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Synonyms for ‘Fat’ that aren’t Cringeworthy…?

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FannyCornforth Thu 12-May-22 09:55:39

Hello! smile
I am fat.

But I do not like saying ‘I am fat’.

But neither do I like ‘curvaceous’ (probably the best of a bad bunch); ‘cuddly’ (bleugh); ‘curvalicious’ (give me strength); or the word de joure ‘thick’ (confused)

Can you think of any acceptable, non-cringe words for not being slender? Because I can’t

Thank you!

FannyCornforth Sat 14-May-22 14:30:44

Not to mention a deep rooted prejudice as to what equates attractive. And focussing on the negative.
Sorry, I could go on all day! smile

FannyCornforth Sat 14-May-22 14:28:56

Blondie It’s lack of empathy and poor emotional intelligence.
No imagination or insight as to how others’ circumstances might differ from their own

Blondiescot Sat 14-May-22 14:23:34

Thank you, FannyCornforth. Don't worry, I've got a thick skin (to go with the thick everything else, lol), but it does worry me that people can be so judgemental.

FannyCornforth Sat 14-May-22 14:18:20

Don’t let them win Blondie!
Remember - only one poor comment so far.
Don’t focus on small, silly negative comments.
You are magnificent ?

Blondiescot Sat 14-May-22 12:43:22

Paddyann54 - I expect your daughter feels much like a friend of mine who suffers with a kidney condition which from time to time flares up and requires her to take powerful steroids. Unfortunately, these make her blow up like a balloon, and sadly, she's often had to cope with very unkind comments because of this - 'oh, you've fairly piled on the weight since I saw you last' and worst. People have no idea what others are going through and should try to remember that.
I'm fat - yes, there, I said it - there are probably a number of reasons which have contributed to my weight gain, none of which are anyone's business but mine. But comments like those made by songstress are unthinking and unfeeling and only make people like me - who already have self-esteem which is at rock bottom - feel even worse about ourselves.

rockgran Sat 14-May-22 12:06:15

Sturdy.

effalump Sat 14-May-22 11:58:32

Paddyann54. Sorry, I zoomed straight down to the comment box. I omitted to speak of those like your daughter who, through no fault of her own may have a weight issue. I would imagine yourself and the rest of your family are trying to build her confidence as much as possible but I also hope she gets some help from the medical profession to see if the meds she's on are, or not, contributing to the issue.

FannyCornforth Sat 14-May-22 11:55:51

Effalump yes, I am comfortable with it.
And yes, I know that there are more things to be worried about; not that I’m worried about it anyway

FannyCornforth Sat 14-May-22 11:53:29

Oh Paddyann , I’m so sorry.
thanks for you and your daughter.
The good thing is that it is the one, lone thoughtless comment on the thread

effalump Sat 14-May-22 11:51:08

I've been around 2.5 stone overweight for bet part of thirty years. I have recently given up sweets (except for 85% chocolate). I've also given up biscuits, buns, cakes, etc. but caved in over bread although I eat much less of that than I used to and I've now lost 10 lbs over three months. Not a huge amount but I'm not trying to break any world records. However, I call myself 'overweigh'. I've also called myself 'fat'. It is what it is. these names don't offend me in the slightest as they are true. I would also call myself an 'oompa-lumpa' a funny sort of 'fat' name. See the reality of it and do something about it. If you are comfortable with your size then that is great too. I life, there is really much more to be worried about.

paddyann54 Sat 14-May-22 11:47:47

Songstress I'll be sure to pass that onto my chronically ill daughter whose weight has soared due to medication.

She never got used to folk in the street telling her she was fat and if she lost weight she wouldn't need her BlueBadge.

Sadly she would as her joints pop out of their sockets with
out giving her an hours notice .Why are people, even mature people on here so judgemental .
She doen't need to worry about people being horrible on the street now ,she's bedbound.

Soozikinzi Sat 14-May-22 11:40:18

Well covered ?
Chubby ?
On te chubby side?

Chrissyoh Sat 14-May-22 10:03:22

The Middlesteins -Jami Attenberg - really enjoying it . brewcupcake

Chrissyoh Sat 14-May-22 09:55:48

In the book I’m reading a man describes a 20stone woman as “lush “. smile

BoadiceaJones Sat 14-May-22 09:33:36

My mother was an obese smoker who lived to the age of 96.

FannyCornforth Sat 14-May-22 09:22:52

Thank you Songstress

I won’t bore you with my existing ‘health problems’ or the reasons for my fatness, unless of course you’d like me too.

But I’d be interested to hear the ‘advice’ that fat folk such as I need to be given?

Do you think that there is anything that we don’t already know?

I rather think that you may have answered your opening question ‘what’s wrong with the word fat!!’.

In some peoples minds Fat goes hand in pudgy hand with its flabby bedfellows, Lazy and Ignorant.

Blondiescot Sat 14-May-22 09:15:11

songstress60

What's wrong with the word "fat"!! We have an obesity crisis and people need to face up to it. If you are overweight you should be made aware of it because it leads to health problems. Too much pussy footing around, and it doesn't actually help overweight people in the long run. Don't dress it up. If people are fat they need to be told about it and given advice.

Wow, judgemental much!

songstress60 Sat 14-May-22 09:01:39

What's wrong with the word "fat"!! We have an obesity crisis and people need to face up to it. If you are overweight you should be made aware of it because it leads to health problems. Too much pussy footing around, and it doesn't actually help overweight people in the long run. Don't dress it up. If people are fat they need to be told about it and given advice.

Gran16 Sat 14-May-22 08:32:35

I say I'm built for comfort, not speed grin
and if you're larger you're harder to kidnap grin
It's certainly a minefield when you are 'plus size' isn't it. I remember quite a few years ago losing a lot of weight but still plus size and MIL said well done but overheard telling her son that 'her clothes hang off her now' you can't win!confused
I do like the word voluptuous though! thanks

ooonana Sat 14-May-22 08:00:47

How about bonnie

queenofsaanich69 Sat 14-May-22 06:57:08

Perfect,we are all different,with a few extra lbs you can fight any illness.

Lauren59 Sat 14-May-22 05:45:57

My grandmother used to say she was “big as the side of a barn”.

Lauren59 Sat 14-May-22 05:43:43

Big and beautiful, big-boned, large framed, rotund, fluffy ??

Hetty58 Sat 14-May-22 01:18:26

My (chubby, curvy, large, plump, matronly) friend - just says she's a 'big girl'.

I'm thin (skinny, a rake, bony, sticklike, weedy etc.) but like to say I'm slim! Why is it associated with being weak, when, in fact, I'm very strong?

Kpnuts Sat 14-May-22 01:02:59

voluptuous