M0nica
Given the poor quality of care and care homes you get put into when you wriggle out of paying your care fees by putting your assets out of reach and rely on the LA to fund your care, just leaves me hoping that they have a nice long stay in care during which they can contemplate how much more comfortable and happier they would have been if they had not been so venal and their children so greedy, and had paid for the care they could so fully afford.
It’s not just that, either. Being self funded means you can choose the time and the place, rather than being dependent on the tender mercies of social services, who will typically (and understandably, because of the cost) wait until family doing their best to care - especially in the case of dementia - are on their knees with stress and exhaustion, before considering residential care.
When I was a regular on a forum for carers with people with dementia, I read of someone who became so desperate, she told SS that if they didn’t do something NOW, she was going to take her parent to A&E and leave him/her there.
Might add that my mother was self funded and the residents of her excellent care home were probably around 50% local authority funded. However it was an Abbeyfield, and I’m well aware that we were very lucky to find a place for her there.