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Things you think can make you look older than your years!

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Audi10 Mon 23-May-22 13:17:30

While having a discussion with two friends this subject came up! They were saying the way some people dress can look a bit matronly! I was saying but it’s not all about dress sense I think having a positive attitude and a smile makes you appear happier so therefore younger, it’s not always about how a person dresses! What do you gransnetters think!

Callistemon21 Mon 23-May-22 20:48:02

I probably have similar items, sorry pieces, in my wardrobe but she looks chic whereas I look like a sack of potatoes in mine.

Hers look designer, though, and mine aren't

lixy Mon 23-May-22 21:28:35

Not just clothes.
10 minutes on Zoom convinced me I was older than my mum. My reasoning was that she had subdued lighting.

The thing in my life that makes me look older than my years is my passport photo, and, sadly, it was taken 8 years ago!

Audi10 Mon 23-May-22 22:28:52

Oh I’m loving this thread! It’s making me really laugh some of the comments! I didn’t realise pale pink nailvarnish or sketchers were aging ??

Bellanonna Mon 23-May-22 22:29:40

Mine is my bus pass, lixy, Just hope I never lose it, and someone posts it on our local Facebook.

NotSpaghetti Mon 23-May-22 22:34:55

"If we wore them at our age, we'd look like our own grandmothers." Gaga
gringrin

Florencelady Mon 23-May-22 22:46:58

Could get very depressed here. I wear no makeup ( usually have a slight tan) sketchers/ flowery dresses with no sleeves and much more objectionable stuff!! I do mind my hair though. However l get lots of compliments, feel great and even my dd who is very direct with me says its all OK.
So l will pretend not to have read half of that. Sometimes when l meet my friends l try to remember afterwards what they wore and realise l haven't a clue as we were so busy chatting. Here's hoping they don't remember either.

Callistemon21 Mon 23-May-22 22:55:12

Audi10

Oh I’m loving this thread! It’s making me really laugh some of the comments! I didn’t realise pale pink nailvarnish or sketchers were aging ??

Me neither, Audi10
And, frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn!!

Nothing worse than those women who eye other women up and down with a slight curl of the lip. They are probably very unhappy.

Callistemon21 Mon 23-May-22 22:58:12

I do mind my hair though

My claim to eternal youth - I don't dye my hair ?
grin

JenniferEccles Mon 23-May-22 23:01:04

Never mind all the ‘what not to wear’ going on here, to my mind the most ageing thing of all is poor posture.
It can creep up on us all and if we’re not aware, can become a habit.
Lots of older folk, men and women, walk in a stooped way with their head jutting forward, so it matters not a jot what they are wearing, the posture immediately shouts old person.

Obviously some poor folk have a medical problem which affects posture, but for the rest of us, if we remember to stand up straight, it can take years off us.

Kate1949 Mon 23-May-22 23:06:09

In my head Kate as she used to be. Slim, tight leather skirts, barely black tights, suede stilettos. Fabulous shoes and coats. Knowing what's what. Chatted up everywhere.
Kate now in reality - fat tum, flat shoes due to bunions, a coat with a hood in case it rains, Blood pressure tablets. Unsure about everything. Not sure how that happened.

M0nica Tue 24-May-22 07:57:06

Callistemon it is more that someone who looks really good catches the eye. And JenniferEccles is right about posture. I have a cousin, in her 80s, very tall and slim, perfect posture and always draws the eye. What does she wear? I really cannot remember, but she could make a binbag look stylish.

Vintagejazz Tue 24-May-22 08:30:05

I started off enjoying this thread and a lot of the posts are gently humorous or self deprecating in a witty way.
But some have a rather nasty superior edge.

Kandinsky Tue 24-May-22 08:51:32

Jezz you can always tell when you’re on gransnet.
Crimplene? ? wasn’t that last used in the 60’s?
Although a young pretty woman would still look good in it.
Any woman over about 50 becomes pretty much invisible so doesn’t matter what you wear.

J52 Tue 24-May-22 08:52:55

Not strictly on topic of dressing, but further along our road there is a sheltered housing complex.

However, the road sign is situated outside our house! ?

J52 Tue 24-May-22 08:53:28

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MawtheMerrier Tue 24-May-22 08:56:42

Pickpockets at work?

M0nica Tue 24-May-22 08:58:51

A quote from Jane Austen (Northanger Abbey)

Woman is fine for her own satisfaction alone. No man will admire her the more, no woman will like her the better for it. Neatness and fashion are enough for the former, and a something of shabbiness or impropriety will be most endearing to the latter.

Although, nowadays, I suspect it is the men who will prefer the 'shabbiness and impropriety' and the women who will go for 'neatness and fashion'

And Kandinsky I do not agree that women over 50 are 'pretty much invisible'. I think many women over 50 make themselves invisible by thinking they are.

MawtheMerrier Tue 24-May-22 09:03:12

I do think that colour makes a difference- dark indigo denim jeans for instance rather than beige “slacks” , or that pastel green one used to see elderly ladies in. White near the face too seems to reflect the light and lift your look.
I wonder if we become more timid about colour as we get older? Ironic, really, as a head of white hair can carry off just about any colour . You only have to look at the Queen recently in that zinging yellow coat at the opening of the Elizabeth line or the pink she wore yesterday to Chelsea.
I have a sneaking fear that floral patterns may be a no-no too, shame as I have a couple of floral shirts I like , but if you like what you are wearing and wear it with confidence, who else should it matter to?

lixy Tue 24-May-22 09:05:32

Having read most of the above I looked at the things in my wardrobe this morning.
Comfy? Yes. Modest? Yes. that'll do for me.
I have some things that are decidedly frumpy but they work for me and so they stay on the rota!

Love the 'pickpockets' interpretation! Mawthemerrier

Germanshepherdsmum Tue 24-May-22 09:11:47

I’m certainly not invisible! But I would be if I got a neat Queen-style hairdo or a short back and sides, chucked out the makeup and wore head to toe beige and Hotter shoes. My neighbour, who is younger than me, ticks those boxes and looks 10 years older. Very invisible.

Kandinsky Tue 24-May-22 09:16:24

Invisible to the opposite sex I meant.
Isn’t that why women once they get to a certain age ( & men for that matter ) try to look younger? To still look attractive to the opposite sex?
Why bother otherwise?

FannyCornforth Tue 24-May-22 09:22:46

I’ve just had an extremely quick look at the ‘chic at any age’ blog.
She undoubtedly looks lovely.
But it’s a reminder that you need to know what your colours are (ie your colour ‘season’)
I’m an autumn, and can also get away with some winter colours too; but I would look awful in that lady’s colours. (Summer?)

Germanshepherdsmum Tue 24-May-22 09:25:29

For oneself. I’m certainly not trying to attract another man (one’s enough!) but I try to look my best every day, whether I’m going out or just doing housework or gardening. Self esteem and not ‘letting myself go’.

Witzend Tue 24-May-22 09:27:08

I do think posture can make a big difference to how you’re perceived, assuming you’re not affected by mobility/health problems.

A colleague once told me how she’d mistaken another colleague - seen some distance ahead - for a really old lady, purely because of the way she was walking. We were all only very early 60s at the time.

Since then I try to remind myself to walk and stand ‘tall’ - and I’m thankful that I’m still able to.

annodomini Tue 24-May-22 09:38:05

if you like what you are wearing and wear it with confidence, who else should it matter to? Exactly what I was thinking, Maw. If you feel comfortable you can forget what you're wearing, and just be yourself. At this moment, I am wearing a pair of plaid pyjama trousers,a red fleece and sheepskin slippers but when I've had a shower, dark indigo jeans and a hyacinth-blue top plus a pair of trainer style shoes. Comfortable and non-age-specific.
But a word about cosmetics. Lipstick leaking into little lines around the mouth is worse than no lipstick, but a primer can help. Mis-application of blusher looks like a warmed-up corpse. Go and get a lesson at a make-up counter in John Lewis.