to visit and your other friend not being that bothered was just someone to project on iykwim

FannyCornforth Wed 05-Jan-22 13:37:43

No. And please don’t show me a flipping scan.
It can be very upsetting

dogsmother Wed 05-Jan-22 13:36:20

I love to interact with the little ones…. In fact my voluntary role is with pre school and babies. This may have something to do with the fact that I’m still waiting for my own gc to arrive and live in fear of none ever appearing.

VioletSky Wed 05-Jan-22 13:34:08

I absolutely love children but don't think others should have to feel that way

Ailidh Wed 05-Jan-22 13:32:39

I hope I feign appropriate interest in other people's babies, although it can get a bit tedious when people assume that the old spinster Must be desperate to have a hold of something wriggly. (Yes, I admit I came across Gransnet some time ago and thought it was for grans by age not just by biology. I have seen that others' views vary, so mostly I just sit quietly, not rocking boats).

I genuinely like small children though, at the talking stage.

Whitewavemark2 Wed 05-Jan-22 13:30:21

Not really, but if a baby is in trouble for whatever reason I would fight with everything I had to help it.

Germanshepherdsmum Wed 05-Jan-22 13:29:49

Son that is, I don’t have GC yet thank goodness.

Germanshepherdsmum Wed 05-Jan-22 13:29:19

He can’t be GJ, mine is!

GagaJo Wed 05-Jan-22 13:26:59

I fake it for other people's children. Whereas I think my DGS is the son of god.

Germanshepherdsmum Wed 05-Jan-22 13:26:46

Not remotely interested in hearing about them or seeing photos.

MissAdventure Wed 05-Jan-22 13:24:55

Not in the slightest.

Peasblossom Wed 05-Jan-22 13:24:18

I like other peoples children. I think they’re fascinating, just not babies.

I like when they can talk ?

When they’re younger I try to show a polite interest, mar ch like the friend you mention, I expect ?

Katyj Wed 05-Jan-22 13:23:21

No not particularly interested either, I like looking at their photos, and hearing about them. Everybody is different my mum adores all children and they her.

maddyone Wed 05-Jan-22 13:20:17

I’m not really very interested in other people’s grandchildren, but I always look at photos and so on, and make appropriate remarks. I wouldn’t expect other people to be particularly interested in my grandchildren either.

Beswitched Wed 05-Jan-22 13:14:15

A friend's daughter is home from France for a few days with her 2 year old son.

Friend arranged to meet a couple of us for coffee so we could see grandson. He was a cute little fellow but quite shy. I played with him a bit and pushed him on the swing while granny went to the loo.

Other friend wasn't hugely interested in the child. She wasn't rude or anything. She remarked how like his mother he was and asked a couple of questions but just wasn't gooing and gaaing over him.

Grandmother has just texted me sounding quite offended that friend didn't pay much attention to her grandson.

But to be honest, this friend isn't really that interested in children other than her own when they were small. I know a few people like that, and that's just the way they are. They're perfectly nice people but other than a few polite questions, they're not bothered about other people's babies.

Just wondering, I suppose, if any of you found that your interest in your own children didn't necessarily prompt an interest in anyone else's?