Pamper parties for children

I'm not keen on the idea, but accept I'm an old fart.

Ditto bibbity

Wow a lot of posters here are showing their very outdated, misogynistic and dangerous views. I'm so thankful the next gernaertions a better educated and wiser.

FYI I pedophiles dream is a child. They don't give a damn what that child is wearing. Just like all predators they want opportunities. Maybe research the "what were you wearing?" Exhibit. Let me give you a hint it's rare to see any clothes that are deemed attractive or skimpy

We don't do girls in our family - just boys!! I am a 75 yr old granny but meet up for coffee regularly with a group of mums I made friends with when DGS started school nursery. I don't want to detract from this thread but a couple of the mums have been chatting about their daughters baby dolls. Given that these girls are 12yr old and about to start secondary school I thought it a bit strange. The dolls are life sized and baby-gro's, etc and moses baskets are being bought for them. Has anyone else come across this?

The sexualization going around in this thread is very sad

Adults sexualize situations, kids dont

I agree with grannygravy13

Germanshepherdsmum

I hope you’re right there GG. I don’t share your views.

No problem Germanshepherdsmum

Our only DD was and is what can only be described as a horse mad tomboy.

With four elder brothers she was always dirty, grazed knees or covered in horse dung/hair. She did have a couple of pamper parties when in junior school, now maybe one/two manicures a year.

I hope you’re right there GG. I don’t share your views.

This thread appears to be to be a classic example of adults assuming that children think the way they do.

Pamper party is not a gateway to Page 3 or beauty pageants it is innocent fun.

BlueBelle

Grannygravy a small child copying a bit of nail varnish is hardly the same as a 7/8 year old having numerous pamper parties which only encourages her or him to believe that outward appearances are the only important thing in life and not only that that but unless they are in with these parties and the in crowd of self adoration they will not be one of the popular children
Let them run, jump, get dirty, tear their frocks as the climb the trees, let them live as mucky pups and not put all their minds on material things
I think those that approve are NOT looking at the bigger picture

Having a pamper party does not mean that children are now excluded from climbing trees and getting dirty.

It’s 2-3 hours of fun

I think it sounds like a lovely afternoon for the girls!

I am in stitches. I paid the deposit for my daughters pamper birthday she will be 6.

It's obviously child friendly everything. She is absolutely exactly.

Grannygravy a small child copying a bit of nail varnish is hardly the same as a 7/8 year old having numerous pamper parties which only encourages her or him to believe that outward appearances are the only important thing in life and not only that that but unless they are in with these parties and the in crowd of self adoration they will not be one of the popular children
Let them run, jump, get dirty, tear their frocks as the climb the trees, let them live as mucky pups and not put all their minds on material things
I think those that approve are NOT looking at the bigger picture

my sons have manicures and pedicures and shaves etc and foot spas
what are you all on about? and we are not a manicured family!

Germanshepherdsmum

A child though GG? I’m all for men having clean, well kept hands - but a child having a manicure and nail polish is a step too far for me. My son always has clean and well kept nails, which he has always done himself.

I had a manicure two weeks ago, my 2yr old GS wanted pretty fingers so he picked a bright green varnish. One coat and it was complete gone in two days.

No harm done, but one happy GS.

A child though GG? I’m all for men having clean, well kept hands - but a child having a manicure and nail polish is a step too far for me. My son always has clean and well kept nails, which he has always done himself.

I think the real problem is...when you’re a young parent, you have no concept of how short childhood is. It’s only when you look back, once the children are adults, and realise that was no time at all.

So why on earth shorten it? They have plenty of time to be adults and do adult stuff. Realistically, we could have our children double the time as adults, as we had with them as children.

Let them be children as long as you can.

Germanshepherdsmum

I would have been a bit worried about my son if he had wanted nail polish or a foot spa.

Times are changing, there is absolutely nothing wrong with males having a manicure or pedicure.

Nail varnish is not compulsory.

I would have been a bit worried about my son if he had wanted nail polish or a foot spa.

why can't boys have foot spas or nail polish?
I am confused

why is having a foot spa or nail polish sexualised?

I would assume such a party would exclude boys, our children always had a mix at their parties.

9 going on 19,not a good idea imo.
Let children be just that,they grow up far too quickly without this rubbish,again imo.

Spot on BlueBelle. Each wants to outdo the last. Surely taking a child and a few of their friends to see a film and have a burger isn’t an everyday thing? If so there are parents out there much better off than I was. Going ourselves was a treat. Taking some friends was an occasion.

Agree BlueBelle. This sort of thing started years ago when mine were small. Mostly they just amused us. The only ones that were a complete no no....were swimming pool parties. Our children went to all sorts of these event parties, but never wanted one themselves. They said you lost track of whose birthday it was, and could actually be quite boring.

We did all the traditional stuff. Parties at our house, games, food, fun. Everyone knew whose birthday it was. Can’t beat it in my opinion.