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travelsafar Tue 01-Mar-22 08:10:58

My only surviving brother spent the day with me yesterday to help me sort out the old garden shed and put things in the new one. He was a god send, we managed to completely empty the old one and he filled his car with things I would not need. He will go through it all and dispose of at his leisure once he gets home. Like most men he knows where to sell on useful items and when to just take to the local dump. He also put up a shelf, refixed the seat on the toilet, moved a cupboard and did various other jobs I was unable to do. He will return in a couple of weeks to help me sort out the spare bedroom which has become a bit of a junk room and I can't face doing it alone. It was great to cook a meal for him and to have someone around the house to chat to. I made him a fruit cake to take home as its his favourite. It was a lovely day. smile

skate Wed 02-Mar-22 11:44:10

I am lucky too. I have a lovely younger brother who despite being disabled and living 50 miles away would come and help me at the drop of a hat if I needed him. When he visits he does all those little jobs I can't manage and takes all my clutter to charity shops or landfill for me. I don't drive so even though it's tiring for him he will drive me wherever I want to go. He's neither young nor fully mobile, yet he does all this with a willing heart. In return I feed him up with roast dinners and crumbles - his favourites - and always send him home with goodies. So comforting to know he is there. Lucky me.

Lulubelle500 Wed 02-Mar-22 11:53:16

I second that! My older brother is one in a million. Never interfering, never judgemental but always there. I was a bit of a wild child (hard to imagine now, but the times were crazy then, as well as wonderful) and he always picked me up. And never told my parents who I adored but they were relentlessly good, and would never have understood how I could be so different to my sisters. Now he has dementia and is fading daily, and I am bereft.

HannahLoisLuke Wed 02-Mar-22 11:56:29

What a lovely post.

Onthemoors Wed 02-Mar-22 11:58:08

So nice to hear of your valued relationship with your older brother. I had a loving older brother too, but sadly lost him a few years ago. I have been affected by his loss & think of him every single day.

Esspee Wed 02-Mar-22 11:59:30

I have an older brother, well he was born 3 years after me but he's now 70 and as I can't possibly be in my 70s he has now graduated to being my big brother.?
After my husband died he used to help with the heavy stuff like pruning trees and putting up curtain rails even though he lives 200miles away.
Now I have a new OH he devotes a lot of time to helping out his wife's 3 sisters.

Family can be such a blessing but we usually hear of family problems on here. It's refreshing to know so many of us appreciate our lovely relatives.

timetogo2016 Wed 02-Mar-22 12:06:06

What a lovely read Travelsafar.
I bet your brother loved spending time with you and helping out too.
Thank you for sharing.

jaylucy Wed 02-Mar-22 12:08:17

It's actually my younger brother that is always willing to give a hand- the older one usually has an excuse why not or won't be home anyway and certainly from March to October he is a distance aay doing warden duties for a caravan site!
I think I came in handy for him when in my teens seeing as most of his girlfriends were friends of mine (I say were because several didn't want to know me after dating him !) Sadly I never dated any of his mates because I was just seen as his kid sister so off the availability list!

missdeke Wed 02-Mar-22 12:17:15

I never had an older brother but I do have an older sister. Another godsend! whenI had cancer she was the one taking me to and from the hospital, when I was shielding she was the one who made sure I had everything I need. I do have children and they would always help if they could but 2 live too far away and the other 2 have very busy lives. so thank goodness for all sisters and brothers.

luluaugust Wed 02-Mar-22 12:17:22

I only have a younger brother who is willing to help if asked and is good to my children and grandchildren.

JdotJ Wed 02-Mar-22 12:22:23

Very jealous as I don't have siblings, only me hmm

Blondie49 Wed 02-Mar-22 12:25:11

Fabulous post - I do envy you as an only one and no relatives left and AC live far away, friends are great but not the same. I’m so happy for you and him and his fruit cake ?

Twopence Wed 02-Mar-22 12:35:45

I would have dearly loved to have a brother, yours sounds so lovely Travelsafar. Alas I was an "only" and sadly we have no children. I have a brother-in-law and his wife and though they would do anything to help they live a long distance away. DH has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease and I'm finding it hard not having family nearby, not that I would want put upon them, but just for a bit of support and a face to face chat.
Sorry just having a difficult day.

PipandFinn Wed 02-Mar-22 13:23:49

Ahhhh that's so lovely 'travelsafar'. Very heart-warming to read....Thank-you ?

win Wed 02-Mar-22 13:29:02

Brothers are wonderful I so miss mine

Kate1949 Wed 02-Mar-22 13:31:58

What a lovely post about your lovely brother travelsafar. I have three sisters and a brother who is two years younger than me. I am very close to two of my sisters.
However, my brother is amazing. He lost his 16 year old son, my gorgeous nephew, to leukemia after two years of horrendous treatment. A few years later my brother's wife collapsed and died in front of him aged 49. Last year he suffered a massive stroke and had a heart attack in the ambulance. Thankfully he has recovered well.
He is positive and upbeat and I have no idea how.

nandad Wed 02-Mar-22 13:35:19

Lovely to read this and the joy it exudes. Enjoy his next visit, and don’t forget the fruit cake.

Lupatria Wed 02-Mar-22 13:36:21

i could do with an older brother. i have only one brother, younger than me, but he lives in florida - not very useful.
i do have a very good partner who does all my heavy work apart from gardening but unfortunately he's working seven days a week at the moment so he's got no free time.
so the jobs are mounting up as i can't afford to get someone in.

Nandee Wed 02-Mar-22 13:59:28

I lost my only younger brother to covid last November and it's been very hard. We didn't get on well growing up but had become much closer as we grew older. He was so supportive when my late husband died and was so happy when I met and married a widower.
Very sad now when I heard of family estrangement and Fallings out. Its so true we don't always know what we've got till it's gone.

Sawsage2 Wed 02-Mar-22 14:00:41

I had a lovely brother 14 years older than me but lost him to motor neurone 5 years ago. I also have a brother 4 years older than me who, as I'm disabled, would help up to a point if asked.

Kate1949 Wed 02-Mar-22 14:08:55

flowers for those who have lost brothers. I lost one too many years ago aged 24.sad

Grantanow Wed 02-Mar-22 14:17:29

Men are a great blessing , especially when handy like your brother. I'm afraid getting an electric screwdriver isn't enough!

weeducky Wed 02-Mar-22 14:20:27

Cherish him, I lost my older brother a month ago.

LauraNorderr Wed 02-Mar-22 14:20:41

Twopence flowers

sazz1 Wed 02-Mar-22 16:32:57

My brother died at 50 from a massive heart attack. He was on drugs for most of his life which left him with a learning disability, mental health issues and heart damage. He did have 10 years drug free thanks to the Salvation Army who worked endlessly with him and found him sheltered housing.
I have 3 sisters that I see regularly but don't think any would help us at all in times of need.
My DC have always been there for us though. You are very lucky OP.

Lindylou23 Wed 02-Mar-22 16:46:11

How lovely, my husband has cancer in hospital having an operation,when I phoned his older brother he said thank you and put the phone down, that was 2 weeks ago and have not heard from him or his wife, she goes to church every week no compassion there.