Not being looked in the eye when talking with someone

Germanshepherdsmum

Has to be stated on a marriage certificate of course.

That wouldn’t affect one’s career (!) and nowadays a UCAS form, or UCCA as I think we knew it, would favour the humbler the occupation over the more “professional” as I understand many universities seek to prioritise first time family members’ applications.

I imagine that not making eye contact in a job interview could seriously affect your chances of getting the job. I appointed the chap with eyes looking in different directions who I mentioned above because there was obviously a physical cause and he clearly did his best to make eye contact. Had he not had this obvious condition and simply didn’t make eye contact I would not have appointed him. So yes, this does affect career prospects but I am still wondering about this form asking about one’s father which apparently hampers your prospects.

Mine
That myth was debunked some years ago.

www.smithsonianmag.com/science-nature/myth-busted-looking-left-or-right-doesnt-indicate-if-youre-lying-1922058/

VioletSky

I am terrible at eye contact, too much or too little.

I dont think it means anything about people being engaged and interested in talking to anyone

Same here VioletSky. (Love your name, wish I had thought of that myself)!

Has to be stated on a marriage certificate of course.

Germanshepherdsmum

On which forms have you been asked to state your father’s occupation?

UCAS 1969 here, IIRC.
Nothing since...

StarDreamer

Indeed.

Whole careers can be affected by such things that are not related to a person's achievements, like asking "Father's occupation" on forms. If they ask, they take it into consideration, consciously or subsconsciously, because they know.

Otherwise, why ask?

Oh we’ve heard this complaint before!
I don’t remember what answer the poster gave at the time -census return perhaps?- but that was the first I had ever heard of it and suggested a inferiority complex or mammoth chip on that persons shoulder .
When have you encountered this question OP?

On which forms have you been asked to state your father’s occupation?

Indeed.

Whole careers can be affected by such things that are not related to a person's achievements, like asking "Father's occupation" on forms. If they ask, they take it into consideration, consciously or subsconsciously, because they know.

Otherwise, why ask?

Gosh! And all these years I didn’t realise I had to look into someone’s eyes when they speak or when I speak to them and now I have to smile as well?

I wish someone had told me this 70 years ago.

I think somebody is overthinking this don’t you?

Buffyfly.... The person to whom you are speaking to looks to their left...

My neighbour never looks anyone in the eye. I find it most disconcerting, but she is a perfectly nice woman. She works as a classroom assistant so I've always wondered how the kids know who she's speaking to.

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I think I would have to alternate, just to confuse the lying person as they too may be aware of the looking left theory.

If you are both left and right handed and a lying person, which side would you be looking at, left or right? Or would you alternate?

And no need to apologise for being pedantic. You have come to an appropriate thread?

I take your point ixion but that applies to arms not eyes.

What if you're ambidextrous?

Mine...... that's interesting. I shall be looking out for that now! At the risk of being pedantic is the lying person looking to their own left or to the left of the person in front of them.? I'm left handed and nearly everything I do favours the left. That is a bit worrying as I like to think I am a very honest person.

I don't judge, lots of reasons why people avoid eye contact. If I speak to someone who is unable to make or maintain eye contact it does' nt bother me. I carry on chatting and smiling.

Bubbe

I have to look at people's mouths as I need to lip-read.

Yes. Though my deaf niece seems to be able to look at a whole face! She has what some might find an alarmingly alert face but I guess that's how she manages.

Redhead56

I used to think it was shifty but there are conditions now that were not discussed years ago. I would ask someone to take their sunglasses off when talking to me when I was younger don’t ask me why.

I now have self-tinting specs which I wear all the time. Apologies in advance but taking them off every time I talk to someone on a sunny day would be tiresome in the extreme, though I'd understand why someone might want me to.

Still... living in Scotland, the times when my specs'd be so dark that someone couldn't see my eyes would be few and far between! But even mild shading makes a huge eye comfort difference to me.

I have to look at people's mouths as I need to lip-read.

Doesn’t matter does it GSM the question was just a question and provided some interest

Seek a professional diagnosis- expert advice, not conjecture.
Please.